potty training my 3-1/2 year old daughter

Cheryl - posted on 01/05/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 3-1/2. She'll pee on the potty no problem. #2-no go. She wants nothing to do with it. We've tried everything from putting a movie she wants in the bathroom and telling her she can watch it when she goes, reading to her, trying to have her just sit on the potty, taking things away when she goes in her pants-everything. Im at my wits end and outta ideas. Any suggestions are WELCOME!

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Cheryl - posted on 01/07/2009

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yea, that's what we've been doing, even when she pees.  Im just going to sit and wait (somewhat) patiently :)

Lisa - posted on 01/07/2009

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Absolutely not unusual. Mine was the same way. She will get it. Just give her praise and make it a big deal when she does and she will be more motivated than ever.

Cheryl - posted on 01/06/2009

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THANK YOU!  Im not the only one.  My brother who's now 27, wasnt fully trained until he was almost 5.  My mom says that she reminds her a lot of him-Im thinking "gee great".  Yes, we'll hang in there-I told Makayla Santa was going to bring her diapers for christmas.  She's too smart, she knew I was lying.  It was almost a reality, I really felt like it because I was soo frustrated.  Some kids just take longer and she's a strong willed, determined kid.  Thanks for your support, its MUCH appreciated!

Jessica - posted on 01/06/2009

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I am going through the same thing and my daughter is the same age as yours.  I have tried giving rewards for poo, I tried stickers on a chart on the wall, treats, princess dresses etc.. but nothing works.  I even give her Miralax in case she is blocked up, she still goes in a corner and does it in her panties or holds it so just a bit comes out.  I am at my wits end as well, lets just hang in there, after all they won;t be pooping their pants in college ;-)

Cheryl - posted on 01/06/2009

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She goes to daycare, in which there are other kids there who go on the potty.  She wont poop in her pants at daycare, but will when she gets home.  Im going to chill, not say anything when she goes in her pants and pray!  Thanks for the words of wisdom!

Marina - posted on 01/06/2009

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Hey Cheryl,

Does your little girl go to Pre- school? I find that when a group of little ones are together there is a competitiveness amongst them. My daughter saw her friends going #2 on the pottie , so Monkey see,Monkey do do ...as it were...sorry for the pun..

It will happen if you don't stress her. I'm a retired Pedi RN, I have noticed and studies have shown that there is an increase in incopresis when the child is stressed. On the other side there is a huge problem with constipation and enlarged bowel syndrome. If you chill, she will chill, then she will realise that she is not in control and doesn't get the attention that she is looking for...she may start trying to gain that attention by going on the pot.

Good luck.

Cheryl - posted on 01/06/2009

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she is in panties that she picked out and promised not to poop in.  we also tell her that we will reward her when she goes.  the material things dont care.  she wants to be a "big girl" and do big girl things and we tell her that she cant (things like dance class) until she stops pooping in her pants, but it doesnt bother her.  I wont put her back in pullups because that seems to me to be a regression and then she wants to pee in them too.  i guess i just have to wait for her to be ready!  thanks for your insight!

Sabrina - posted on 01/06/2009

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I know the feeling.  My little girl was just about out of the diaper stage about a year and a half to 2 years ago and then my husband and I decided to end the marriage but we are going to stay together(long story, don't ask) and our little girl totally digressed.  Taking things away, doens't get it done found that out, try talking to her find out on her level why she doesn't want to use the potty.  My little girl who is now 41/2 is finally getting back on the band wagon and going, I started having her wear panties instead of pull ups and let her pick them out at the store rather than me buying them and bringing them home to her.  She has told me, her daddy, and my parents that she doesn't want to use the potty because she won't be the baby anymore and because she is afraid to go to school.  I am learning that the panties seem to have a more positive effect than pull ups for one thing if she pees it goes down her leg, etc.  Like your lettle girl peeing not problem, go to walmoart get the parents choice brand, they have these toddler wipes the initial box is like $1.97 and the refills are like $.97 that also seems to help in the motivation.



We told our little girl who seems to want everything she see on the tv that when she is no longer in pullups and can go all day everyday using the potty, we will get her the things she wants one by one for no longer using pull ups anymore at all.  that is also seeming to help get the ball rolling.  With the panties I don't have to ride her as much about going potty, however I do still have to give the occasional..."Taylor you need to go to the potty"...but not as often. 



 



That is my suggestion, hope it helps...talk to you soon....feel free to email me or message me if you need to....Take care....Sabrina

Claudia - posted on 01/05/2009

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My daughter was motivated early becuase she wanted to wear skirts and nylons/tights and she didnt like how the skirts looked with the diapers. She also wanted to go to school and we told her that she couldnt go because she couldnt use the toilet by herself... having older children around also helped becuase they would encourage her to go and praise what a big girl she was.

Cheryl - posted on 01/05/2009

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thanks, i work in mental health as a clinician so i THOUGHT i knew what to do, but i realize that she's in control, not me.  Say a prayer for my sanity-thats what i need most-lol

Cheryl - posted on 01/05/2009

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thanks, i work in mental health as a clinician so i THOUGHT i knew what to do, but i realize that she's in control, not me.  Say a prayer for my sanity-thats what i need most-lol

Veronica - posted on 01/05/2009

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It is incredibly frustrating. In time it will all come together, until then it's just such an inconvenience. Best of Luck!

Cheryl - posted on 01/05/2009

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We've asked her if anything scares her, and have the little thing that goes over the big potty and the chair.  she's gone a couple of times and we made a big huge deal out of it, even going to the store right then to buy a little car she wanted.  She simply says "I dont wanna poop  on the potty"  GRRRR.  Thanks for the insight!

Veronica - posted on 01/05/2009

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My son did the same thing, it drove me mad. He was night trained before he was #2 trained. I found out that for him he was scared that if he sat on the potty for that long, he would get flushed down the toilet somehow. Well once we found this out we showed him some experiments on what can and cannot go down and how the toilet works. Worked for us, good luck!

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