Lehana - posted on 11/07/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
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I am pregnant with my second child I am around 13weeks and 3days. I have to tell my 2year old sometime, I spoke to a person that is a child psychologist. She seems to think once I start showing then I should tell my daughter. I feel like maybe i should start telling her now. Maybe to prepare her?
Please help I don't know what to do.
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Mommy - posted on 11/13/2011
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Your child won't understand the concept until you begin to have concrete evidence of the baby inside, such as you showing and the baby moving, and your other child feeling it. Telling them now won't really prepare them, because they won't understand enough to be prepared. In all likelihood they won't get it until the baby is born. Childrent hat age are not able to think abstractly, so if it's not concrete it is beyond them.
Amy - posted on 11/07/2011
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My son was 3 when we became pregnant with his sister. We had started talking about having a baby before we got pregnant. Once we got pregnant we told him immediately and he went to every doctors appointment with my husband and myself. Once we knew what we were having he helped pick out the name and chose the theme for the bedrooms. He was very involved through the whole pregnancy I'm not sure what benefit there is to waiting until your showing. My son obviously was an only child but he was also the only grandchild too until his sister came along so we were concerned about how he would be sharing the spotlight, needless to say they are very close even though there is a 4 year age gap between them.
Sharon - posted on 11/07/2011
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Well, I am no child psychologist, so I can only share my experience with you. I am 8 weeks pregnant with my second child. I'm not sure if my 14 month old daughter will understand that I will be having another baby, but my 7 years old stepdaughter will understand. My husband and I told her and she seems to be very happy, and even tried talking to the baby last night. Did you happen to ask the child psychologist why you should wait until you start showing? I really don't have an answer for you. Just do what you feel is right. Good luck!
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