is to old to have a baby at age 33-34?

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Jacqueline - posted on 10/21/2012

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hi! everyone :) ,I got married at age 33 and we are 1 year married still dont have baby yet , what advice can you give in 34 years old woman like to to fertile and get pregnant fast , its good to share thoughts with you

Sylvia - posted on 03/31/2011

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You're kidding, right? I had my DD when I was 28, and my 28-year-old friend and I were the youngest in our prenatal class by at least 5 years. 33-34 is a very normal age for having babies these days.

Actually that's not really accurate -- it was always a normal age to have babies (my great-grandmother had her last 2 babies in her late 30s, my grandmother had my aunt when she was 41, DH was born when his mom was 41 ...), it's just that now it's become a common age to have *first* babies, whereas people used to start younger and have more.

My sister had her babies at 35 and 39. Many of my friends started having babies in their early 30s, and all their babies are just fine. (And so are they.) I just turned 37, and I'm still hoping for #2!

Renae - posted on 03/29/2011

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Well considering the average age in Australia for a first time mother (excluding pregnancies to minors) is 30 and the average family size is 2 kids, and the average age between kids is 3 years.... that means there are LOTS of 33 year old mums! Really, 33 is not old. In fact, it may interest you to know that I read a study (this was at uni in about 1998) that mums aged 30-35 had healthier babies than mums aged 20-25. They thought it was because the "older" mums where more aware of keeping fit and healthy before and during pregnancy. I think in our 30's we have a bit more maturity and can see the big picture so we dont get as stressed out as younger mums and freak over every little thing (not that all young mums do that either). In my mothers group when the bubs were born the youngest was 27 and the oldest was 39, most of us were early 30's.

Toni - posted on 12/10/2012

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hey i'm in the same boat, i got married last nov at 33,we got pregnant and misscarried at 11 weeks 6 days,i'm 34 now and after christmas want to try again, i'm nervous it won't happen or that i'l want it so much that i wil turn sex into a chore,i don't want that, we're still tec newlyweds,would love a child though, my twin sister had a beautiful baby girl in october,i'l get to meet her next week i can't wait, but i am also jealous a wee bit too :/

Emily - posted on 03/31/2011

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If 33/34 was too old, our bodies would go into menopause then. Nope, not too old ;)

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I think it's totally dependent on the mom. If your doctor doesn't think the risks are insurmountable, why should you? That said, I'm a little bit offended that everyone automatically assumes that a new mom who is 33 or 34 would be more patient than a young mom. I was 22 when my daughter was born. She's only 10 months old, but I think I'm certainly mature enough to understand that she's a baby and be patient with her. As kids get older, they require more patience, and I think part of being a mom is growing with our kids.

Nana - posted on 04/01/2011

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No. Mine came when I was 34 and 37 which gave me more time to establish my career and then return part-time when they were in school.

Ashley - posted on 03/31/2011

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But just to point out after reading the other posts that maturity levels are not always linked to ages. I agree there are many advantages to having a child in your 30's like financial stability hopefully a very strong relationship as you would possibly be with said person for a greater length of time but there are also advantages of being a younger mom as well. I just want everyone to understand it is not age that makes a good mom it is love, patients, and happiness, and of course being able to provide a healthy home. Anyway there should never be a limit on being a mommy

Ashley - posted on 03/31/2011

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Heck no women are waiting a lot longer than that to have a baby you go girl lol

Sandy - posted on 03/31/2011

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I had my first (and only) child at age 35. Friends of mine had and are having their first child between age 33 - 40.

The only issues are your health, financial stability and if you want to be raising a teenager in your forties/fifties. ☺ Most people I know have their first child in their thirties or forties and that's it. Those second, third, etc. children born after age 35 are usually "oops" children. ☺

Francesca - posted on 03/31/2011

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I would have loved to have my babies when I was 33-34, but it didn't happen. So I had #1 when I was 37 and #2 when I was 40. DH is still lobbying for #3, but I'm thinking that three may be too much for me at this age...

Francesca - posted on 03/31/2011

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I would have loved to have my babies when I was 33-34, but it didn't happen. So I had #1 when I was 37 and #2 when I was 40. DH is still lobbying for #3, but I'm thinking that three may be too much for me at this age...

Rose - posted on 03/29/2011

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I was 33 when I had my 4th baby. I must admit after having my other 3 when I was young(er) it was not a great pregnancy , it just goes to show how important those exercises are after birth. So as long as your healthy & look after yourself you should have nothing to worry about. And you are, at this age, more mature & probly got your life pretty much sorted. So go have babies , and make sure you do your exercises to get your bits n pieces back to where they should be..

Samantha - posted on 03/29/2011

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i believe we are in a different era where its more possible now than in the past with women taking care of themselves and having a longer life expectancy as well as menopause not kicking in until a much later date, so yes it is certainly not too old, i had my second child at age 35.

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I don't think that is too old. I had my b/g twins(without fertility treatment) when I was 33 and plan on getting pregnant next year sometime and then after that child turns about 2 then try for my last.

I think you need to do what works best for your lifestyle. As long as you have a healthy stable environment to welcome baby into I say go for it.

Julie - posted on 03/28/2011

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Your at the best age.I had my daughter at 19 while going to university and supporting my husband then.Now I have my son at 39,all is well.Maturity = more patience and appreciation for everything life has to offer,Embrace each opportunity life offers at any age.

Ali - posted on 03/27/2011

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33-34 is a good age in many ways...maturity of the mother for one thing - there is a lot of research pointing to the fact that we are having our children too late and waiting too long to start families - but from my own experience I would have made a much more selfish Mum in my 20's compared with my 30s. Everyone is different and what is right for one is not right for all, but if it feels right then go for it .

Emma - posted on 03/27/2011

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I really hope not. I had my first daughter when I was 29 but I fully intend to have another in a couple of years. That will make me 33-34. I believe older parents are usually more patient parents.

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My mum had my baby sister when she was 42 (last year) !

I personally was shocked, but if you're healthy and can provide everything for your child then it's fine. :)



(EDIT) ; I was only shocked because I'd been the youngest for 20 years!! Lol.

But generally I do think even my mum's age isn't too old. :-)

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2011

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Seriously? Too old in what way? I was 39 when I had my first child and had an uneventful pregnancy and birth and i now have a healthy, happy 2 year old. Of course, in general terms, fertility rates drop as women enter their 30's but many women can and do have healthy babies in their mid 30's and beyond. I think your health and well being is often more important than age. I know plenty of 40 year old women who take excellent care of themselves and are in great shape and then there are 23 year olds who are really unhealthy. As for the emotional, stage of life issue, my partner and I are well established in our careers, we have the maturity and the resources to provide our child and the wisdom and patience that come with having "been around the block a few times." So no, it's not too old, in my almost 42 year old opinion.

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