How many activities is too much for a 5 year old?

Cristina - posted on 09/08/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My son just started Kindergarten, is about to start soccer (which involves practices three times a wekk plus games on Saturdays) and catechism (once a week) but exhibits such potential for dance. I am afraid that if I enroll him in a dnace class we will be spreading ourselves too thinly. I also have evening work meetings and PTO meetings once a month (so some weeks are pretty crazy already). I am a pretty laid back person that also enjoys serenityu with good tv watching and reading. Your feedback is truly appreciated. I don't want to wake up one day and wish I could have done more for my child to unleash his potential.

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Jennifer - posted on 09/10/2009

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don't put pressure on yourself.. this world has gotten so activity crazy.. what happened with playing outside was good enough. i believe that one activity is enough.. we live in such an anxiety ridden world - i think because we all try to do too much.. let him be a kid, with free time to relax and play..

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let him be a kid. he is only 5!! he will have plenty of time to try out different activities to see what he likes. i think on extra thing at a time is plenty for a 5 year old (catechism is good though). he will be in school a good part of the day and home / family time is very important. he will be having homework, and too many activities place stress on kids. kids shouldn't be stressed. maybe let him try soccer (it's not all year long is it?) and let him try dance after soccer is done, and then let him choose what he likes. kids need "downtime" just like we do. you can always just dance around the house with him which would be fun and also include some mommy time!!

Christine - posted on 09/13/2009

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My daughter is going to be 3 in December so I look to my sister for advice since my neice is almost 11. My sis is a great mom so I value her opinion. She lets Carlie try one thing at a time for a season.......if she picks gymnastics, then she does gymnastics for that period. Even if she doesnt like it, she continues it for the time frame and then might pick something else next season. My sister-in-law has her kids in everything imaginable at ages 5 and 10. The kids are awnry and never home. They live on fast foods and their lives are chaotic. Until the child is in high school and can decide how much is too much for them, stick with one activity at a time. They and you will be much happier :)

Flor - posted on 09/13/2009

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activities help a lot in his development and for sure you know that that is why he is in different classes,yet you must remember that he will only be a kid once and you dont want to miss it...bonding moments with you and the whole family play a vital role in a child's life....he can't forget these moments...he will pass the love that he had from you to the next generation

Brenda - posted on 09/12/2009

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If he really has a talent in an area an early start isn't going to make that much of a difference. Kids need to learn to entertain themselves and also need down time. Kindergarten has gotten a lot busier in the past few years. They are expected to be on task and learning the whole time they are in class. I would err on the side of doing fewer activities.

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Cristina - posted on 09/14/2009

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Thanks Christine, your advice made a lot of sense and I completely agree. Sometimes the help of other allows one to put things in perspective.

Gina - posted on 09/13/2009

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Dancing feet offers dance classes without a commitment. You could try it out for a month and see how you like it. If it's too much, when the month is over you don't have to go again.

Cristina - posted on 09/11/2009

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It seems that everyone is so good at everything nowadays and things have gotten so competitive. I just want to ensure my child is exposed to many things because they are all so imporatant in different ways. Thanks for your response...and I agree knowledge is power :)

Dionne - posted on 09/11/2009

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my story is pretty similar my son is five has football practice three times a week and games on Saturday he's team is a traveling team.he goes to math camp during the summer and has a teacher for after school learning and his dad says i havie him doing to much much but knowledge is power

Sylvia - posted on 09/11/2009

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That already sounds like a lot for a 5-year-old to me (not to mention for his parents who will have to shlep him around ;^).

Presumably catechism is non-negotiable (Hebrew school is non-negotiable in our family).

I'm guessing you live in a warm climate if he's starting soccer in the fall (where I live, soccer is strictly a summer activity, and little kids "play" for maybe an hour a week, not more), but does soccer last for the whole school year, or could he do that for the fall semester and then take a dance class for the rest of the school year? That way he'd get to try both things, but you wouldn't have to juggle so many activities at a time.

I wouldn't worry too much about unleashing his potential, because really the best thing you can do to help kids figure out who they are and what they're good at is plain old-fashioned unstructured play time! :)

Good luck with whatever you decide :)

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