ways to feel better leaving your baby for your job?

Amber - posted on 01/04/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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working is the most depressing thing i have ever done ever since my 13 month old was born. even more-so lately because she is so interactive now. i hate leaving her to be raised by someone else. i feel so guilty leaving, and my job starts at 6am so i wake her up at 5 in the morning... i know i have no choice and i'm doing it for her and so that she has a decent place to live and food to eat. and since i have to wake her up so early to go, i put her to bed by 7pm. my husband gets home at 7pm... so he either wakes her up to say hi or doesn't see her at all. neither of which i like.

how does everyone else stay positive and remember it's for the best if you go to work? i feel like i'm living everyday like it's the day before my last day of work. but it never is.

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Melissa - posted on 01/12/2011

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OMG...I am 24 weeks pregnant and will have to put my baby in daycare too after 3 months. I stayed at home with my 9 year old for 6 years. Because it was so difficult financially - we struggled a lot for me to be able to do that, we decided it was best for me to work this time. I am dreading it more than the plague! I read you post and cried. I have a hard time with this even with my 9 year old. I don't pick her up until 6pm and after that I make dinner, she does homework and before we know it, it's bedtime and we have to get up and do it all over again. I hate that life keep us from really enjoying our children. In other countries, the government pays mothers up to 3 years to stay at home with their children!! Germany, for instance, pays new mothers and keeps their job for them for 3 whole years! That is how life should be. It gets me thinking about why we even have children if someone else is just going to raise them, enjoy them, and be there for them instead of us. I think it is hardest for me when I see stay-at-home mothers who are able to be there and not worry about finances. It gets me really depressed. I love my husband and he works hard and is amazing, but he just doesn't have the kind of job that pays enough for us to be well off for me to stay home.
Good luck and wish me luck too~
Love and Light and tons of mommy hugs,
Melissa

Rasan - posted on 01/08/2011

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one of the hard times that comes w/being a mom is leaving your kids to go to work. I can't imagine having to get up as early as some of you--fortunately I have been able to plan my hours at work so I now plan them around the kids' school schedule. I'm the only one at home as my husband goes to work earlier. Getting them up & ready can be quite a challenge, especially if one isn't a morning person! Then dropping them off only for my youngest to throw fits and cry just tears me up inside. What helps me is knowing that she will calm down shortly after and still have a good day. If I did not have to work, believe me I would not!

Rosette - posted on 01/07/2011

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Working is really stressful especially when the kid is still so young.Can you imagine i leave my Jeremy(4months & 2weeks) home?Its so stressful but am doing it for him & his sister CleoPatra.Am everythin,am the bread winner so i have to work hard to provide everything for them.I leave home at 7am and come back at 6pm.I only depend on my job no any other income.But i don't work on weekends so i remain home with them to show them that am always there for them.Its really painful but i have to work.

Tshego - posted on 01/06/2011

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You know as i write this i have tears in my eyes, this is such a painful topic for me because leaving my son every morning to come to work is the most painful thing i ever have to do. My son Kgato is now 18months old and when he was hardly 3months old when i had to go back to work. I feel a bit lucky because i dont have to wake my son up every morning, i have a Nanny who stays at home with us, and she is very good. But still the feeling is painful, just look at it as what you are doing is the best for your child, you are doing it to be able to give him the best in life, that is why i spoil him so badly with toys and good clothes, sometimes i think its from guilt, because i always feel better doing it. So ladies just hang in there, we love them, alot.

Marry - posted on 01/05/2011

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I totally understand. I am just starting to get my little guy use to dayhome. I am lucky that I have someone I know look after my guy but. That mommy guilt. He is at the fun stage (11 months yesterday) and I don't want to miss anything. I start back to work on the 17th and I am dreading having to wake him up at 6 am get both of us dressed and fed and out the door by 7! I just keep reminding myself that I am not the only mother out there that has to return to work and raise a family. Makes me feel better but still have that ping of mommy guilt.

Ann - posted on 01/05/2011

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Amber i still feel down i will be honest and say after 7 years i still worry and stress its hard but it gets abit easier, you will always worry as you are her mommy, take it one day at a time i know their are times you just want to run away from your job to be with her. remember if you didnt stress and worry you wouldnt love her which you do, try to keep strong, and look forward to the end of the day when you will see her.

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