Zoey - posted on 09/06/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
Growing up he was used to having both his parents home, at least on evenings and having dinner as a family. I on the other hand, only had my dad home when I came home from school and my Mother worked 2nd shift and didn't come home til 2AM. We'd have family time when both parents were off. Currently my boyfriend and I work 1st shift. I work 7-3, he 6:30-3. His job is a little farther away and it takes me a half hour to get home and him an hour or so. I will be soon going on maternity leave in 4 weeks and once I return to work in 12 weeks(which is without pay, btw vacations are gone) I plan on working 2nd shift, which is 3-11. I haven't told my boss yet of this. I'm considered one of their best workers and they may take it as if they're loosing me but really not. What I mean is I'm one of the fastest workers on 1st shift, there is another, but I'm more depended on. I work at a factory(machine operator) that deals with plastic injection molding. There's two machines that are fast and me and another co worker are the only ones to keep up with them since my boss don't bother putting someone else on and when they tried once and didn't like the results, they just kept me and the other co worker on it.
Anyway I plan on e-mailing my boss a few weeks ahead of time for my request to work 2nd shift once I return to work. I've talked this over with my boyfriend, and it hurts not only just him but myself as well since we won't be seeing each other as much. What I'm trying to do is budget with day care costs, trying to make it part time so we don't have to pay as much. Also I have an 8 year old son so that's double. I have been receiving day care assistance(subsidized, child care works program) for my son, but there's a chance my newborn will be put on the waiting list til funds are available and there's a chance there won't. If my newborn's on the waiting list I'd have to pay a lot of money for daycare til funds go through which could take months. It did for my son. That is the main worry have I continue to work 1st shift and have both kids full time. It's really part time for my son since he's in school, the bus from the daycare takes him, but he's considered full time since he stays at the day care during summer time when school's out.
So after a while I convinced my boyfriend enough, showing him articles of other parents' suggestions and how they're able to work things out even though it could take a toll on the relationship but we have to work as a team and not go broke. Also there's another issue at hand. He's been paying spousal support to his estranged wife whom he's filed divorce months ago and no action has been taken on her behalf yet, so there's another reason why we can't work the same shift and pay full time for the kids.