Trying to get my husband to help more around the house!

Stosha - posted on 11/18/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I work anywhere from 25-40 hours a week and on some of those days I work from either 8-11 hour shifts which can be stressful at times and the reason being is because when I get home from work, I no matter what go and give my daughter bunches of love because I hade been gone from her all day. Then once that is done I tend to the house rather it's laundry, cleaning or even cooking dinner. I get so tired and my husband wonders why I'm so tired all the time. He's got an obsession with his video games which is fine once in a while but what do I have to do to get a little help. It'd be one thing if I didn't work at all but since we both work I think we both should tend to the house duties. What do ya'll think? Any advice on how to get him to help more?

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Stosha - posted on 11/25/2009

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Barbara, I never thought of it that way. I know exactually what you mean by gamer points too lol.



Ladies: I've asked so many times for his help and he does help, but when he does help he's so eagered to get it done it's half ass and then I have to go behind him and redo it. Then he asks whats wrong with what he's done then he just says fine then you do it grrr. Men?

Barbara - posted on 11/22/2009

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I reward him with "experience point" (it's a gamer thing) for each task. When he builds up so many XP's, he gets something he wants. He is now very ambitious!

Brandy - posted on 11/22/2009

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Men just need to be told what to do because if you don't,,,,they do the minimal amount expected. Its not that they are intentionally being a lazy spouse but that is what they do best....lol....I tell my husband what I have to do with the chores and then I always say, "Honey, I would love to be able to spend more time with you. Could you help so I can get done faster and we can talk/spend time together/go have special time/etc." It usually works if I stay positive and give him lots of kisses...lol..

Kate - posted on 11/22/2009

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Just tell him! I had gastric flu and couldn't get out of bed for a week. At which point my husband had to do everything. From driving the boys to nursey or school. Usual day at work & Shopping in between before he had to pick the boys back up again.Then housework, cooking, bathing etc when he got home. He now appreciates me far more......... (funnily enough!)

Sandra - posted on 11/20/2009

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Honestly it is a hard task to accomplish! After 15 years of being together I've FINALLY got mine doing a fair amount of it ... it took marriage counseling and being told by an outside party that his behavior/reasoning for not helping was childish and he needs to step up and be an adult.
I wish you the very best of luck with this one. Try not to let it distress you too much.

Amanda - posted on 11/19/2009

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I wish I had the answer if you find ne let me know lol!! I have been sick for the last 2 weeks with the flu and a secondary infection from the flu, and he has done nothing except let me order food because had no energy to clean the dishes or cook, he has however kept the kids busy and out of my hair

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