need advise about pregnacy after a miscarriage

Sara - posted on 04/10/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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i had a miscarriage about over 2 months ago and had a d&c about a week or 2 later. it was a blighted ovium. i just took a pt today and it came out positive. i have not had a period since december then i had the miscarriage at the end of jan. so i dont even know how far along i would be if the pt is correct that iam pregnant. so im just really scared since i just had the miscarriage and now being pregnant again!

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Valerie - posted on 04/29/2010

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I lost a son he was still born it was awful. I still cry over it. But 4 months later I got pregnant again. Everything went fine and she was 100% healthy. My dr did have concerns about being pregnant again so soon but he just monitored me closely and everything turn out fine. I actually think it helped me because I finally had something positive to think about instead of cry day and night over what I had lost.

Laura - posted on 04/28/2010

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I have a daughter. She was my first pregnancy. I miscarried twice since her and like you fell pregnant again very shortly after the first D&C. I got past the point of the first miscarriage and thought I was in the clear only to miscarry again and have another D&C. I tried really hard not to get pregnant again so my doctor could do diff. tests to find out why I was miscarrying only to end up pregnant again before all tests were done. I am finally about to have my second child as I am currently 35.5 weeks pregnant. I wish you the best of luck. I know how you feel.

Roz - posted on 04/27/2010

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Sorry to hear that Sara...it is hard. I've had 3 miscarriages, all were early around the 5 or 6 week mark so I didn't have a d/c but I had a missed period and a positive pregnancy test. The first happened then I got pregnant with my first who is now 3.5 3 months after that miscarriage.



Then on the second go around I got pregnant and had a miscarriage, waited a month got pregnant and miscarried again, and then the third happened and now she is 5 months old. This took 6 months but the 3rd one stuck.



So if you have one baby already chances are good you can have another one like I did. What is important to wait until you are ready emotionally and physically. If you feel 6 months is what you need then by all means take that time. For me I was ready quickly so that is what I did. You can also talk to your Dr., although I hear differing opinions on how long to wait.



Best of wishes to you :)

Teresa - posted on 04/26/2010

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so sorry to hear that Sara. It sucks. It really does. Especially when there are high hopes for a new beginning. Giving your body a rest is probably a good thing. Get your body and your mind healthy. You'll have that baby one day. When you do, treasure every moment cause they deserve it and they grow so fast!!! Best of luck and health to you.

Sara - posted on 04/24/2010

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i did miscarry this baby last saterday while i was at work, it was so terriable. so now im just gonna wait till my body heals for about 6 months before we try again. i just hope that i can even have another baby! i want another one more then anything in this world. they are so much joy. i see other ppl about to have babies and i get so upset! i feel angry at times. i hate it cause im not that kind of person at all!

Rebeeca - posted on 04/19/2010

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I too understand your pain. I had 2 miscarriages and 1 eptopic pregnancy before having my daughter who is now 9 mths. I was so sad after the last miscarriage that I honestly felt I would never have my own child. I remember my sister having her third, unexpected child and on the night my beautiful niece was born I cried because I was so jealous ( I still feel guilty). Little did I know that I was already pregnant with my daughter. We did not tell a single person we were pregnany until we reached three months, and it was never spoken about in our home. I was very superstitious during my pregnancy. However, I have learned that there is nothing you can do, and what is meant to be will be. I believe that everything happens for a reason. Every moment of sadness that I / we went though, makes me truly appreciate the gift that I have. I thank God every day for my daughter. Remember you are not alone. Keep the faith!

Laurie - posted on 04/17/2010

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Happy yet scared. I know the feeling. It got to the point where I was afraid to relax and be happy. First thing see your OB I had 6 miscarriages and a still born. One of my miscarriages was also ectopic. I never gave up I now have a 24 yr old and an 18 yr old. Being seen early to detect any problems is your best bet most women go on to have no complications I was not the norm. Best of luck to you!

Betty - posted on 04/16/2010

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My first pregnancy also resulted in a miscarriage at about 9wks. But I was pregnant about 8 months later and now have a 6 and half months old baby girl. Thought you might like to know that my doctor told me that 20-30% of pregnancies end in miscarriage before 13 wks due to various reasons. If you think about it, that's a very high percentage as it's 1 in 5 to 1 in 3. Usually this is due to abnormalities in the fetus and your body's natural instincts is to remove it from your body. Sometime many woman don't even know they're pregnant and having a miscarriage as it just seems you're having a late period.

I was also very very upset when I found out as I didn't know till I had my scan and was advised that the fetus does not have a hearbeat and I'd lost my baby. But the doctor put it this way for me. "Would you rather have a healthy baby or bring a baby with an abnormality into this world. Is this fair to your baby or yourself?"

The 2nd time I was pregnant with my now little girl, I was terrified up to 13 wks and had my scan. When the doctor told me she had a very strong heartbeat and doing well I was soooo happy. But I will worried right towards the end.

Think about it this way, at least you are able to have babies. I know a lady that's now 40 and still have trouble conceiving. She'd love to have a baby but it's not happening for her. She's been to the doctors and was advised that there's nothing wrong with her or her husband. Therefore Compared to her, I feel very lucky to be a mum and get to experience all the wonderful things of motherhood.

It's all God's will and he has his reasons.

Helen - posted on 04/15/2010

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I'm so sorry for your loss Sara. My second pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage, and it was very sad, and painful. My doctor could not determine why I miscarried since my first pregnancy was perfect. I was told sometimes your body cannot carry a certain sex. I became pregnant 2 months after I miscarried. However, it became a high risk pregnancy and at 21 weeks I was put on bedrest for having an incompetent cervix. I made it to 36 weeks and was grateful for each day I was able to keep him in. It was the hardest 15 weeks of my life! He is almost 2 now, weighs 36 pounds, has a few respiratory issues (asthma everytime he gets sick) but he's built like a linebacker : ) Get plenty of rest, eat properly, and take Folic acid which helps to prevent miscarriages. Good Luck.

Christy - posted on 04/15/2010

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I know how you are feeling I had 2 miscarriages in 2002 each 6 months apart and had to have a d&c both times. My husband and I were planning on a child but after the second one i went back on birth control for about a year after that year i went back off the pill and we started trying again. My 4 year old was born 3 years after my 2nd miscarriage. Everyone kept telling me things happen for a reason. That is hard to except but it's worth it in the long run. Just don't worry and try to relax don't get worked up over things and see what happens. But just know the miscarrage is not your falt things do happen for a reason. May God Bless you. Christy

Sara - posted on 04/15/2010

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i just want to thank everyone for all the advise it really helped...i went to the dr today. im for sure pregnant. he also said i will have a healthy pregnancy this time cause i do have a 11 month old son. so im staying positive. thank u again!!!!

Josslyn - posted on 04/15/2010

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You should be between 6 and 8 weeks if your count is right, take a deep breath, lie back and enjoy the fact that you are preggie again, I struggled for a year to f all pregnant and after 3 months of doctors telling me I had a hormone imbalance and was heavily medicated for it I went for a second opinion and there she ws, I was 15 weeks along already.

Make an appointment with the OB as soon as possible and start immediately on your preggie vites. All you do now is take it one step at a time and keep as calm as possible, I know those are the hardest words you'll ever hear ( which they were for me ) but you have to try. Maybe go away somewhere nice for the weekend after you gynae appointment.

Brandy - posted on 04/14/2010

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let me start by saying how sorry i am for your pain i know from experience how emotionally trying a miscarriage can be i also had one between my 2 children. I would go to a doctor or a health department before i freaked out too much because store pts can be very misleading. If you are pregnant don't worry to much it will only make you sick and won't help anything i got pregnant with my son soon after my miscarriage and he turned out perfect. Try to get as much rest as possible in the first trimester and don't do anything to physical. Please let me know how things turn out for you. Sincerely, Brandy Carroll

Latrisha - posted on 04/13/2010

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I am sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I was married in june of 2005 and in sept. I found out that I was pregnant via home preg. test. In early Aug. I had a miscarriage. I was told that my body attacked it thinking it was a virus. Well in Oct. I found out that I was pregnant Again. My parents were upset saying it was too soon. But it was a successful pregnancy. I have a beautiful, healthy daughter. I just wanted to share that with you. In Aug after my miscarriage I lost my sister. I believe that God took my child so that it would not be hurt during my grieving. And He gave her right back. Make sure you see a doctor and take things carefully. I will pray for you and your unborn.

Leonie - posted on 04/13/2010

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Hi Sara



I had a miscarriage 20 years ago. I was 7 months pregnant. Her heart had just stopped beating. I go through stages where I am ok with it and attoher times all I want ot do is cry. God blessed me with two beautiful children, son 16 and daughter 14. Understand your loss. Listen to your intuition and rest. Easier said than done though. Take it easy now.

Erica - posted on 04/12/2010

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i no yo pain!!!! was that yo 1st pregnacy? my 1st was a miscarriage she would've been 11 now it still hurts!! u gonna wanna fill that void by have n kids 2 make up 4 da 1 u lost, it doesnt wk! but u will need 2 b on complete bed rest! stress free!! take vit er day!!! IF not u will end up wit a premie like i did 1lb 10oz boy!!!!!!!! That is sum em u dodnt want 2 go thru unless ur strong !!!!!!!! most of all put god 1st!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Keeshea - posted on 04/12/2010

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Beloved... I know how you feel. I miscarried - it was a blight ovlum also. I got pregnant about 3 months later. I was so scared that I would lose the baby again. I was on pins and needles until the end of the 1st trimester. I gave birth to my son - who's now 10 months old. Try not to worry too much about it. I know that's easier said than done. But know that 1 in every 5 women have miscarriages. You are not alone! I pray for you and your baby.

Jenny - posted on 04/11/2010

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Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I have also had 2 miscarriages but still have 3 healthy happy children, i was devestated on both the miscariages but would not be without the children i have now. I also now beleive everything happens for a reason, it is worrying becuase you always have that doubt in your mind that is could go terribly wrong and you could lose it again. Just enjoy it, there is no reason why this pregnancy can not be a healthy pregnancy / child at the end of it.
A very helpful nurse told me after my miscarriage that 1 in 4 women have miscarriages so i am sure it happens more than people want to talk about it.

Amanda - posted on 04/11/2010

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I kow how you feel, my first pregnancy was a tubal, and I waited over a year to try again. It was depressing because we got to see the heartbeat as we found out it wouldn't be a sucessful pregnancy. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter I got scared and was afraid I was going to have to go through it all over again. I didn't fully accept the pregnancy until I was 12weeks along. Just keep in mind, just because one was bad doesn't mean this one won't be a succeful healthy pregnancy!

Teresa - posted on 04/10/2010

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sorry about your loss. I have had 2 miscarriages and have 4 children now. I understand the fear and anxiety about becoming pregnant again especially so soon afterwards. My advice to you would be see your doc and get an actual blood serum test. They are more accurate then the over the counter pee tests to ensure that you are for sure pregnant. Also if you are for sure pregnant, breath relax and enjoy. As hard as it is to lose something/someone that you may have had great hopes for, you can not prevent the unpreventable. Take care of yourself and hopefully your body will take care of babe too. :) No heavy lifting, lots of water, good food, enough sleep, try to reduce your stress. I was always told that things happen for a reason. I didn't believe that then, but i do now. And i am very thankful for all my blessings.

There will alway be that "what if" in the back of your mind. Don't let it get you down. It will get easier.

Congrats on your pregnancy!! And remember you are not alone. Many women, probably more than you realize, have had miscarriages and learned from their experience.

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