Is it ok to start woking when ur baby is 3 yrs old?

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Tricia - posted on 12/04/2009

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I've been working since my son was 6 wks. He just turned 4 in october. He's been goin to a daycare and with his speech IT'S wonderful. He's been talking since a year, said his first word, then full sentances by the time he was 2. been walking since 9 months. knew his abc's and could count to ten by the time he was 2 years old. Just because he was with other children. He's with his third babysitter. first 2 bad news. It's hard but your mom you always know what's best for ur child. but honestly interacting with other children is the best thing you could do with any child. Good Luck and Best wishes

Stacie - posted on 12/04/2009

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My kids are almost 22 and 20. I went back to work when they were 5 & 3. The younger one was much better in school because she developed more social skills faster than the older one who didn't have the benefit of being around other kids. So I say yes by all means, get back out in the work force!!! Hope this helps. :)

Catherine - posted on 12/04/2009

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Its ok whenever its ok for you and your child will be fine. They are far more adaptable than we give them credit for.

Melissa - posted on 12/04/2009

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I wish I could be so lucky as to stay home that long. I'm going back to work when my baby is 4 months old. You're child will be just fine with good daycare, sitter, or family member.

Carrie - posted on 12/04/2009

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Everyone starts back to work at different times depending on their situation. I work on an army base at a childcare center and there are infants there as early as 6 weeks. Believe me when I tell you it is harder on the parents than it is on the children! Even as a baby they love the socialization, play time, and new experiences. They are already learning!

Jill - posted on 12/03/2009

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I am a work at home mom and have been home with my son every since he was born. He is now 3 and a half, but I still want to be home with him. But I believe you do what is best for you. You could also work from home or go back to work if it's necessary.

Ayesha - posted on 12/03/2009

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you can work right up untill your maturnity leave then when it finnishes go back to work,, so your answer is yes, your not abandoning your kid, gives you both a bit of breathing time, and the weekends to look forward to enjoying all the fun things :)

Amberlie - posted on 12/03/2009

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I just started working again and my little girl will be 2 at the end of December......she has actually done extremely well with the change. :) The only thing that has really changed is that she is more clingy when I get home.......I just give her extra loving in the time that I am with her. She seems okay with that.......I hope that helps you....!

Ruby - posted on 12/02/2009

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ofcourse it is i have 4 children and my youngest just turned 3 in november i'm a single mom so i have no choice but to work but trust me its relaxing to get out there and make money girl that pays the bills

Lisa Marie - posted on 12/02/2009

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im back working one day a week at two weeks old! and at 5 months il be full time. do what u can handle

Ainie - posted on 12/02/2009

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My son in 3 yrs old, too. I am even planning to start grad school soon. So it is also good for you child to part with you for a while. Use the time you have with him wisely and don't feel guilty for leaving him in someone else's care for a while.

Linda - posted on 12/02/2009

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I was a stay at home mother until my daughter was 3. It was hard to leave her at day care and it took some adjusting for my daughter and myself. I do believe that it does help both the mother and the child though. The mother is able to help contribute to the income and help to better provide for everyones needs and the child learns to interact with other children. It may be hard in the beginning but if its what you want I say do it!

Leanne - posted on 12/02/2009

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i had no choice but to go back to work only weeks afet my kids where born but my hubby is the stay at home mum lmao after this one is born i have to go back to work as soon as i can but our youngesst is in a home day care for 3 full days a week and she loves it so its all good

Kerry - posted on 12/02/2009

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defo.i went back to work after 3 months.i could not stay at home it would do my head in!!

Jasmin - posted on 12/02/2009

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yeah its ok to work even if you have a 3 year old baby,besides youre doing it for your baby...and it doesnt mean you love your baby less..good luck

Kim - posted on 12/02/2009

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I couldnt wait to get back to work after i had my 1st!....i started back when he was 6 weeks old! They dont know any different and it gives extra bonding time for your partner or family!!

Irish - posted on 12/01/2009

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I'm glad to see all the responses were positive! I have to say, the right time to return to work is less based on childs age and more on both your readiness and your childs needs. My oldest son was 5 when I started working again... he had seperation issues and wouldn't eat if I was gone when he was a baby, then was diagnosed with CP so work wasn't possible with all the appointments. By the time my youngest was 1, I was ready to go back to work, and he really enjoyed time with his daycare friends... each child and each situation is different... if it feels right, go for it!!!! =)

Julie - posted on 12/01/2009

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This is a decision only you can make! Sometimes women go back to work because financially there is no choice, sometimes because it makes them happy and in turn will make those around you happier including your child. Some mom's with an option choose to stay home, work part time, or work from home. Bottom line what ever choice you make, for whatever reason, do not let anyone make you feel guilty...and trust me, there will always be someone that tries!!!

Nicole - posted on 12/01/2009

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Of course it's ok. You have to do what you have to do, and if you want to go back to work just to be around adults, it's ok too.

Alison - posted on 12/01/2009

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3 years is a great time to go back to work. Studies show that children benefit greatly from the presence of their mothers in the first 3 years. After that, children benefit greatly from the type of socializing they will do in daycare. It is great that you have been there for your child for these important years. (I do not mean to put down moms who go to work earlier - I myself am one of them).

All the best!

HOLLY - posted on 12/01/2009

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i was a stay at home mom... for 3.5 years... but I did part time work in the evenings after they went to bed and hubby was home!!!

April - posted on 12/01/2009

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As long as you have someone you can trust caring for your child, there's no prolblem working when your baby is only three. Some moms don't even have the luxury of being able to wait until their child is that old. I had to start earning money for me and my babay when she was in the womb, and have been doing it ever since. It's not always easy, but nothing worth having in life is suppose to be easily attainable. YOU'LL DO FINE AS A WORKING MOM OF A YOUNG CHILD!!!

Pearl - posted on 12/01/2009

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I concur melissa...i had babysitting issues and sent my daughter to a nursery school when she was 12 mnths old where she is in a class for 6 mnths-36mnths olds...she is now 24 mnths and very sociable..interacts well with other children and has learnt to 'listen & follow directions from other adults'...GOOD LUCK

Melissa - posted on 12/01/2009

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I worked part time when my daughter was 8 months old. Even though her my husband watched her, I still felt bad leaving. From another point of view, I taught preschool in a daycare center for 12 years and I think it's great for children age 3 and up to go to a preschool program or childcare so they have interaction with other children and learn to listen and follow directions from other adults, This will help prepare them for school. And even though it's tough to leave them, they really do have alot of fun! Good luck.

Christa - posted on 12/01/2009

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I work from home so I could go back to work when they are one day old if I want; yet still be there for them as well. I love the satisfaction and self esteem boost I receive from accomplishing a goal and meeting a deadline. Plus knowing I am contributing to our family monthly income is great. Yet, if I need time off.....I get it and still have a job!! I love being my own boss; yet having a support system by working with a team as well.

Pearl - posted on 12/01/2009

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yuppp it is!!!!!!!!! i started woking when my daughter was 2 months pregnant...i would hav stayed longer if i had a choice but in Botswana we don't hv an option of stayin home longer than that...but we r given an hr to knock off earlier than evry1 so we cn brstfeed until th baby is 6mnths...lest u find yo job gone.!!!!!!! i expressed milk for th 1st 6 mnths...

Charmaine - posted on 12/01/2009

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it certainly is after my first i went back part time when he was 4months, with my second i went back full time when she was 6months. Like the other girls said as long as you are happy and baby is happy.

Senga - posted on 12/01/2009

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You need to be happy to. If work helps you feel happy as a person then it is right for you. Like Felicity says, noone should make you feel guilty for your decisions and choices. It is ok to be hesitant and feel bad sometimes, we all do, but on the whole, if working makes you happier, then you are a happier mum for your child too.

Felicity - posted on 12/01/2009

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Hell yes! I started working part time when my son was 8 months old and after i had my daughter i went back to work after just 6 weeks. I just couldnt stay home anymore, i went insane. Do what is right for you, dont let anyone make you feel guilty for doing what you feel is the right thing

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