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Mixed feelings...

Laura - posted on 06/17/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband is about to get a very lucrative pay raise at his job. This will allow me to stay at home with our 8mth old son!!

While I love that I'll be able to be home with him and raise him first hand, there's a little part of me that's hanging on for dear life to the concept of working. It makes me feel a little independent, or like I'm contributing to our household in a monetary way. Does that sound silly?

Not sure what I'm asking here (sorry.... I run on roughly 4hrs sleep daily as of late... not enough!!) I suppose I feel a little guilty that I'm more worried about my cabin fever being in the house all day than how happy and lucky I'll be to be able to stay home. Am I being selfish here? Thanks for reading!

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Varda - posted on 07/25/2010

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I always needed to work, I have to fill that I go out, meet people and fill the real world.
On the other hand I like to be home and cock and be around the kids.
So find a job that will not be so demanding and will allow you to be at home and still work

Angela - posted on 07/11/2010

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THe best thing about not working would be getting more than 4 hrs sleep! he he, not exactly a reason to change your whole lifestyle, but reeeeeally tempting, no? I was dying to get back to work after my first born, now that there are three I would give anythign to be able to work part time, I just need more time! All hours of the day are taken up at work and then I'm with my three kids and I can't get out to do things like shopping.

Robin - posted on 06/28/2010

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remember that you have a personality and a life outside of being a mum!

your allowed to want to work, your allowed to want adult contact etc during the week!

if your not 100% happy about staying at home... dont! work part time, work full time if you want!

your child will benifit from having a happy, sane mum rather than having a mum at home!

Stacey - posted on 06/27/2010

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your church or one in the area may have a Moms day out program - you could check tht out

Melissa - posted on 06/23/2010

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You are not being selfish. It is more important for your child for you to make the decision that will help you be a better mother. I know that I would make a terrible stay-at-home mom and was blessed with great daycare providers until they started school. If you have vacation time available, maybe you could try taking the time to see how being a stay at home feels. Remember too that your decision is not irreversible so if you give it a try but find it does not work for you, you can change your mind. You are fortunate your situation offers the opportunity to have the choice.

Krista - posted on 06/17/2010

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Being in the house with a baby takes a toll on you. You could always look for something close to home where you could work maybe two days a week just to get out of the house. You could also look at drop in centers, daycares or a babysitter. Where you could have one day a week to run errands or just have a girls day. No matter how much you love your kids you have to take time for you.

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