How do you juggle a career and a newborn and toddler all at once when you have no family to help???
Bet - posted on 04/24/2014
Will I change my mind? I am due to have my baby i July and have also filled out the application to become a state trooper for NJ. Which I qualify for. I have been called for the NJ State Corrections, but the problem is being away from the new born. This is my first baby. I am 33 years old and cut off time for thoes types of jobs are 35 years of age. I choose these types of jobs because I know that there is money in them and job security for my child and I. But to finally have what I have longed for then leave it with my husband for 4-6 months. I mean I'll be home every week end but, I'm already crying about leaving my little monkey home. My husband is a great man, but you ladies know how it is. What should I do. I am seeking other options; I do have a BA in Science of Psychology. I'm just thinking of th job security that we'll have. Hopefully not struggling. As far as my husband, Right now, we can not afford to get him a back surgery or therapy. I had a great job before we got pregnant and got fired for defending myself from someone who tried to hurt me. Now I hava a job that somewhat meet my needs as a per diem tech at a hospital but it doesn't pay enough and soon it wont pay at all being that I was hired when I was 3 months pregnant. I have to take time off to care for my little monkey. (I think thats cute) how will I pull this off. IDK. so stressed knowing that I'll have to go for 4 months for the corrections and 6 months if I am choosen for the state trooper job. Correctons $76,000,00 starting, state trooper $85,000.00 starting
Tracy And Luis - posted on 07/08/2010
Very carefully! :) I agree with Catherine. Being organized is probably one of the best things you can do to make your life easier. After you get the kids to bed everynight, load your car for the next day, set up yor coffee pot to come on in the morning, get everything where it needs to be to get out the door in the morning and having both children in the same day care facility will do wonders for your time.
Kim - posted on 07/01/2010
Working moms (& dad's) face the life-work balancing act when managing career, children and happiness. I see in a recent post, the suggesting of a nanny service, which is an affordable solution for many families. Consider going to your HR employer to inquire about "Corporate Membership Programs" or "Employee Childcare Discount Programs" for their employees, which can be arranged by www.mommieshelpingmommies.net a nanny agency for families.
Alicia - posted on 06/16/2010
I work full time (40-50hours a week) as an engineer and I have a 9 month old and a 26 month old. I went back to work when both of my boys were 6 weeks old. It is HARD to juggle a career, a newborn, a toddler, and everything else with no family around. I live in UT, my husband's family is in CT and my family is in TX. We have found that we would not survive without our live-out nanny. We have employed one since my first was 6 weeks old. She helps us during the day with the boys' laundry, bottles, dishes, and keeping the house straightened up. Without that help we would be buried. So, my recommendation is hire some help. We found our great nanny on a website (www.nannies4hire.com) and highly recommend it over going through an agency. (which we did for the first two nannies). We also once a year or so hire someone to come in and deep clean our house for us. It was a god send the last time we did it cause they came the day before my second was born and I got to come home from the hospital to a very clean house. It is a little pricey but well worth the money.
Alexis - posted on 06/01/2010
Hang in there until your newborn is a toddler and able to do more on his/her own!! (remind me when I get there ;)
I had no help either and it's not easy, I know. But remember...those days will come when the baby will hold his/her own bottle and will be able to walk without you having to be there at every step. By 14/15 months of age, it will be better. Then even better at 18 months and 2 years of age.
If you can afford it, try to hire a nanny/babysitter a few nights a week for a few hours to help out around the house,,,get dinner ready, bath the toddler, whatever.
Since I will be in your the same boat (sometime???), this is what I am telling myself....
Cathrine - posted on 06/01/2010
The best advice I can give is to be very organised.
I work part time have a 1 and 3 year old and remember the stress when my second one was born of getting things done.
I have a great childminder and I believe quality childcare makes managing your career easier.
So organisation, great child care and also trying not to stress the small stuff.
I think you can progress your career, in fact my experience is that work admire how much I get done and then give me things to organise cause they know I am reliable.
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