I need to get my 5 year old to sleep without diaper! anyone any ideas ??

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He is fine during the day goes to the bathroom alone and without any help, however he will still pee in bed..

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Megan - posted on 09/27/2013

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Bedwetting under age 7 is so common most pediatricians consider it normal. invest in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwearhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And it is much less expensive than using pull ups. And use a waterproof sheet protectorhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry. Just relax and give it time. Chances are by 6 he will just outgrow the bedwetting.





However, If bedwetting continues through the age of seven the bedwetting begins to chip away at a childs self esteem. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. A bedwetting alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. My child went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights. Also, a new medical study at Wake Forest Medical Center found that undiagnosed constipation is a major factor in bedwetting as well. So you might want to get the book "Its No Accident" ...http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/...







My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/... . It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made. Lots of positive information about bedwetting at this site www.braveryandgrace.com

Lisa - posted on 09/04/2009

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I think it's important that he realizes it's not his fault. He has no control over his nighttime wetting. Both of my kids wet the bed until age 7 or 8. I finally stopped the bedtime pullups hoping that their subconscious would remember how yucky it was to wake up in a wet bed! It took a while, and I was washing sheets all the time, but it worked. Once they were old enough I made sure they were the ones changing the sheets if it happened. However, I still made sure they knew it wasn't something they could control. It didn't matter if I stopped liquids hours before bed, they still wet. I think it's a maturity thing!

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Pip - posted on 10/02/2013

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I've just recently joined this website. Its probably a bit too late for now, Judith. But all mum's who are looking for a solution. This is what I did...I have two sons and from aged 3 I toilet trained them at night.

1. I would limit their fluid intake at night to less than a qtr cup of milk before bed.

2. Then get them to go toilet half an hr after. Then into bed they go.

3. Just before I go to bed I wake them and take them. I stand the with them say 'shhh shhh' until they wee. Tell them good job. Well done and back to bed.

4. During the night repeat step 3

5. Then as soon as they are up. Toilet.

I did this for about 3-4 days and start decreasing the number of times you wake them up. Losing the middle of the night first. after one week they start getting up on their own. Its tiring but worth it. When you start this there is no nappies at all during the training or thereafter. Let me know how you go :))

Melinda - posted on 09/29/2013

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My son is four and I changed from Pull ups to Goodnights now he sleeps with his underwear on under his pj's. I limit his fluid intake, nothing after 6pm. He still has an occasional accident during the week. I have encouraged him to wake me up to help him go during the night. My guy comes in my room, wakes me and we go. When my guy does have an accident, I gently remind him that it is ok to come into mommy's room for help. When he does make it through the night we do a celebration breakfast. I did tell my guy, once the goodnights are gone, mommy is not going to buy anymore pullups. When my guy does wet through, it is more uncomfortable, and he understands now to get up and go. It is a lot of work, and patience. Good Luck.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/18/2009

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This is what I had to do, My son was seven and still had to wear pull-ups I wasn't sure if he had a problem or was just to lazy to get up. He had been asking for a D.S.lite forever and so I got to thinking It would not take long to pay for its self If I didn't have to pay for pull-ups or washing every other morning . So I cut him a deal If he could go 35 days straight without an accident then I would buy it for him . We had to start over after about three days but after that we never had another problem,it was really nice. I had tried everything before that sometimes bribing them works just find something they really want

Donnetta - posted on 09/07/2009

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Hi Judith,



In my humble opinion, you gotta get rid of the diaper first. I think to a point, he may have come to rely on it at night. If you let him sleep in his underwear and he goes to the bathroom, he'll feel that discomfort of having wet underwear. Also as everyone else has said, limit his drinking and wake him up at night. My son is 5 and I got rid of the pull ups altogether and never went back. He has accidents pretty frequently still but I try to wake him up to go. Good luck!

Anna - posted on 09/07/2009

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I'd play it down. If he doesn't mind, put him in pull-ups for a while. When he's ready he'll stop wetting them. It takes some kids until they're about 7. But they can't do much about it when they're asleep, so if he's up for pull-ups you can just go with the flow and take the tension away. It may help...

Mary Kay - posted on 09/05/2009

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Is he a deep sleeper? My son had the same problem and I learned he had an inherited issue being a deep sleeper. We learned that his father, uncle and grandfather also had the same problem as kids but hadn't talked about it. He didn't get the normal cues during the night to wake up when his bladder was full. Go to website: www.sleepdry.com



It was very helpful for us and it took care of the problem in 3 weeks. I referred them to another family and it took only 1 week!! They offer lots of support and information through the whole process.



Highly recommend them!!

H.J - posted on 09/05/2009

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My little boy had the same problem. I limit fluids after dinner time and started with timed wake ups to begin him sleeping through the night with out wetting (twice a night we would wake him up and make him go to the toilet), he will now get himself up and go on his own.

Betty - posted on 09/04/2009

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I agree its not their fault at all, all our children are loved no matter what mistakes they make as they grow up. We laugh about it now because it was so stinky, my daughter had a problem getting up at night i think she was afraid of walking in the dark. It took time i just hanged in there, youll also be ok just tell them you love them all your heart.

Betty - posted on 09/04/2009

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Hi there, I didnt give my kids anything to drink after 7pm they did well after that, I know its hard but you need to try something, If your child gets thirsty subit with something that will quench his or her throat.

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It could be a hormonal issue that will resolve itself as he matures. Had the same problem w/ son, Dr. told me it would resolve itself by age 7 and it did. Used pull-ups, did all the usual stuff at bedtime to empty his bladder but avoided the drugs. Used mattress protector but also had him sleep on a folded towel and usually didn't have to strip the entire bed if the pullup leaked a little, just threw the towel in the washer.

Chaundra - posted on 09/04/2009

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Talk to your dr. He is not lazy and there is nothing you can realy do about it at home. He is just a last bloomer and that part the body has not developed all the way. This is a med. thing and they have a pill that the kids take before bed that helps.

Pnina - posted on 09/04/2009

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Without question the first thing to do is to eliminate fluids before bed and have him go to the bathroom before he lies down, even if he doesn't think he has to go. If he continues to have frequent accidents, you may be dealing with nocturnal enuresis. This is just the medical term for bedwetting. There are a couple of causes; one being that the bladder is a little too small yet to hold all the urine he makes. This is something where you would likely notice that he goes really frequently during the day, and he will likely outgrow it. The second and more common cause is that he does not produce enough ADH (anti diuretic hormone). This is the hormone that causes him to produce less urine at night. I do not know what the pediatrician would recommend for that specifically, but I can say that many children find relief from that particular problem through Chiropractic care. Many Chiropractors care for babies and children. If your son has an atlas misalignment (which happens commonly during childbirth), the resulting pressure on the base of the brainstem can cause numerous problems, including chronic ear infections, breathing disorders and bed wetting. My suggestion is to change the bedtime habits and if you are still having to deal with pee pee sheets have him checked out by a Chiropractor. Good luck.

Heather - posted on 09/04/2009

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I cut fluids off about 2-3 hours prior to bed time, make sure they go potty right before bed and then sometimes I have had to wake them up once or twice during the night to potty again. After awhile the accidents happened less and less. And you may need to let them have an accident or two with out a diaper. When I was potty training, even the pull-ups gave my son the security of keeping the bed dry that he continued to have the accidents. Once he started going to bed with "big boy undies" there was some middle of the night bed changes, but it made him more aware when he had the urge to go.

Jodi - posted on 09/03/2009

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My daughter and son...i would not give them anything to drink after a certin time...then i would just put them to bed...my daughter had a few accidents but i would just tell her thats fine accidents happen...and have them try to go potty before bed

Amie - posted on 09/02/2009

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We had this problem with my Godson when he would stay over at my dad's house. (I was 15 when he was born.) At around 4-5 he was without a diaper during the day, but always had to wear one at night. We just started making sure he didn't drink anything within a couple hours of bedtime and always made sure he used the bathroom before lying him down. He had a couple accidents in the beginning, but after that, nothing. His parents were amazed because they had been racking their brains trying to get him to stop. It's worth a shot, just remember to keep the mattress pad on just in case there are accidents still.

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Hi Chrissy, I actually have that in his mattress, is the washing sheets everyday that's driving me insane, feel bad though because he gives me that puppy face and says sorry mommy, I definetly try all ur tips. Thanks a million !!

Louise - posted on 09/02/2009

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My daughter is 2 1/2 and form the time she was potty trained she did not wet to bed, but I did as a child. I would suggest limiting his intake of fluids before bed and making sure he goes pee before he goes to sleep. If you try this and he still wets to bed I would talk to his doctor because sometimes childrens bladders to not grow as fast as their bodies.

Chrissy - posted on 09/02/2009

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have you tried mattress protectors? they'll keep the mattress clean and dry, also try leaving him nappy free for a few hours before bed time, try distracting him by a bed story or doing the alphbet song together or something like that, your little'n may nod off without realising he havn't got one on, and then give him plenty of praise the next morning. Hope that helps =)

Chrissy - posted on 09/02/2009

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have you tried mattress protectors? they'll keep the mattress clean and dry, also try leaving him nappy free for a few hours before bed time, try distracting him by a bed story or doing the alphbet song together or something like that, your little'n may nod off without realising he havn't got one on, and then give him plenty of praise the next morning. Hope that helps =)

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