Is it fair to give up your Mother

Terry - posted on 05/07/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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What do you think ( I posed this question on Twitter and there were a lot of tweets)?



Pretty much every year this is how my Mother's Day plays out.



For me Mother's Day is, well, "Mother's Breakfast." Every year my kids 'surprise' me with a 'breakfast in bed' and a few treasured hand-made gifts made in school or on our home computer. They usually jump in bed with me. It's such a special moment.



Truth be told, while I'm not sure that it's exactly the way I may have envisioned the rest of my day, I know it makes my mother-in-law happy, which in turn makes me happy .

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Evelyn - posted on 06/03/2010

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Mother's Day for me is more like Tennecia's!!!I like to have some alone time and let my husband care for the kids at least for once!!!lol

Izelle - posted on 05/31/2010

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Mother's day to me is to celebrate who you are as a mother, who you have become since your a mother and how much you are loved by your children, a love you wouldn't have experienced if you weren't a mother. When you look into those beautiful little eyes and see the appreciation they have for you, that is when you can truly enjoy the blessing of being a mother, I would never spent mother's day on my own without my child, because without her I wouldn't be a mother.

Alison - posted on 05/25/2010

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Tough cookies for your mil.
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." (Gen 2.24)
It's not about her anymore.

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Toni - posted on 12/26/2011

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mother's Day is for all mother's.....do what you want to enjoy and celebrate you! However your mother in law is a mother too and if she wants to enjoy her day seeing her grandkids....I don't see anything wrong with that. It doesn't have to be a lengthy visit, but it doesn't hurt either! I like to spend my morning with y husband and kids, lunch with my mom, desert with my mother in law then home to relax and veg. Make the best of it! I feel that my kids will be grown and have families of their own some day and I will be happy for them to begin their own traditions and memories, but I hope to be apart of it ...lol!

Angelina - posted on 05/02/2011

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This will be my first mother's day since my mom past away. Truth be told, I am terrified I will spend the day in tears.
I usually get breakfast in bed (which usually isn't edible) but this year my husband will be working. Maybe my daughters 13 & 14 and I can have lunch out and take in a movie.

Norine - posted on 06/03/2010

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If you are talking about Mother's day. That's your day it's a Burger "Queen" Day have it your way. If you want a day at the spa alone or with girlfriends let your desire be known.

Meagan - posted on 06/03/2010

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I think Mother's Day is open to lots of interpretation. It can be celebrating other Mothers that you know., it can be just about you...depends on what you want to do with it.

We have brunch with my mother and my sisters (since we are all now mothers ourselves) and the husbands do the clean up. My son always makes me something cute and creative (and he is so proud of his creations) then we relax and do things together as a family. This year we played Bocce Ball and lasso golf. We also planted some flowers in the garden. We went to my MIL's house later that week because she was out with one of her friend's homes for lunch. She too had special plans for her day.

Tammy - posted on 06/02/2010

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We travel every weekend for sporting events from the beginning of April till the end of September with very few weekends off. Mothers day weekend being one of the few. Usually we would have breakfast here at home with me, my husband and our three kids; then head to my grandmothers house for a huge family cook-out. My MIL has passed (RIP) so my husband prefers not to go to his dads on that day.

This year, I requested that we just hang out at home. We went for a family walk. Rented some movies and just hung out. We played board games and watched movies all day.

It was the best day so far this year.......

Emma - posted on 06/01/2010

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I love mothers day. My daughter brings me my card and present wth breakfast in bed, then go and visit my mum and my partners mum. I spend the rest of the time enjoying it with Leah (after all it is down to her that i celebrate mothers day) I do think you should have some you time on mothers day too. Like go to watch a movie or get pampered.

Jolyn - posted on 05/31/2010

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I also think it is a day for our children to do for us as we usually do for them! I will say that if my mother was still alive i'd be with her every Mother's Day! I don't care how old you are never take your time with your mother for granted, cuz she won't always be here for you....

Rose - posted on 05/27/2010

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Mothers day should be what you want it to be. I decided this year, even though I've been a mom for 15 years, that I would spend time with my mom (and my husband would spend time with his mom) before mothers day so that on mother's day we could spend time together as a family. My mom wasn't very thrilled about it because she wanted us all to spend time with her on mothers day but I didn't think it was fair of her to have that expectation just because she is the "matriarch' of the family. We are all mothers in our own right and deserve to spend the day the way we see fit.

Martha - posted on 05/24/2010

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The two mother's days that I have had we just regular days. My first year, husband got me a card. This year he wasn't feeling well so it was like any other day, nothing special about it. My son's day care did a project/picture that I have hanging on my desk. It makes me smile every time I see it.

Janise - posted on 05/23/2010

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My husband doesn't find either Mother's Day or Father's Day to be important at all. He tells the kids not to give him anything for it each year, and that instead of having Father's Day, that we should pick out a day during the year to celebrate him being him (we call it Matt Day). So instead of Mother's Day we celebrate Janise Day.

Sara - posted on 05/21/2010

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Personally, I think Mother's Day is a dumb holiday! I do not want my kids to waste their money on me for Mother's Day. While they are little we can do stuff together, but I do not want to make it another occasion to spend money on junk! I think Mother In Laws need to remember that they dont have little kids any more and their son's have families of their own that trump what ever custom they had when their kids were little. Seriously, if my Mother In Law had her way, my family would spend, Christmas, New Years, Valentines Day, Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day, everyone's birthday, Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, Halloween and Thanksgiving with her at her house, letting her pretend that she is the center of the universe!

Julie - posted on 05/20/2010

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For me, mothers day is spent with my whole family. The kids give me their gifts made at school. My husband five me a gift certificate for a facial or something nice. We call my mother in law to wish her "Happy Mother's day". Then we go to my uncle's for lunch or dinner where all of my mother's family is gathered for the day. Close to 25 people. It has always been that way. I love it.

Tennecia - posted on 05/15/2010

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My idea of Mother's Day is to have "me time" without the "responsibility" that comes with motherhood. I just want to do what I want to do and let dad take care of the kids.

Stacey - posted on 05/14/2010

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if i am understanding your post, mother's day is what you want it to be. for the first time in 14 years i took a vacation to see a good friend of mine in arizona so actually i spent mother's day with her. i relaxed and enjoyed myself. my kids were wth thier father's and that was good for them. that was my mother's break, so that was good for her. so it is your day to do as you please!

Ashley - posted on 05/14/2010

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I used my mother's day for "me time." I think mother's day should be celebratory (gifts/cards/breakfast/etc) and then you get the rest of the day off for a nap or watching a movie.

Susan - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had the breakfast in bed, then I went to lunch with my mother and grandmother and the kids while my husband took his mother to an opera. I then spent the afternoon gardening and moving 3 yards of dirt and rock around. It was a great workout. Who knows what you are supposed to do - just try and enjoy it.

Stacie - posted on 05/11/2010

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yes im supposing it has something to do with bringing the children over to the mother in law?? If it is i think that mothers day should be spent in morning with both mothers and then the rest of the day for you and your children just to keep everyone happy ;)

Tabitha - posted on 05/07/2010

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Sorry, I think there's a gap in your post between breakfast and making MIL happy?

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