Lisa - posted on 10/24/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )
My husband and I have only been together for 3 years. We have six kiddos, 3 his, 2 mine and the newest one is ours.. My husband has had issues with control and anger but never has been abusive. His anger has gotten worse since our baby was born 5 months ago. He gets very frustrated with our son very quickly. He has even come to me and talked to me about his frustration and has been afraid of how he may react. He told me recently that he got frustrated because he would not stop crying and he spanked him, with no diaper on.. Our son has recently found his voice and is starting a high pitched squeal when he starts to get fussy and now my husband says he will slap his mouth. He has also yelled at him to shut up and called him names. I never thought I would ever find myself in love with a man who would do this. I am sickened by this and have recently left with my other children and the clothes on our backs. He has never shown any anger or physical abuse to the other children. Do you think I have done the right thing, should I help him get help or just be done and move on?
I just want to thank everyone for your time and compassion.. I have gotten stronger since I left and have stuck to the plan of he has to get help or we don't come home. We are in a different state so we are safe and his kids are with their mom, so they are safe. He is threatening suicide right now if I don't come home, it is really scary but I know it is a ploy, still hard to think about.. He is up and down, one minute going to get help, the next saying horrible things and telling me its over.. He went so far to say I was using our son to get out of the marriage.. I have never been afraid of a man, never been afraid to walk away until him.. I don't understand the hold these guys put on a women, and why it works! Thanks again for all the messages!!!