Painful poops

Heather - posted on 12/21/2009 ( 98 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 5 years old she is having trouble pooping she screams when on the toilet I have to give about three doses of laxative to get her to go. I took her to her doctor and she said she is holding it. IDoes anyone have any suggestions on what i could give her. Please help.

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Pamela - posted on 07/14/2011

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My grand daughter poops every other day. However, it is hard, big and she bleeds a lot because of how big they are. We have tryed mralax helps her poop but still bleeds because it is too big. She drinks apple juice and eats veggies and fruit. I don't know what else to try? Help

June - posted on 01/16/2010

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My 4 year old had the same problem. I took him to a pediatric gastroentologist for advice. I have to give him Miralax everyday. It took a couple weeks but now he is going daily, and it is soft. Before he was holding it in and would go maybe once a week. When he did go it would be hard and huge. So the Miralax is helping. Miralax is gentle and non habit forming. He started out with 2tsp 2 times a day for a week. Now he is on 2tsp once a day. I would talk to another doctor and find what works best for your daughter.

Christina - posted on 01/19/2010

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Yes, Muralax!! It's an OTC laxative that I give my 8 month old. My sons Pediatric GI doctor recommends it over Mineral Oil, Kayro Syrup, and Castro Oil, he said it's easier on the digestive tract and NO taste!!. Start off with 1 teaspoon at night and see how she does. If she still has problems try another teaspoon in the morning. You can play with the dosage since it's not a harsh laxative. Be sure to mix it with a drink. It works wonders for him. Hope this helps!!!

Tammi - posted on 07/15/2011

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Pamela H. and Heather A. ~ Try adding flaxseed to the diet. Add it to cereal, smoothies, applesauce, whatever you can think of. Two tablespoons a day is ideal, but you can start with 1/2 tablespoon and increase daily. Adding the extra fiber will require your child/grandchild to drink more water. Pears and pear juice are a natural laxative as well. Also, the Eat Clean Diet for Family and Kids is a good place to star to change diet and regulate bowels. She talks a lot about flax in the diet. http://www.eatcleandiet.com/about_the_di...

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Elvira - posted on 07/25/2012

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You can try Pedia-Lax for kids (this medicine put in the bottom of the child)this medicine you can find at Wal-Mart it is $1.92 and work great,also there you can find Gentle laxative for kids.You can give her MiraLax it is ok for kids to used,I give that to my son when he have the problem to poop. I hope she will be OK!

Marcy - posted on 01/16/2010

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My daughter had the same problem we went to the doc tried different meds nothing worked so i hair one of the older ladies i do said "oh honey when we wre young we used mineral oil " lol i tried it talked to doc first he said lets try it it worked put one to two teaspoons in juice twice a day once it starts drop dose little she might be holding it she could of had a painful one one time and is nervous this will lube everything good luck hope it helps....It had no taste she won't even know

Liz - posted on 01/16/2010

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My daughter has this same problem,and I understand how difficult it can be, we have tried everything and what works best for us is mix baby food prunes into chocolate pudding, as a snack ( she wont taste the prunes), also gerber prune juice mixed with another flavor, also fiber one granola bars they taste really good and have 9 grams of fiber,just make sure she is drinking alot, and we have also tried the chocolate flavored ex-lax just a half of a dose a day or every other day just so it is easy for her to go, so she will get over the fear of it hurting! GOOD LUCK

Lynn - posted on 01/16/2010

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HI, give her a spoonful of mineral oil everyday and it will not longer hurt. She probably has an adult sized colon and she will grow into it. My neice and my grandsons both have this. Doctor tells us it is common, mineral oil works. Good luck, poor baby.

Tina - posted on 01/16/2010

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my daughter had the same problem and a nurse told my to give her grape juice its tastier than prune juice and it really works. we have also used cranberry juice she likes it

Ashleigh Cockerham - posted on 01/16/2010

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they told me the same thing about my 3 yr old, she hurt everytime she had to go and when she did finally get some out it was bigger than mine has ever been my whole life, we tried everything the dr. said she was on a strict diet with only oatmeal 4 breakfast everyday, lots of water, lots of fiber.karo syrup in her drinks, and then miralax prescription, everyday 4 a year, 3 different dr.s and swithed again, this dr. wont listen at all, gotta find another one, he wont test 4 anything either, just dicieded she needs more water, spoke over me while i was trying to tell him what all we have tried, and that she gets plenty of water. But thats what all her dr.s tried, hope some of it helps u and ur daughter

Raquel - posted on 01/15/2010

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What is your daughter eating and drinking? Regular use of laxatives can have negative consequences. I recommend reviewing her diet and making sure that she is getting lots of good fiber, anything and everything that will keep her poop from getting hard and painful. If you give her only water to drink, she won't be in the habit of avoiding water for sugary fruit drinks and sodas later on, and you'll see that her water intake will increase. I also recommend seeing if there is an area of her life that she feels oppressed by, this could be a sign of trying to have control in an area that she can control to a certain degree.

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Laxatives should not be used long term. They will make her bowels lazy and they will become addicted to them. Ask your doctor about Miralax. Increase her water intake and if she drinks a lot of apple juice you may want to decrease that as well. The best thing is to increase the amount of water she drinks.

Sally - posted on 01/14/2010

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Try putting a little brown sugar in her cereal each morning this is what my sister did for her son and it works wonderful

Lynn - posted on 01/14/2010

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do you know why she is holding it? A change in diet is the best thing to try first. adding supplements and a multivitamin would be the next. I have also helped children and adults out with issues using BodyTalk. There is a reason for everything, I believe these signs and symptoms shouldn't be ignored. Bowel movements may be dry because she is dehydrated, perhaps she is drinking enough but her body is not utilizing it effectively? BodyTalk can lead you to the underlying issue. This may prevent many issues in her future.

Donna - posted on 01/14/2010

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Make sure she is drinking enough fluids. GOYA pear juice works well for adults- should work for kids- can mix with water if too strong- can get it right in the grocery store. Colace is a stool softener but you should speak with her pediatrician first.

Gina - posted on 01/14/2010

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My grandson had the same problem and was told the same thing! A specialist told my daughter it had to do with his sphincter being to small and therefore painful anytime he had a to go, he held it to the point he could not hold it. Contact Dr. Siaw, I don't have the number, he is off 51st Ave. and 101, or contact Phoenix Children Center.

Good luck.

Jill - posted on 01/14/2010

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my daughter as poddy issues as well.. give her miralax on a regular basis, whether with her breakfast or with her dinner and that should help keep her regular with softer stools. She trying not to go because it hurts... which means her stool is probably always hard so the miralax should help...

Carla - posted on 01/14/2010

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My daughter was having constipation problems and ended up having rectal prolapses, the doctor had me put her on Miralax, 1/2 cap full in a drink 2 times a day and now she still takes 1/2 cap once a day. We went to the Ped. GI this morning just to make sure everything was okay, she told me to keep her on the Miralax for 2-3 months then slowly take her off, and add more fiber to her diet, the dr. said that her body would eventually start letting her know if she was starting to have a problem again.

Sheila - posted on 01/14/2010

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I would take her to another doctor - my friend's daughter was having painful poops and the first doctor dismissed it and said she needed laxatives. It wound up being Celiac disease.

Cynthia - posted on 01/14/2010

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Hi Heather,



I think you might want to give her fruit during the day and see if that eases it and keeps it from being to hard. I use to give my daughter sugar water and that would clean her out. It would be cup a water with a teaspoon of sugar worked everytime without the pain. You have watch the foods she eats and make sure shes eating plenty of vegggies. Hope this helped.

Tammi - posted on 01/13/2010

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Give her pears. Find a good pear juice and try real, cut up pears. See which one helps best.

Mary - posted on 01/13/2010

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Heather, to start with, I would make sure she is drinking enough water. Also, look at her diet. Is she getting enough fruits and veggies??? Our family takes an awesome liquid whole-food nutrition supplement which really aids in everyone staying regular. Remember, we should be having 3-4 stools per day. Every time we eat, we should be having a bowel movement - Just like babies - they haven't been around long enough to mess up their systems. We also take a liquid calcium supplement. My 10 year old daughter tends to be more constipated than not, and by increasing the amount of liquid calcium when necessary, we keep her regular. Once kids realize that pooping doesn't have to hurt (when you can get it loose enough to pass easily and freely), they will stop holding it. When they do hold it, they become toxic pretty quickly. It has been said that the liquid in your stool becomes re-absorbed thru the colon in as little as 20 minutes after you DON'T poop. Those toxins that the body is trying to get rid of, then just re-circulate thru your system. So, diet (add fiber,fruits and veggies),lots of water, and I would recommend a liquid calcium and/or liquid whole-food vitamin/mineral supplement. I am happy to share what we use if you are interested. Otherwise, I would look to natural products that have laxative effects - prune juice, etc,

Annmarie - posted on 01/13/2010

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My pediatrician recommended Miralax and it works wonders. My son has since been to see a pediatric gastroenterologist, who also had some good suggestions. My son gets 1/2 capful of Miralax at breakfast and the same at dinner. (we call it tummy yummies) We watch how much dairy he ingests, because that will also back him up. And he sits on the potty after every breakfast and dinner to get in the habit of going. He can have a book or leapster, just something to relax him. We also try to increase his water intake. We're gradually weaning his Miralax, but it's a work in progress. The doctor said he was holding it in beacuse it was so hard and painful, and it just became a cycle.

I see other parents recomming high-fiber diets. The pediatric gastroenterologist said my son had too much fiber in his diet, so go figure.

Good luck!

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DEFINITELY DON'T GIVE HER ANY CHEESE. THAT WILL CONSTIPATE HER. DON'T GIVE TOO MUCH APPLE JUICE. TRY PRUNE JUICE R PRUNES.

Sandi - posted on 01/13/2010

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FYI to those who say correct the problem with more fiber...that's great if you child will eat foods with more fiber, but if you have a real picky eater like my daughter, that isn't really a viable option. Apple juice didn't work for our daughter, nor did pear juice as one of my friends suggested. Apple juice was all she used to drink and it was like pulling teeth to get her to drink water (still is).....you can't force someone to eat something they really don't want to. In our daughter's case, she used eating as a control issue and I think she also had some sensory issues with certain foods, which is probably why she weighed less than 15 lbs. at 21 months when we brought her home from China. Initially, the only foods she would eat were pasta, cheese, eggs, and cream of wheat...no veggies or fruits, and would only drink apple juice. I guess my point is that the obvious healthy solution is to get more fiber, but sometimes the overall problem may be more complex and require alternative solutions....

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U MEAN 2 TELL ME, THAT HE DR. DIDN'T GIVE U R RECOMMENDED THAT U GET SOMETHING 4 THIS CONSTIPATION? TRY GIVING HER ALOT OF FIBER IN HER DIET. THAT SHOULD KEEP HER REGULAR, AND STOP GIVING HER ALOT OF DIFFERENT LAXATIVES. MAKE SURE SHE GETS PLENTY OF WATER AS WELL.

Cali - posted on 01/12/2010

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In my experience with my daughter we use apple juice, not watered down, just straight apple juice. There's something in it that makes it a natural laxative. It's been working for my kiddo in these situations. Good Luck!!

Mandy - posted on 01/12/2010

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Hi Heather! Definatly try the high fiber foods, white grape juice, apple sauce. My daughter had a problem with processing dairy ... we had to switch her to soy milk for a while until her body regulated itself. You can also try an over the counter stool softener to get her to go easier one time and then continue the high fiber, low lactose diet. Hope she gets relief soon!

Stephanie - posted on 01/12/2010

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Thank goodness i have never had to much of a issue with this. But if she is holding it is she hiding in another room or something when she really has to go, Like does she dance around or anything to avoid from going and forcing herself to hold it. As far as laxatives go i would stick to the more natural fiber foods and juices rather than meds and if she is to bound up i would go with enema or suppository.

Sandi - posted on 01/12/2010

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My 5 year old daughter for the first 3 - 4 years had lots of constipation problems...sorry for being graphic, but her poop was like a hard round cannon ball of many smaller poop balls. The constipation problems were giving her tummy aches which led to her not eating as much as she should. We adopted her from China when she was 21 months old and she was malnurished and weighed less than 15 lbs when we brought her home. We desperately needed her to eat more, but she wouldn't because of the poop situation. Her pediatrician prescribed Miralax, which you can purchase over the counter, although the prescription version is definitely better. At any rate, we give her a small dose in orange juice every day, and have for nearly 2 years now and it has resolved the problem. I don't know if Katie was holding it because it hurt, or it was just that she didn't like to eat enough fruits and veggies, yogurt, etc. to keep things flowing, but Miralax made a huge difference for her..... A friend of mine who also adopted from China had the same problem and she was told to give a small dose of Milk of Magnesia daily. Good luck...I know what a big concern this can be!!

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My daughter is also 5 and used to suffer like this. The best cure to get her to go was always eating kiwi fruit..this also worked for a friend of mine for her daughter. Always feel the natural remedies are the best. She has mostly grown out of it now. A balanced diet with fruit and veg helps (luckily she loves both!). Hope this helps.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/12/2010

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My daughter (6) has had similar problems all her life and the only thing that has helped is lots of pure grape juice and grapes/strawberries, plenty of exercise and reassurance from us. We encourage her to try and 'go' as soon as she feels she needs to and explained that the sooner she goes the less painful it will be. x

Giselaida - posted on 01/10/2010

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Do not give her too many laxatives. At the end it does more harm because the natural movement of her intestines is going to get used to the laxative. Be careful with the fiber!!! if you give her fiber from any source make sure that she drinks lots of water. If she does not then the fiber will cause more constipation. I give my son high fiber (13%) cold cereal a few times a wk and Plum Smart juice (it taste good). Also, I give him probiotics for his immune system and that helps the digestive system. Good luck!

Michele - posted on 01/05/2010

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Quoting Heather:

Painful poops

My daughter is 5 years old she is having trouble pooping she screams when on the toilet I have to give about three doses of laxative to get her to go. I took her to her doctor and she said she is holding it. IDoes anyone have any suggestions on what i could give her. Please help.



Hi Heather, how are you?  I know this probably sounds really random but my daughter did the same thing. She is now 13 but when she was 21 months started doing the same thing.  Did your daughter start quite suddenly doing this?  I got told the same with me but nothing actually made sense, her behaviour became so bad that she actually 9 months later got diagnosed as being ADHD.. thank goodness I didnt accept this and took her to a cranial osteopath and it turns out she actually had broken her coccyx?  Maybe take her to a osteopath or better still a cranial osteo - you have nothing to lose.  Maybe something is twisted, out of whack?  I hope this helps you?



Regards Michele

Wendy - posted on 01/05/2010

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all these ideas are great but they might not be the right things for your daughter I would go to the docs treatment for one child my not be right for the next! its like passing your meds on to someone else what is right for you might not be for some one else if this carries on then the doctors is the answer!

Jennifer - posted on 01/05/2010

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My daughter has the same problem and she is 5 as well. She has been having problems ever since we started potty training. The doctor told me to give her miralax every single day in her milk or juice. You will have to adjust her dosage until you find what works. I gives her 1 teaspoon and it help. The doctor told us this is fairly common.

Debbie - posted on 01/04/2010

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Miralax! It's odorless and tasteless and maintains soft stool. Totally works...my 6 yr old has been off/on it for 2 yrs, I use it as needed. Lots of fluids and fiber diet she's fine but sometimes we get off track ie. vacation, holidays...it's a lifesaver!

Coleen - posted on 01/04/2010

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if you can manage to get her to drink, the best solution is brown sugar in boiled water. About 11/5 teaspoons in about 1/5 glass of tepid boiled water worked a treat with my kids. They go naturally when ready rather than waiting for the laxative to work which can be ambarrassing at times. As well as try and put her in a warm bath with some relaxing bubble bath. Palmolive lavender works a treat with my kids if they have a pain in the belly and the floating action in the water takes away the muscle strain in the stomache. Also try to cut back a little on cheese as this can constipate and full cream milk as this can bloat and maybe some grapes. You only have to do this short term or when ever she has the problem, i am not a dietician so it certainly is not to replace her eating patterns long term and if it works for you then as I did, I cut back on these items permanently and replaced them with yoghurts and other sources to maintain their diets.......

Annette - posted on 01/04/2010

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I wonder if making some changes in her diet - less milk products, more fruit and more water help soften the stools and make it easier to go. Then give her a nice warm bath to relax her. These things have helped people I know.

Wendy - posted on 01/04/2010

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Hi heather my daughter had the same problem and I went to the doc's and he gave her fibergell which comes in a powder form which you add water to and it make a orange drink,I added half the water it said then topped the drink up with orange juice which gave it a better taste. But with all the advice mums will give you the best thing to do is take her to the doctor all the best wendy

Denise - posted on 01/03/2010

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Hey Heather,

I'm not a mother of a small child anymore but when I read about your problem it brought back memories of my now 18yr old. When she was 4-5 she had the same problem including the screaming. It was so sad for my husband and I to witness and we felt so sorry for her. One thing, she loved cheese and ate a lot of it. So if your daughter is eating cheese and lots of other dairy products that could be contributing. We tried everything but not laxatives. We even noticed that when she did poop her poop was "large in size" and looked like a grown ups poops. Just wanted you to know that she will eventually out grown this situation/problem. Your daughter will be fine and this too shall pass. Just try to encourage her by letting her know that it will get better and some diet changes may help. Good luck to you!

Tanja - posted on 01/03/2010

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Have you considered having her see a chiropractor? They can help significantely with that problem. Just something to think about.

Barbara - posted on 01/03/2010

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I had the same problem with my son from the time he starting toilet training (who is now 9 years old). We even had to resort to hospital visits to get the big "E" at times because he held it for so many days. It is a vicious circle, they have trouble pooping so they hold it which just makes it worse. The doctors just seem to tell you to just up their fibre intake but my son is unbelievably picky and that just wasn't working for us. I did find a couple of things that worked for us. One, we made sitting on the toilet to poop as part of his bedtime routine. If he didn't go that day then he needs to try and go before he brushes his teeth and usually he can produce something. Also, Fibersure has a product that is a tasteless, non-thickening fibre powder that you can mix into just about anything (juice, pasta sauce, pancake batter) and they don't even know that it is in there which helps keep him regular. If, he doesn't poop for a couple of days, we give him a stool softener called Lactulose. It is sweet and thick so he doesn't mind taking it and it works pretty quickly. You don't need a prescription for it but you get it behind the counter at the pharmacy and can get the proper dosage online. Hope this helps. Good luck!

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I had the same problem with my son a while back, when I took him to the dr he was prescribed the generic MiraLax, the dosage is different for children. That helped my son become regular though I had to speak to him about the dangers of holding it in. He becomes constipated here and there but if I used the Miralax that helps him a lot. Also the dr reccomendes an edema in case he hadnt used the bathroom in quite a while...I never used it on him. Hope this helps

Marcia - posted on 01/02/2010

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hi heather, maybe the reason sh's holding it is because she remembers how painful the last one is. usually around winter time my daughter has problems pooping esp. when she does not drink lots of water, what's her diet like? may need to change it. my 4 year old is now startin to experience jnk food lol from parties etc. Lots of water, plenty of prune juice helps, along with lots of brocoli. i use Orvilax (laxative) doc recomended it. A few drops does wonders! and is mild on the stomach. dont know if u will get this in your state. her age her dosage will be around 6-8 drops.

Sharon - posted on 01/02/2010

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I had the same problem with two of my daughters and after visiting alot of docs, we found that it was dairy products more specifically milk. Try switching to soy milk, it made the world of difference. It takes a while for them to get accustomed to the taste but it's worth it. Lots of water and fruits in the diet as well. Hope this works.

Michelle - posted on 01/01/2010

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Castor oil works wonders but is not a everyday solution. I would suggest plenty of water, grape juice,prunes and or prune juice and add plenty of dark green vegetables to her diet daily. Also try giving her a healthy treat as a reward after a BM to see if she is holding it because she does not want to stop doing whatever it is she doing at the time. Make those snacks something along the line of a gogurt.

Laurie - posted on 01/01/2010

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This happened to my son when on the bottle I gave him Goats milk and it cleared up. Or maybe slip some prune juice in her juice.....My son eats alot of fruit,it helps,...

Angelique - posted on 01/01/2010

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Hi Heather! My name is Angela and I have a 3 year-old daughter with the same problem. I had to take her to the hospital because it had been 2 weeks since she went. They did an enima (liquid medicine that's put in her bum to break down the accumulation in her intestines), but in the end it helped her a lot. The doctors there told me to never give her any ex-lax because it is not good for kids. They instead suggested we use mineral oil to lubrify their system, give them a lot of water, feed them fresh vegetables and loads of fruit, ex: bell peppers, carrots, brocoli, cauliflower, celeri, cherries, strawberries, grapes, melon, watermelon, blueberries...
Avoid foods like rice, too much pasta, apples, bananas and anything else considered constipating. The doctor told me to give her a gel called "lansoyl" which you can mix in her apple sauce or spread on her toast like jam. The pharmacist also recommended a liquid called "senokot" which can be mixed in with her night time dose of milk.
Try them out and let me know how it goes. I hope this information will be very helpful for your little girl.

Christen - posted on 01/01/2010

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My son has the same problem, I started buying Activia for him because that's what I use. It works great, I give him 1 yogurt a day, it took about 3-4 days for it to soften his poop.

Rachael - posted on 01/01/2010

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I had the same problem with my son. He would literally hold his for days, sometimes a week. His doctor recommended coke syrup. Take some coke cola and stir it until it is flat. I also found that if I put him in a warm tub it would help him to go. I know that sounds disgusting because of the clean up afterwards, but it really helped alot. I had to tell him it was ok to go in the tub and the warm water helps. Good luck.

Tasha - posted on 01/01/2010

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Like the other said, make sure she drinks lots of water, increase her fiber intake and give her fruits (that start with the letter "P" (that helped my daughter)

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