How long did it take?

Tonya - posted on 11/07/2009

i have been back to work for about a year now and i'm still exhausted and still don't feel like i do either one well----home or work......be patient

Jennifer - posted on 11/07/2009

I thought a little more on this and wanted to add that, if you haven't already, you should leave your baby with her alone with dad from time to time. I think some dads feel like they just don't feel like they are doing it right and don't want to make any mistakes in front of you. If he is alone with the baby there is no one else to do it and not only does he have to take responsibility for baby care, but he doesn't have mom looking over his shoulder scrutinizing the way he is doing it. I try to give my husband a lot of time alone with our son and it has really helped build his confidence and gives him time to bond without me looking over his shoulder commenting.

Lynette - posted on 11/07/2009

i was lucky hubby took time off to help with all my 4kids after they were born .now my older 2 have kids of they own i help them out time to time and i work in a school looking after 11 to 18 yrs old

Jennifer - posted on 11/07/2009

If your significant other is anything like my husband he just needs to be told what you need. I went back to work at 6 weeks and it was hard. But my husband is pretty clueless about things. He is happy to help and although I think that he should just automatically know what I need and what our son needs, he does not. So I made a deal with him when I went back to work on getting up in the night. He took the 11pm to 4 am, which made my life much easier. And then I would have to spell out exactly what I needed him to do at night after work. I have to say, the baby needs a bottle-can you make one. Or the baby needs changed, can you change him. Our son is now 8 months old and it is better because he sleeps through the night, but I still have to tell the husband exactly what I need. Good luck...it will get better.

Amanda - posted on 11/05/2009

It took me awhile, all them hormones can kick your butt! When you get a chance for sleep take it! I was lucky and got to be a stay home mom when my kids were babies. Good luck and take naps on the go............

Lizzie - posted on 11/05/2009

Reading everyone's posts makes me feel really lucky. I am working full time and don't get a lot of sleep, but my husband helps me a lot around the house . He takes care of dinner and dishes. My mom lives really close to us and on the few times i felt I couldn't take much more she slept over and took care of my little darling so I could rest. I am really blessed to have her close by

Suzanne - posted on 11/05/2009

gosh triana i think you have gone back to work far to soon, you haven't given your body time to heal, i'm sorry to hear your partner wont help out much, you will be exhausted totally understandable, do you work part time? you should also have a stool at your work where you can sit down when your knee hurts, bless, i would have a little word in your mans ear and let him know how you feel and you should get an extra wee half an hour in bed, get him to help out by doing the dishes and things, you will be upset you're working non stop being a mother is 24/7 and working...just stick at it you will get there in the end hope all works out, take care :)

Amity - posted on 11/04/2009

It's gonna take a while for your body to get used to working 24 hours (seeing how you have a job and then your second job that never ends.) But you really need to get your husband to help at least a little bit at home, you can't do it all.

Holly - posted on 11/04/2009

It gets easier the older they get. Just give it time u will see. Cherish your days off and rest the house work will get done with time.

Andrea - posted on 11/04/2009

Im so sorry that your husband dont help much but i can tell you that if you make a routine and organize your time when you get home it will be much much easier, give yourself a 3 month goal write down let said on sunday night you plan whar are you going to do for a week for example )i dont know what time you get home or if you have babysitter but if you do you should something like:
6:00 get home,,, give baby a bath and let the bay take a nap, while the baby take a nap plan your dinner or take 30 minutes break,yessss a brake like play music ,warch the news, and by the time the baby wakes up you should be able to finish take a bath and go to bed by 10pm i did that so I learn from my mom that you need to create a routine so you can rest and have time for yourself hope it helps good luck

Tracey - posted on 11/04/2009

My daughter is 4 and I'm still exhausted!! Like you, my husband doesn't help too much either plus he's out of town for work 3 1/2 days a week. These dads will look back one day and regret what they've missed..Hope things get better!!

Triana - posted on 11/04/2009

Quoting Dana:

well i'm going to tell u like this. Don't worry about what he doing. Do for u and ur daughter. Get a baby sitter and bring home all the money for u and ur baby. When he see u looking and doing good and want to come up and say somthing. All u have to say is, i have a baby and a job. sorry no time for u. lol

LOL. Ya I have a sitter well its my mom. She moved in with us when we got our new place so she can help out.

Aja - posted on 11/04/2009

well...for me i stay home with my son for a year and then once he turned one i started school for pharmacy and i had to put him into daycare. They were the best i think the most important part is having help thats the key word...help help help...getting back out there is a hard thing without help..it can also be scary and exhausting for both you and your child they are used to having you around 24/7 and now things are changing. My opinion...just give it some time to work out its krinks and everything will fall into place.

PEACE&LOVE

Dana - posted on 11/04/2009

well i'm going to tell u like this. Don't worry about what he doing. Do for u and ur daughter. Get a baby sitter and bring home all the money for u and ur baby. When he see u looking and doing good and want to come up and say somthing. All u have to say is, i have a baby and a job. sorry no time for u. lol

Triana - posted on 11/04/2009

Good luck. Only main problem I have is my right knee. I work at a gas station so I am on my feet. I'll sit down in the back sometimes for a few on top of some 18pk beer cause they are off camera lol. But when I am standing and I bend my knee it hurts. Not sure why. I gotta ask my doctor about it.

Melody - posted on 11/03/2009

Oh man! My baby is 6 weeks old, and I will be returning to work an a few weeks... already upset and anxious!

Triana - posted on 11/03/2009

Thank you so much Beth! I appreciate it very much. He does help out but not as much as I would like. But I really don't mind mainly because I get to be around her more & catch the little things he doesn't. Kinda bad for me to say but I am sure he will look back someday & regret he didn't help out as much. We've gotten into arguments over the fact he wants another baby right now & I responded by saying "No because you hardly help with her". Hopefully one day he will get it. Thanks again! God bless.

Beth - posted on 11/03/2009

It takes a while for your body to adjust. I stayed at home with my daughter until she was 6 mo, and then I went back to work. I think your daughter's daddy should help you out. There is no reason he shouldn't. Just do the best you can during the night when she won't sleep through the night. I found what worked the best for my daughter was a bath before bedtime, cereal in her bottle, and a powdered butt. She would sleep for me from 9 to 6 (at least). It does get better; just remember that. Time flies by when they are this little. You will look back one day and wonder where the time has gone. Cherish every moment with her! Good luck with everything. I hope this helps.



P.s. There is nothing wrong with crying sometimes. I know I did it when my daughter wouldn't sleep through the night, and I would just get so frustrated. Just keep trying!