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I feel like I am losing it!

Anaelisa - posted on 09/16/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I work 40 hours a week as a nurse. All day long I give and give to families, patients, and co-workers. When I come home I feel like I still have to give and give, with no one ever giving back to me. I am married and have two boys...13 and 6. My husband works a different shift than I do (I work from 7am to 3 pm, he works from 8pm till 4:30am) so I hardly see him. But, I swear, no one will help clean up and keep stuff clean. I am still expected to make dinner every night, even though my husband wakes up 2 hours before I get home from work. My oldest son has chores but seems to always forget to do them, and when he does remember to wash the dishes he leaves them all greasy so I have to re-wash them. And putting him on restriction doesn't seem to help improve the problem. My house is a mess and I am tired, physically and emotionally. How do the rest of you stay sane and maintain order around you?

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Louana - posted on 09/18/2010

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I thought I was the only one! Someone please reply!

Alice - posted on 09/17/2010

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We all try to be Donna Reed remember meeting the husband at the front door at 6 and a nice dinner we all ate together well it doesn't exist anymore we want families and a home and now we're forced to have jobs too.. Don't stress away the only time you have with your family by trying to have perfect or even anything resembeling that Time passes you by enjoy the things you wanted in the first place a home and a family and don't lose sight of that even if the pile of dishes is in the way.... Expect nothing and you might get a lot more...

Julie - posted on 09/17/2010

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HAHAHHAAAA you think the rest of are any more sane than you???? that's cute! Boy do We have you fooled! Alllllll of us have felt like you at one time or another... I remember one time being ecstatic that I got lunches made before 10:30 at night I actually felt like I had it all together that night! You know what the best advice i ever got was? Never make anything more important to you than it is to them... My husband really didn't care if the house was perfect... my kids didn't care if the cheese in their lunch boxes was cut like little bears... and another thing? no one died if I left clean laundry in baskets on their floor in their bedrooms and didn't match their socks for them... Do what is important and go on a little strike..quit picking up the slack...No is judging you.. Live your life the best way it works for you!!!

Jacy - posted on 09/17/2010

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Relax just think at least you don't have a 3 and 1 yr old. that would makes thing a lil harder... just take it as it comes Dnt drive your self nuts.. try starting a point system for the chores your kids do reward them as you wish but remind them its their job.. as for cooking tell them to help you and do it as a family cook enough for 2 day so that give you a day off.

Kirsty - posted on 09/17/2010

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I agree that you should get your oldest child involved with the up keep of the house however i think you have to choose your chores wisely, ones you know they can do and not give them all the chores in the house, maybe have a rota system going for both your boys, that way they know what they are doing and when....and remember to give them their time so they dont feel like they dont have a life! maybe even do one for your husband if you feel you need to. Your youngest should be able to sweep your floors and the eldest mop them, if they cant then show them!!! get your husband to sort the washing when he gets up and maybe prepare dinner for the following night(so you do it a night inadvance) that way all you have to do is heat it up. Your husband needs to wake up and get up and do stuff around the house, if you need help dont be afraid to ask.xx

Nicole - posted on 09/17/2010

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im in the same situation. my husband owns a pizza restaurant and works 10-11 and i work 8-4. by the time he gets home im exhausted from working, taking care of my animals (2 english bulldogs, a kitten and a fish, cleaning the house, getting stuff ready for the following days, playing with my daughter who will be 2 sept 24th., bathing her, etc.. its really hard but try and stay strong. i try and push the cleaning til the weekend. when i have more time. try and talk to ur family and let them know u can't do it all. u need their help. its ok to ask for help. ive learned too and i mean i don't get it but at least im asking so they know if something isn't done than its bc i couldn't do it myself.

Alisha - posted on 09/16/2010

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hhhmm thats a tough one set a time for everyone to have a family meeting explain whats going on ...that's if you haven't done this already... and just say you need help and tell them what you expect i mean its not like your asking for a better homes and garden mag cover just a clean home to come home to teach your eldest to cook easy meals so he can help with that like sketti or mack and cheese or something give the six year old a few chorse like have him help your eldest with dishes or taking out the trash cleaning up his room and the bath room your eldest can clean his room and vacoom the living room sweeping the floors mopping teach them to do laundry uumm yeah your eldest is old enough to know better give a little tough love to him if he has no clean clothes hey heal learn your his mom not his maid i hope this helps and doesn't sound to mean or demanding

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