Ashok - posted on 02/28/2017 ( 10 moms have responded )
This is my first post. I'm a single mom. I have a 18 year old daughter and a 15 year old son. Their dad passed away when they were very young. So I may have actually pampered them a lot as I didn't want them to feel the loss of their dad
Anyway, I work as a receptionist in an office. So I always wear high heels to office. I have around 5 pairs of heels and pumps which I keep rotating.
The other day, I kicked off my heels after I came home from work. I popped into the shower and realized I forgot something. As I came out, I saw my son on his knees near the shoe rack and I saw him drop my heels after he heard me coming. I asked him what he was doing and he just said that he was looking for some shoe of his. I didn't think much of it at that point but later when I thought about it I felt a bit suspicious as he acted as if I caught him at something and I was sure I saw him holding my heels. So anyway the next day after I came back, I took my heels off and went in the shower, but this time I came out silently to see if my son was up to anything. Then I saw something shocking. I saw my son sniffing the inside of my worn shoes. I then saw them licking them too. I was shocked. Just so you know, I'm not really a woman who spends a lot on shoes/clothes etc. I wear heels only because I kind of have to where I work, not because I like wearing them as they hurt my feet. I don't make a lot of money and prefer to save up my money for my children's future. So the shoes I have are kind of old. They look good on the outside but are pretty well worn on the inside. Some of them have bits of toejam in them and are quite sweaty. In essence, they smell quite bad, especially right after I come back from office. I've never paid much attention to it as I don't take off my shoes in office and they don't rally smell unless I take it off. So anyway, now you understand what my son was doing. He was smelling and licking the inside of my shoes which I was sure smelled quite awful. I was disgusted and I froze on seeing it. I didn't know what to do. I then decided that I needed more time to think about it and I didn't want to embarrass my son, so I just went back in the shower and came out as normal. I saw my son just watching TV as I guess he was finished with my shoes. Later when my son had gone to bed, I went and smelled my shoes which he licking up close. Oh my God they stunk so bad. I almost puked after smelling my shoes. I never realized they smell so bad. I don't usually smell my shoes up close. I clean them sometimes when I can notice the smell after I take them off, but I never bring my shoes up to my face and smell it. I don't understand why he likes to smell and lick shoes which have such a putrid and foul smell. I know about foot fetishes and stuff and I can understand men who are into feet. But why would someone want to smell something which stinks so bad.
Now after observing him for a few days, I also found out that he also smells and licks his sister's heels and shoes. My daughter is in college. Her heels don't smell as bad as mine, but they still smell of sweat and feet (Yes I smelled her shoes after I saw my son doing to understand what the hell he was smelling). Now my daughter is a very pretty girl. She is also quite haughty and was one of the popular kids in school. My son is more of the quieter geeky type. So my daughter anyway kind of picks on her brother a lot and makes fun of him in general. So I'm scared of what will happen if she finds out. They know each other's friends, and she know many of the girls in his class as they went to the same school. I'm sure she will make fun of him and tease him endlessly or worse, she could tell other people in his school and everyone might find out, humiliating him. I cannot imagine my son going through such humiliation.
I have also found out that he has a definite preference for high heels. He has a preference for the freshly worn shoes. Basically he smells and licks them right after I or my daughter return home. He also acts out more and seems to prefer the stinkier shoes. The reason I know this is I had bought a new pair of heels a few days ago. After I wore them to office and returned, he did lick my new heels but not for long. He soon moved on to the shoes I wore the previous day which smelled a lot. Even among my daughter's shoes, he always acts out the longest on one pair which are her smelliest pair.
I have researched a lot online about this. I understand that this fetish is quite common, even though he seems to have a particularly extreme version of it. I have some across several links about high heel and trample fetishes in this forum posted by other moms and others too. I also came across several pornographic videos where men lick and smell shoes of women. I'm sure my son has quite a few of those videos in his laptop (If I could find them I'm sure my son could). But I don't want to invade his privacy by checking his laptop. I feel bad enough about sneakily watching his activities when he licks our shoes, but that is because he does it in the living room. I don't check on what he does in his room.
My top concerns are the following.
1. I'm scared about any health related issues from him licking my sweaty dirty shoes. I'm sure my shoes are full of bacteria which are bad for your health, and he licks and ingests them. What do I do about this? I could buy new heels, but my feet sweat a lot and I cannot keep buying new heels often. So do I wear pantyhose? Do I clean my shoes before I come in? If I start doing it, I'm scared my son will find someone else's shoes to act out on or he will become frustrated
2. I'm scared of my daughter or someone else finding out about this. He is a very shy and sensitive boy. He cannot take that much humiliation if his friends find out about it. How do I make sure no one finds out about his fetish?
These are my immediate concerns Other than this, what do I do? Do I talk to him? If he is doing this, I'm sure it is a fetish or a strong attraction towards women's smelly heels that he has. I don't think any counseling or talking to him is going to help. He is not going to get over his fetish, and I don't think it is some disease you can cure. It is who he is. I'm afraid he might get embarrassed on withdrawn even further if I talk to him. I just want to make sure he channels his fetish in a safe, healthy and discreet way, preferably without involving me. Do I ask him to stop smelling my heels? I'm not sure if he is using our shoes for any sexual release (As I said I think what he does in his room is his business. I don't want to find out about this by other means except him telling me). If he is doing that it would concern me a lot as it might mean he is sexually attracted to his mom and his sister?. I don't know I'm so confused and I have no idea how to approach this. Please can you help and give me suggestions on how to approach this situation. I would especially like to hear from moms who have had a similar experience with their sons, and also from men who have a similar fetish. If your mom found out about your fetish, how would you want her to approach it? Please help