stressed out!

Brittany - posted on 06/25/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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work full time, school part time, two kids. christopher had sports and home work and than i have dinner to make, baths to give and homework of my own to do and clean up before i go to bed! but im wrong for always bein grumpy????

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Hayley - posted on 06/28/2010

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Nope. Like lorriane says you need YOU time and that is not being selfish or anything. I have learnt the hard way with my young one, and now include her in chores - she is 18 months and I know there are mums out there who think I still no nothing but she helps mummy empty the washer and now even wants to dry dishes. I start saying now before she goes to bed that she is going to bed and mummy is going to have some mummy time be that tyding up etc. The other thing that my friend told me was that cleaing up is not the meaning of life when you have kids. I do one room in the house every night so I still clean but not all in one go. Some nights I don't get to do it but as long as Little H is fine and happy and healthy, I try not to worry about it. You are not wrong to feel grumpy, mad, fed up and low. Its how you feel. I still get that and I am out of work at the moment! It will come right....:-)

Carly - posted on 06/25/2010

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Hi Brittany,
I'm a life coach for moms and talk to many mothers who feel spread thin with all the stuff they have to do. It's understandable for you to feel "grumpy", tired and stressed out. You have a lot on your plate. Sounds like you're overcommitted. Think about what you can let go of to give yourself some much needed down time. Do you always have to clean up before bed, or can you give yourself permission to leave the dishes in the sink and take a bath instead? It's crucial for your well being that you take some time for yourself everyday to relax and slow down. I hope this helps. Good luck!

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Maria - posted on 07/08/2010

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You are not wrong you are human!! lack of sleep makes us grumpy, when I do not get enough sleep I loose patience quicker, give yourself a slack sometimes and do not loose your patience with your kids

Jocelyn - posted on 07/08/2010

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You need to move some things off your plate. I have been in your shoes. I worked full time, went to school part time, two little ones, and a house to take care of. I had to resolve that my house was not going to be spotless, but enlisted my two little ones to help out by putting their own things away. As for dinners, I cooked at the beginning of the month for the whole month. I froze things in the freezer. It made life easier. And, I always took one hour each Sunday for myself. I would draw a warm bath, get a glass of wine and sit down with a great romance novel. Make sure you enlist your spouse to help out. He can fold laundry, run the kids to sports practice, and make dinner.

Rebekah - posted on 07/06/2010

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Yep,it's a vicious circle sure enough!.I'm the main wage earner in my house right now and I'm also the one who manages the finances,it's a real nightmare trying to juggle a full-time job,pay all the bills eventually and try and spend some quality time with the kids as well.Luckily hubby is home all day so he does the bulk of the housework and gets our little one off to school and makes sure our son gets up for work but it's a never ending struggle to manage everything.I try to have sundays off and then I take my little girl out for a few hours so we can have some time but I never get any quality time with my husband.We've just had our first holiday away with it being just the three of us and it was lovely,we all spent lots of time together and there were no cross words or tantrums from anyone!.I had to do some major juggling and saving to afford the holiday but it was worth it.Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to get the right result in the end,sometimes it's deciding to work those few extra hours or days when you'd rather be out playing in the park with the kids,but you do it because it means that in a while you can spend decent time with them.The ultimate sacrifice is knowing that you can't get those lost hours back again but that gives you the incentive to make every hour you do share worthwhile.

Amiee - posted on 07/04/2010

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Hi Brittany,
I know it seems hard now and it is but hang in there you will be finished with school soon and it will be all woth it. I was doing the same thing years ago when my daughter was 4 and I know its hard but when its done you will be so proud of yourself and you will be able to show your kids how important it is to go to school. Goodluck and hang in there.

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I'm in the same boat. I work full time, school part time, tae kwon do, and trying to be outside with the kids instead of inside doing homework - Not to mention the house work - Ugh trust me I know how you feel.

Always take time for yourself. Exercise will help you feel better physically and emotionally, and will help keep you awake to do homework. That's my problem I run, run, run as soon as I sit down to do homework I fall asleep. So relax, if you can't join a gym exercise at home to videos, and try doing it in the morning before the kids get up, it will give you energy for the rest of the day!!! Good luck - & stay in school, no matter how long it takes!

Faren - posted on 07/01/2010

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Ask for help its ok ta skip a chore evry once n a while. i wrk full tme go ta skool hve 3 n im single. Sumtmes u juw gta tke a step bck n breathe.

Linda - posted on 07/01/2010

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I can totally understand. I am a single mother who works a full time and part time job. I joined beauticontrol not too long ago at a spa I went to just to get the discount on the products. I learned how to take time out for me even if it's only a 30 minute bath with bath minerals or do a detox masque on my face! It's okay to teach the kids that Mom has to have just a little me time at least a couple times a week at least.

Edna - posted on 07/01/2010

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Brittany,I totally understand where you are coming from. I work full-time as a paraprofessional at a local school district working with students that are severely mentally retarded. I also attend school full-time working towards my teaching certification. I have 3 kids that need assistance with their homework. I also have to get dinner ready and make sure everything is ready for the next day. Plus make sure the kids take their showers. I also rely on my husband for a lot of things that I can not get done like laundry and cleaning. Plus I look forward to the weekends where I can sleep in and relax a little bit. Once in a while when I have time I go to a local nail salon and get pampered so that I can relax. All I can say is that with everything that is going on in our busy lives make sure you take time out for yourself or you will burn out.

Fatima - posted on 06/28/2010

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I see what you mean. God Bless Your Heart! I'm a single mom with four children between the ages of 8 and 14 and I am going through the same thing. I was just thinking about the fact that I am very stressed out, so I decided to go on facebook for a change, and I saw your comment. I kind of felt better that I am not alone! Take care of yourself, that's very important for your kids and for yourself. Good luck with everything :)

Lorraine Alicia - posted on 06/26/2010

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I know it is alot but just be carefull when dealing with the kids. I made the mistake of pushing them away because i was to stress to deal with them. You have already been given good advice you need to learn to leave certain things for later and give yourself somtime. If you give yourself some alone time the work will not become easier ( i am sorry) but you will be able to cope with the stress much better.

Christina - posted on 06/25/2010

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No, you are not wrong for being grumpy. I am a single mom of 3. I worked full time, went to school full time and came home to deal with what you listed as well. It's a crazy life we mothers go through and I think we have every right to be "grumpy" now and then. :)
Just remember to take some time to breathe and remember ---This too will pass...
It does end sometime...doesn't it?? SMILE !

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