Unleashed!!!

Michelle - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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How do you feel about putting your kids on a "leash"?

I personally feel that if you have to put your child on a "leash" then you obviously cannot control your children and/or you dont have the time or patience to teach them to stay with you. Leashes are absolutely ridiculous!!! I have 2 boys and they have to hold my hand at ALL times when we are out and about. They KNOW they have to stay with me because I have instilled awareness of what can happen to them if they dont stay with me. This is my opinion.

Im posting this because I am interested in what other mothers have to say about this subject.

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Alison - posted on 04/08/2010

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I would say that it is unfair to judge other parents based on your experience with your kids. Perfect parents with perfect kids do not need leashes. But since most families are imperfect, better leashed than lost!!!

Melissa - posted on 04/09/2010

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My son is 9 months old. He just started crawling, no where near the walking stage yet. I have never used one, but I would never compare a harness to a leash. It is another measure of safety. Just because a crib or high chair are 'socially acceptable' doesn't change the fact that it is the same concept. People like you are the only ones who make it against the social norm.

If my 2 year old can walk, then he will walk, whether he is holding my hand or not. I will not put him in a stroller, that is lazy, not a leash... not letting your child walk when they can, they need the exercise. No matter what you have taught your children, some are easily distracted, and need the back up of a harness. How is holding your hand different than a harness anyway, what they have to be raising their hand so you can hold them? Harnessing and holding hands are the same thing, they are 'attached' to you either way. A harness just gives them more room, it allows them to explore what is on the ground (ie. picking up a colorful leaf or a sparkly rock). If you are holding their hand, when do they get to explore?

I think that harnesses are great when used with discipline. With a harness, a child should still know to stay by mom or dad.

I was at the fair last summer with a friend of mine and her family. Her husband is 350 lbs, not a small guy, at all, and I lost him. That was the turning point for me thinking harnesses aren't bad. If I can loose a 350lb man, who was just right next to me, then there is no doubt that a child could loose his grip of your hand and be lost in the crowd. Or someone could snatch him up, right out of your hands, and you wouldn't know where to look because all around you are people, he could be 4 feet away, and you wouldn't be able to see him.

It is only socially unacceptable because of ignorance. If we all stopped comparing a harness to a dog's leash, we'd get over it and see that it is meant as an extra measure of safety.

Melissa - posted on 04/08/2010

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I don't think putting a leash on a child to keep them by your side is any different than putting them in a crib to keep them from rolling off the bed, or strapping them in a high chair to keep them from falling, giving them a bedtime so they get their much needed sleep, putting a lock on the cupboard to keep them from getting to any cleaning products or other chemicals, putting up a baby gate to keep the from falling down the stairs...

Would you like me to continue? Or do you get the point that it is a safety precaution. Some mothers do what they feel is best to keep their child safe, and other mothers judge.

Michelle - posted on 04/10/2010

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well they are not dogs, so i say no to leashes also! if you are gonna be at a fair or very crowded place like the mall, use a stroller. use a shopping cart.it is your job to keep tracked of your children, but not with a leash. if you are gonna be so busy looking around that you can't keep up with your child, then don't take them at a young age!

Cynthia - posted on 04/09/2010

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I'm with you Michelle, when I see a kid on a leash I immediately think of dogs. I agree with Diana, I think it's embarrasing for and degrading to the child. I would never use one, but to each their own I guess.

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Michelle - posted on 04/10/2010

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Karen....I cant tell if you are being serious or sarcastic...either way....you are very welcome.

Karen Sue - posted on 04/10/2010

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Wow, thanks for your biting comments, Michelle! I appreciate your brutal opinionated honesty :)

Michelle - posted on 04/10/2010

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Im not getting upset over anyones opinion. I completely understand that there are some that agree with me and some that dont and I am perfectly fine with that. But clearly stating your opinion and agreeing or disagreeing with others opinions is different than calling someone ignorant. I accept and respect your opinion on this subject....your kids are yours and you will do with them what you please...and vice versa. No one said I had to agree with your tactics though. Im not offended by others' opinions....just the people that flat out call you ignorant because their opinion differs from yours. Why would I post a question such as this if I didnt think people would disagree? Isnt that what this is all about? I want a discussion, a debate. I dont want women to post their opinion just to fight....which seems to be a normal thing on this forum.



Apparently my initial post offended others. Look at Alison's post....sounds like she was offended considering her sarcasm. You were obviously offended as well. And it doesnt matter what you say on this topic...I still wont agree with you...and thats ok...with me at least. I never once said that you were wrong for putting your child on a leash....I just said that I think its ridiculous and I strongly disagree with doing so. There IS a difference. I did not attack you for your opinion...I simply strongly disagreed with you. I am being condemned for my opinion because instead of you saying "Well, that's your opinion."....you call me ignorant just because you disagree with what I have said. Isnt that ignorant? Im not calling you names....I am not attacking you. I would appreciate if I got the same respect in return. If not...feel free to post your opinions somewhere else.

Melissa - posted on 04/09/2010

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Michelle, If you don't want people's honest opinion, perhaps you shouldn't post yours. Several people posted their response to your intial post and then you got offended by what they wrote. As they shouldn't condemn you for your opinion, you shouldn't get upset over theirs.

Michelle - posted on 04/09/2010

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Well Melissa, you have made your point and I competely understand where you are coming from. But I still disagree. It is clear by this conversation that there are those that support me and those that support you and Alison. Like I said earlier, to each her own. If a child is young enough to be put on a leash/harness, then they are too young to "explore" on their own. Let them pick that colorful leaf or sparkly rock up when you arent looking. What do children do? Put it in their mouth. Or maybe they will see a piece of chewing gum and pick that up too. Children should explore!!! But under the supervision of their parents. Also, regardless if a child is on a leash or not...if someone wanted to "snatch" up your child...they will do it. Its amazing what people are capable of doing these days.



I guess we will just have to agree to disagree. You have your opinion and I have mine. But DON'T call me ignorant just because I have strong beliefs and opinions that differ from yours. THAT, ma'am, is ignorant.

Cynthia - posted on 04/09/2010

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Putting your child in a stroller is not lazy. It's nice for going on power walks to keep in shape, a small child could never walk that fast. What about when you bring them to the zoo or another outing that will take up a good part of the day? There's no way they could stay on their feet that long, and I would never expect my child to. No offense, just saying.

Diana - posted on 04/09/2010

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I hate seeing children on leashes and would never use one! I feel that it is embarrassing to the child as well as the things Michelle said. Bottom line, I agree with you Michelle. And, just like her, it is my opinion, not a judgment.

Michelle - posted on 04/09/2010

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I not once implied that I was a perfect parent, Alison. I clearly stated my OPINION...so dont condemn me for my own opinion. If you want to put your child on a leash...thats your business. I chose not to put my kids on leashes because they are just that....kids...not dogs. To each her own.

Melissa....I understand that YOU believe that putting a child on a leash is no different than putting them in a crib, highchair, etc....but cribs, highchairs, gates...are more socially accepted in my opinion. Its one thing to see a 2 year old sitting in a stroller than it is to see him/her strapped to a leash!!! I believe that parents should be responsible in teaching their children about strangers and staying with their parents and what could happen if they dont stay together instead of simply putting them on a leash. Leashes, to me, are lazy. Believe it or not...children really CAN learn to do what you teach them....and that includes staying with you on an outing.

So if it is acceptable for you to put your child on a leash....then maybe it is acceptable to tie them up in the front yard as well so they can get their exercise? What's the difference?

I stated my opinion and why I believe leashes are ridiculous.....if you put your child on a leash...thats your problem.

Sherri - posted on 04/08/2010

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I never used one either. They had to hold my hand or be carried or put in a carriage. It gave them a choice that way so they didnt fight it so much. I dont think they are bad to use I just never did.

Maureen - posted on 04/08/2010

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We never used a leash. I don't think I even saw them for sale. But we were very lucky with our son. I've never like the look of kids being on a leash either. But, if you have a hyperactive toddler who likes to run, it may be a last choice option to use.

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