My kindergardener has such an attitude? What happened to the nice little boy i sent to school?

Alena - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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He used to hug me all the time and sit with me. Now if I just ask him a question about anything he gets cross! I want the pleasant little boy back that I sent to school. Even his teacher thinks he's a dream and offered to watch him any time we need. He's breaking my heart.

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Denise - posted on 04/15/2010

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it's an ego thing especially with the boys...they don't want there friends seeing mom hug him while being dropped off at school...my son always gave me a hug before he left but as he got older i get the hugs more at home when he says...mom i missed you today can i have a hug?"??

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Michelle - posted on 05/15/2010

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I would say he is either upset about something and that is his way of dealing with it, or it is so much work behaving at school that when he gets home he forgets that the good behavior should be there as well I would get him a chart and give him stars or something for the days you don't have issues and reward him for good behavior and have consequences for the bad. Remember he is five maybe 6 and boys are really not ready for school until they are almost 8 as they just want to play and have fun not be told what to do.

Sharon - posted on 04/17/2010

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i have had the same experience with my daughter. i figure its just the early beginning of peer pressure. Plus there are so many kids in one class negative attention seems to outway positve attention, so they adjust to getting it how they can.

Haley - posted on 04/16/2010

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It could be the influence of other children and how they act. I know i had my 2 year old daughter around another little gil who was 3 and this little girl was being mean to my daughter and her mother did nothing. And ever since then my daughter has been back talking and getting an additude. I mean we do send her to her room for doing it and shes not as bad as what she was the day after meeting the little girl. But i believe it was the influence of another child that got it started. Cause she had never done it before.

Brandy - posted on 04/16/2010

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Kids even at that age tend to listen to what the other kids are saying. The precious little boy is still there and he still loves you but he probably doesn't want to be called a mommy's baby or just a baby for that matter. Also i have learned that boys tend to push limits more than girls do and they might be loving one day and drive you insane the next you just have to roll with the punches. Be strong and tell him repeatedly that you love him and he is your "big boy" so he doesn't feel like a baby. good luck

Denise - posted on 04/15/2010

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my son always tells me he loves me when i drop him off at school...my son is also 11yrs old not a kindergartener...when he was in kindergarten he respected me and still does to this day...kids change as they get older as long as you keep and open mind and open relationship with him he will respect his mom

Michelle - posted on 04/15/2010

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He probably sees his friends acting this way with their parents when they drop him off. I would be firm with him and tell him that he will NOT speak to you in an ugly manner. Kids will continue to act a certain way as long as you allow them to.

Beth - posted on 04/15/2010

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Tell him what you feel. Without asking so many questions. You may want to spend more time with him going to places he likes and while you are eating-out try to share to him what you feel when he ignores you. Children are specially emphatic towards parents. Since they are starting to explore their newly found independence at school, there should also be a balance between freedom and respect. Freedom in the sense that you are not too pushy or over-protective of him (nagging at all) at the same time, apply house rules to define respect for the whole household (manners, how to express his opinion w/o talking back, ect.,) not just him. I hope this helped let me know.

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