How does one deal with screaming tan-trums??

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Jessica - posted on 07/09/2009

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We always send our 3 yr old to his room and tell him when he can settle down, he can come out. It has always worked for him. Usually 5 minutes or less later we will hear "I'm ready to come out now" and he moves on to something else. I am still working on the out in public situation - we usually just remove him. That means possibly leaving the groceries in the middle of the store. Sucks, but the audience just enhances the tantrum.

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If I'm at home or somewhere it's not disrupting other people, I just ignore it. If out in public, I will stop doing whatever I'm doing and remove him from the situation. If it starts out mildly, I would get down on his level, look him in the eye and tell him what will happen (no treat, time out, etc.) if he throws a tantrum. Good luck!

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once my 5 year old threw a tantrum in the middle of a crowded mall. I proceeded to do it too. Even threw myself on the ground. Everyone stared. She didn't like it. She asked me to stop. No more tantrums after that

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I usually ignore it if my child starts acting out in such an overt manner. If I'm in a public place, I'll simply usher the two of us out of that area. If I'm at home, I often just walk away and go do something else (assuming the child is not in danger of hurting himself.) Children usually have tantrums as an attention-getting behavior, so the best way to get them to stop (and to discourage them from doing it again) is to deny them any attention.



A related strategy that I've used is that when my son starts crying like that is that I'll just stand there watching him with a neutral expression on my face, and no significant body language, and after about a minute I'll ask (also in a neutral, calm tone of voice), "Are you done crying?" Usually he'll wipe his eyes and say yes. Sometimes he says no, and then I say, "OK" and just wait a little longer. After he stops crying I try to get him to talk to me about why he's frustrated. Then I encourage him to use his words instead of just crying, and hopefully he'll eventually figure out how to do that.



It is essential that you remain calm and (apparently) unaffected while responding to your child having a tantrum. If you get visibly upset, that makes them feel powerful, and reinforces their behavior.

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Allison - posted on 07/11/2009

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We put our 2 year old in his room and tell him (in a very calm and never yell) that when he is done he can come out. And I always tell him I love him. He usually stops with in 5 minutes.

Tricia - posted on 07/10/2009

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I also ignore that tantrums and my two year old will stop as soon as she sees it isn't bothering me. She has not had a tantrum in a long time. It is hard to ignore them, but if my daughter starts getting loud i tell her that i will talk to her when she is done yelling because i don't like it.

Lizzette - posted on 07/09/2009

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usually tantrums happen when they are'nt able to express themselves or cant get what they have... or sometimes they are just exhausted... give them time for themselves... let them cry until they will come to you. sometimes the more u chase them the more they scream coz they themselves donnot know what they really want.so... IGNORE

Marya - posted on 07/07/2009

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I think the best thing to do is to walk away and ignore the tantrum. Stay close so that u can keep an eye on the child. Tantrums are all about gettting attention. You have to let your child know that tantrums are not the way to get your attention.

Tracy - posted on 07/07/2009

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Check out the website www.disciplinemommy.com. Thats how i dealt with it, best $8 i have ever spent!

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