Coleen - posted on 10/02/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 7 year old daughter has become quite a challenge lately and I am wondering if this is a control issue. The problem is often related to food, but can also develop if she is not allowed to do something she wants to do. If she finds something in her lunch box which she doesn't want, she simply leaves it and does not eat lunch. At dinner, she will get up from the table, refusing to eat but saying she's hungry. When possible, we make her return to the table until she finishes at least a reasonable portion and an untouched lunch might become dinner (depending on what it is and the time outside a frig.) Other refusals include refusing to wear a dress on a special occasion, refusing to speak her father's native language to him (which is the norm) when she is mad at him, or refusing to continue playing in a soccer game when the coach (Dad) has given the throw-in to another child, etc. Her walking off the soccer pitch resulting in the canceling of a sleep-over later that day. There were lots of tears, begging, and apologies, but I doubt it will make a difference. Normally when something is taken away, she responds with, "I don't care, I didn't want that anyway." Any ideas?!?