Adrian - posted on 09/23/2010 ( 77 moms have responded )
My name is Adrian, I have a 7 month old daughter, I'm married to her father, but he's not the man I fell in love with. When I got pregnant last year, me and my husband were just dating at that point. I was about 5 weeks pregnant when we found out. He rushed me to Planned Parenthood and scheduled an abortion for me. The day that I was supposed to get it done, I left the papers at my house, so he left to go get them. While he was gone, I canceled and got our money back. He was furious with me until I landed in the hospital at 30 weeks with severe abdominal pains. Everything turned out to be fine, I just just on bed rest for the rest of my pregnancy. My husband got to the point where he was actually giving me daily massages and rubbing my coco butter onto my belly every night, he was the sweetest guy. 6 days before my due date, Ayla had stopped growing again and my cervix had changed, so they took me to the hospitol and induced me. I was in labor for about 36 hours, which sucked, but it was totally worth it. Me and Chris got married when Ayla was 5 months old. The entire time I've known him, he's been working nights. And ever since our daughter was born he's been acting like a moody pregnant woman. He constantly snaps at me, he's constantly angry. For the small time that he is awake during the day he's playing video games on his computer, and it's been getting worse and worse since we got married... I love my husband to death, i can't imagine being with anyone else, but I'm married, and I'm raising my daughter alone. I have a couple friends who I see every three to four weeks, and they play with Ayla more than her father does. She barely knows him, and she's 7 months. Granted, if it wasn't for his job, I would be no where right now. But I'm going to start working next week for 3 1/2 hours a day, and I don't feel like I can trust him alone with Ayla for that long. He can't stand her for five minutes, but he's the only one who can watch her. I feel horrible saying that, but it's how I feel. I don't know what to do. No matter how much I talk to him about all this stuff, he gets better for a couple days, then just gets even worse. It's gotten to the point where I've actually felt threatened and left for a few days. I don't know what to do. I don't want to leave him, he's my soul mate.... but he's also not the man I fell in love with anymore. It's really hard being married, but raising a child by myself. He doesn't even change her diapers, or help when I'm sick.
It seems that everything he does is focused on what he wants. he doesn't help with cleaning, so our house is constantly a mess, he doesn't do anything. I'm starting to regret marrying him. What should I do? I'm lost.