Should I start back at work Full time or Part time?

Iysha - posted on 09/13/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I work for an oral surgeon and our hours are crazy most of the time. The job is supposed to be from 8-5 but more often then not I find myself working 7:30-6:30 with a 35 minute commute. I am thinking of just going from 8-1 everyday or just working full days 3 days a week. I just don't want to go to work full time and have sleepless nights. At my job I am on my feet all day in surgery and don't want to make it harder for me than it has to be. I feel guilty though because I know we could really benifit financially if I work full time. Anybody have any suggestions or advice?

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Kristi - posted on 09/14/2009

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It's not always best to go for the money. Your child needs you to be okay and if going back to work full time is too hard on you then I wouldn't do it. I returned to work and full time school when my son was 6 months, my daughters were 3 and 6 years old. I survived but my health paid the price later. By the Grace of God, we have done very well. I was a single mom and children not only need money but a lot of time. Use your time wisely while they are young. It is also good to have a support team. People that you can talk to and confide in. No one is perfect and no one expects you to be. Try part time work and see how it goes before you go full time. God Bless!!

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Wendy - posted on 09/22/2009

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Perhaps you can go back part time and find something part time from home to work around your family, if you need extra income. I found a home business that I work around my family's schedule. I don't do parties, I don't sell products, and best of all I'm saving our household money each month just by switching stores. LMK if you would like to take a look.

Wendy

Doran - posted on 09/22/2009

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yes, it seems like it'll be financially beneficial presently, but I feel that you're tremendously benefiting your child by staying home with him/her more. I have forbid myself from feeling guilty from work-related issues because I've made my family a priority and it works for me. If your work can allow you to work part-time, I'd say go for it!

Karen - posted on 09/21/2009

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I completely changed my occupation when I needed some extra money when my oldest was a baby. I went from an office administrator job to being a Barnardo's caregiver, taking in other children. It was a great move - my son had constant company, I was earning a reasonable income equal to what I would have got going back part time, without the daycare costs. They provide on-the-job training, and as I was "working" the kids and I did a lot more than I probably would have done if we had just been at home on our own - we went to the park, playgroups for Barnardo's caregivers (where the children were looked after while we did our training), we did lots of educational things at home as well. When I eventually went back into admin, the woman who hired me told me I got the job because if I could handle having four children all day, clearly I could handle anything!

Jennifer - posted on 09/21/2009

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I think it might be helpful for you to start back part-time just to see if you can handle the changes dealing with work and home. You don't want to over do it cause it want benefit you or your family. I hope you are able to find a balance between the two that suits you.

Zakeana - posted on 09/21/2009

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Is there any way you can start back to work Part Time for a month or two, just to get back into the swing of things and start learning how to juggle your "full time unpaid" job (motherhood)? Is 8-1 your only "part time" option? Is your boss open to flexible work schedules at all even for just a few months while you get yourself into a routine of getting up and out the door on time every day (and likely dropping your wee one off at daycare of some sort...)

Alison - posted on 09/18/2009

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You will find your family will benefit immensely from your extra time at home. It is definitely worth the financial sacrifice if you are able to manage it.

Iysha - posted on 09/17/2009

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Thanks. I think I am going to go back for full days only Tues. Thurs. and Fri. On Wed. I didn't have anyone to watch my baby so it takes care of that problem. My boss should be ok with the schedule too since that was the schedule I was on when I was in school last semester. I'm also taking a break from school so my boyfriend can finish his schooling. Hopefully he gets a good job afterward....then maybe I won't have to work! lol. God, I would love to be able to be a stay at home mom =]

Jill - posted on 09/17/2009

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if going back to work , works for you let me know how you do it...the whole house falls apart here and i have been working seasonal for years because full time didnt work for me and the kids...and seasonal is not working all that good i work all summer and spend most of the winter getting things back in order here just in time to start all over again...

Jillian - posted on 09/17/2009

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Here is another thought...not sure if it would be an option for you. But I have decided to go back to work 4 days/week instead of 5. Meaning, I work 32 hours instead of 40. Financially, I can't afford to work part-time, so this seemed like a good compromise. Also, make sure that if you decide to go part-time, that you will REALLY be working just part-time. Many people reduce their hours only to find out that the only thing to really get reduced is their paycheck. So just be sure you'd actually get off work on time everyday and aren't working more than what you are getting paid for.

Emily - posted on 09/16/2009

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Try working part time unless you are no able to afford it. You would be less stressed out trying balance work and home, I say this from experience. It is honestly the best choice for your child. Kids need parents to physically be there, no amount of money will change that. Besides, when it is all said and done you want to be the one to directly influence your child not a family member, nanny or day care.

Trish - posted on 09/15/2009

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I decided after a full-time traineeship to go part time, it's the best decision I ever made. I'm able to juggle home life and professional so much better and I always say my children will be older one day and then I will have all the time in the world to build my careers and fiance, but I will never ever get back the years I missed out on my children growing up.

Kylie - posted on 09/14/2009

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I think that part-time is definately the way to go, it will provide you with a balance, away from the little one and have some adult conversations but still being able to spend time with the little one as well. I know that is what kept my sane for the last 2 years. Try to remember money isn't every thing, but it definately does help. If you find that working part-time is not rewarding or financial enough, then atleast you have given it a go, then go back to full-time, as long as you have someone to look after the little one or are able to afford childcare on a fulltime basis - which can be very expensive...

Louise - posted on 09/14/2009

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It depends i started part time until my son went to school full time, that was in catering and it does wear you out. I'm now lucky that that i work nights as a hca so i start work when he's in bed an back for school following morning, but that didn't happen until he was 7 and a half. Do whatever you think will suit you to be honest financially you are better offworking full time but i managed ok with a part time wage, as i find the more money i've got the more i waste

Lori - posted on 09/14/2009

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part time if you can ............better for a harmonious home/work life balance.

Julie - posted on 09/13/2009

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Hi Iysha,



I went back to work four months after my second Son was born. I was working from 8am until 5.30pm, and overtime until midnight two weeks out of four. That was the biggest mistake I ever made.



We were not financially stable at the time, and thought it was for the best............it was so not.



My second son is now nine years old, I am a single mum, and work as a Learning Support Assistant at my Sons school. I earn a third of what I did before, but have never been happier!



You WILL manage, you will adapt, but you will never be able to have the quality time you do now with your child. Go back part time. You wont survive your gruelling schedule, long hours, but most of all, you will miss all of the most important parts of your babies achievements. Dont do what I did, money really is not worth it.



Julie . UK

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