Looking for creative ways to dicipline my 2.5 yr old.

Lucy - posted on 12/12/2012

He's a toddler, so you have to think like one and be one. This is what I mean, If he is kicking and throwing do the same with him/join him in a fun and silly way. After hug him and talk about how silly mom was being because you can understand his fustration. When your out ask him if you should act silly like him again or just hug him and move on. The more you focus on a problem the more it becomes that. Turn it around with hugs, love and something silly and unexpected. Thats being creative.

Peace

Gwynne - posted on 03/31/2010

Hello, I have a seven yr old boy, so I know how hard it can be. There is No easy answer to your query. All I can suggest is being very stern with the hitting, let the child SEE you throw away ANY toy that he hits with. If he hits with his hands make him SEE how hurt you are. Then when he seems remorseful (not before), hug and kiss him, so he can SEE and FEEL a loving touch, say "now that feels nice, doesn't it"?
All the Best!
Gwynne< Gabriels' Mother

Tammy - posted on 03/31/2010

When my kids were this little. I found it cut out the temper tantrums tremendiously if I gave them a warning of a change in activity. For example: Dakota we need to pick up our toys in 5 minutes to get ready for dinner. That way they are in control of their time table. Two minutes and we need to leave the house for school. That way they would not be in the middle of something that was important to them and be pulled away to do something else.

Louise - posted on 03/30/2010

Last time my daughter threw a tantrum, I put her in her bedroom and held the door shut until she had calmed down, this did the trick after she'd ripped the poster on the door and hurt her hand bashing the door demanding to be let out. She will say sorry for bad behaviour without prompting now (she's 4) and I always make sure I tell her how much I love her but that bad behaviour is unacceptable. My husband always finds that reverse psychology is useful, so this may be another option to try!

Monique - posted on 03/29/2010

Hello

Well the only thing I can say is that you realy have to get a hold of this child because if not this will get worst as he grows and I would recommend that you give him time out when he ask out meaning when he statrs to just go crazy you need to lift him up and place him in a corner and let him kknow this is not ecceptable, now he will continue to act out but you must continue to place him back until he gets it and you have to place hiim ther and ignore him trust me in the begining it will be hard but it will work and and when he give in you need to get down to his level and let him know why you had to take this action ...hope you will try this ..Good Luck!

Monique P

Celeste - posted on 03/29/2010

I've found that responding too much to the negative behavior actually encourages it. At home, I remove anything that is thrown & say, "that is naughty & that is NOT OK, you will get nothing until you're done with your tantrum & use your words to tell mommy what you want...you need to say i'm sorry for hitting mommy" and then i go about my business & ignore her bad behavior until she starts responding with better behavior. Once she seems happier, i press for her to say sorry for hitting and eventually she does, and we hug and she seems to be able to communicate what she wants. Sometimes when she's just so unruly that I cannot keep her in a time out ie. corner or a chair, I'll put her up some place high like the top of my jewelry box or a pedestal....of course i'm right there to catch her if she falls, but she knows that she cannot move or she'll fall and it forces her to calm down eventually...she needs to apologize and or stop acting out in order to get down. She's almost 2 years old and it seems that most of the time when these tantrums errupt is when we sway from our normal routine....it really throws her off...and I think that keeping to a regular routine of home, eat, bath, bed, etc....keeping everything the same as often as possible helps to cut down on her tantrums. And if I' m out in public, and she starts hitting & "tantruming" I'll immediately remove her from the current environment.....hold her with her arms down by her side so that she cannot hit & just tell her that I love her but that it is not ok to act like this. I take her outside, especially if it's cold or hot out...the drastic change in temperature or the immediate change of environment helps to distract her enough to snap her out of a tantrum sotmetimes.

Adhrua - posted on 03/29/2010

you would need a lot of patience to deal with this, I guess what would work well is telling the child that bad behavior gets you upset and ignoring him and then changing the topic and when he is being a nice boy really praising him and rewarding him with kisses and hugs!
Good lunch
Hope it helps you
Adhrua

Christina - posted on 03/28/2010

I have a 2 1/2 yr. old neice and she is doing the same things I have her on a chart with progress and give her a smilie face sticker for doing good and a sad face when she is bad and I reward her with visits to the park or a new toy or something she wants to do. when its really bad she has to go to time out in a corner for 5 min. she does really well and her mom has the same chart. Hopefully this can work for you as well! Good Luck!

Joan - posted on 03/28/2010

First off. Never ever ask a 2.5 year old if he wants to go to bed, if he wants to eat, if he wants to play etc.....always just say matter of factly.....it's time for bed, so lets go or it's time for lunch....look what we have....by asking them you are giving him an out.....also, don't wait until he's ravenous.......offer food every two hours as their little tummys can't hold much like we can.......offer snacks in between. On the hitting thing, my grandaugher is doing the same thing right now. When she hits me I say very loudly, ouch!!! that hurt!!!! that's not nice!!!!!! you hurt Grandma and I have a very sad look on my face......it seems to be helping. Like you none of my daughters went thru this and I always say that everything will pass. It's like they are testing you and they always will. You could also try promoting his good behavior, like when he does something that you like, say hey that was really nice of you, good boy, instead of focusing on the bad behavior. Just remember that it will indeed pass. Good luck to you!

Denise - posted on 03/28/2010

i work at a daycare and we use time out.. some of the parents have told us to use peppermint oil like the kind used to make candy in their childrens mouths. its edible but very strong so they do not like it. were not allowed to do this but they use it at home and it has helped. i have also found ignoring the child who is only doing it for attention helps.