My daughter's 3 and still isn't fully potty trained

Heidi - posted on 11/12/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )

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since her brother was born she became lazy when it comes to going to the toilet to do her business. She doesn't mind being wet so tried to have her change herself her pull-up when it's wet so she sees that "it's not bothering me and I'm not paying attention to it" and still no success.

Tried the treats if goes on the potty and punishments if she doesn't but it worked 1 week. I'm out of ideas HELP!!!

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Amanda - posted on 11/15/2008

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Have you tried praising her when she does use the potty? Tell her how big of a girl she is and that big girls ge to do big girl things. Get her really cute undies with her favorite characters on them, dora, ponies, princesses. I have heard of people putting food coloring in the toilet water so that when she pees in it it makes it change color. Bring her to the potty frequently even if she says she doesn't have to go and just have her sit on it for a few minutes. Good luck!

Tanya - posted on 11/13/2008

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Be patient. I am going through the same thing right now with my 2 1/2 yr. old. Try to keep her in her underwear all day if you can and pull ups only at night and for nap time. The treats are definitely good and always praise her when she does go and if she goes in her pull up or underwear just let her know that big girls go in the potty.

Mary - posted on 11/13/2008

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My three year old was the same, just didn't want to take the time to go. He refused to even sit on the potty. My doctor kept telling me to stop trying because this was one thing he had control over and he would win this battle. Then one weekend he decided that on Monday he was going to start wearing big boy underwear and just like that he was potty trained. So maybe if you let it go for a little bit she will do this on her own. I was constantly told that nobody walks down the aisle to get married wearing a diaper and one day it would happen and they were right.

Kellee - posted on 11/13/2008

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The "potty dance" is definately a must. The funniest was when my son took my daughter to the potty and did the dance with her. The picking out of the special big girl underwear is really important.

Jackie - posted on 11/12/2008

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My daughter was really stubborn at first, but having older girls as her playmates, she was potty trained in no time. The rewards do work. i also did the "potty dance" LOL danced all crazy and silly every time she went to the bathroom! She LOVED it. And She still get's Chocolate milk for breakfast if she doesn't have an accident the night before. Try buying her big girl underwear and let her pick it out. it's a lot cheaper than pullups. I never ever used a pull-up with my daughter. Good luck!

Kellee - posted on 11/12/2008

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With my daughter Taylor- my second child whose brother did everything for her, she didn't even have to talk much until he started kindergarten (then she started saying words I didn't know she knew) I had to take away the pull-ups and call them "baby diapers for babies" She resisted even then for awhile and she even told me that she wanted her pull-ups, not her "big girl underwear". After that, I had to do like I did with my oldest- I told them "Mommy doesn't change potty pants, if you potty in your pants, you have to change them yourself" Then when they try to crawl on your bed, or lap, or couch, tell her that she can't sit there with potty pants and say "EWWW! Yuck!" Tay didn't care about wet pull-ups but wet underwear she did. Austin didn't care about wet underwear but he didn't like that he couldn't get mommy's attention to change him. I felt like the most horrible parent- refusing to change wet pants but Austin only tested me once (when Dad got home) and when we both responded with a " We don't change potty pants- go change yourself" he ran from the room crying and never did it again. Tay took a week but we sent her to daycare with big girl pants and lots of extra clothes. She didn't like to be wet around her friends. If you do this, make sure that you don't forget that they left wet pants laying somewhere and keep telling them they can't do different things if they have wet pants...

Chrystal - posted on 11/12/2008

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Try to get one or two of your friends who have a daughter that is older than yours. They can help play up the whole 'it's waaaay cooler to use the toilet & panties' thing. This worked very well with my daughter. I had a friend's 4 year old and my own 11 year old sister come in and talk up the whole toilet & panty coolness and made sure they mentioned that ONLY babies don't use the toilet. IF she cares about keeping up with the cool older girls this will work. And let face it, as women, we always want to keep up with the cool girls!

Hanna - posted on 11/12/2008

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The same thing happened to me with my daughter. I dedicated a weekend to mastering the potty. I set the timer on the stove to go off every 45 minutes - when it went off it was time to sit for 5 minutes on the toilet. We had a few fits (okay more than a few - these are 3 year olds we're talking about!) BUT by the end of the weekend we were off and running.

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