What age did you first start to leave your child home alone?

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Just curious to know from other Moms at what age they started to leave their child home alone.

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Jen - posted on 10/05/2009

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My son whos 10 stays at home afterschool until I get home from work. It's about 2 hours.

Amy - posted on 10/03/2009

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My 11 year old daughter comes home after school by herself for 2 hours or so and does fine with it - I agree with the other posts that it depends on the maturity of the child.

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My son just took a class called "Home Alone Safely" today and on the handout it states: " There is no legal age in place to leave children at home alone - it is your job to decide if your child is ready..." and then it lists readiness indicators.

This was shocking to me - I thought we did have a legal age set!

I think I will begin with small amounts of time like 20 minutes but not until next year when he's 9.

Karen - posted on 10/03/2009

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I think it depends on the maturity of the child and where you are going. I left my oldest one at home alone when she was 9 but only when I was going to be in town and when I knew that my mother-in-law was going to be home. We also lived in a very small town that was very safe. It was the type of town where everybody knew everyone and we all looked after each other kids like they were our own.

Crystal - posted on 09/30/2009

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at ag 11. they have a safty class at the local police and/or fire station that i have them take,leave important numbers by the phone,on the fridge,and in their rooms.i also set odd times to chech in with them,like 6:18pm to mke sure they are ok.

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Anne - posted on 06/14/2012

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we started leaving her home alone at late 10 coz she never wanted to go to kindergarten n we´ve trained her a bit b4. but jst 4 few hrs.

Cadee - posted on 10/05/2009

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Make sure you know the laws in your state - you would hate to legally abandon your child and face criminal charges.

Tanya - posted on 10/03/2009

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Hi, Tammy. I was a latch-key kid and was home a lot when I was a lil kid. I didn't leave my daughter home alone till she was 12, for maybe short periods up to 2 hours. I think it depends on the maturity of your child. I saw a news special a few years ago that bothered me. The news person would talk their way into a house when a kid was left alone, and most of these were teenagers. They were trying to point out that some kids do open the door even though they're told not to. Suffice to say, I had to lay that puppy to rest!

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Thank you all so very much!
I learned something new about New Zealand - I believe here in Alberta it's age 10 or 11 legally.

Valerie - posted on 10/01/2009

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I think it depends on the maturity of the child. I was left by age 11/12 and even though my oldest is 13, I still have trouble leaving him alone. My kids are more sheltered compared to my husband and I. We grew up in a different time. Although we live in a nice neighborhood I still wouldn't let them walk up and down the block by themselves. Both my 11 and 13 year olds have to walk together.

Jill - posted on 10/01/2009

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i started leaving my 10 yr old daughter home after school - only 1 1/2 - 2 hrs - she does fine with that

Dena - posted on 10/01/2009

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I think it really depends on the maturity of the child, but I started leaving my daughter home alone for very short spells when she was 12 and longer at 13.

Lynette - posted on 10/01/2009

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Hi Tammy, I started leaving my daughter by herself at 12yrs for about 1/2 - 1 hour. Now that she is 14yrs she stays by herself longer during the day time. But at night she still wants a friend with her so we do this.

User - posted on 10/01/2009

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Hi Tammy- I think it depends on the maturity of your child. Myself, I was left alone at around te age of 11/12. My daughter is now 12 but I only leave her alone for max 2 hours. I think se would panic in the house if there were an emergency. When I do leave her alone , she calls my cell every 5 minutes or so..... I am closeby the house when I am gone. Good luck.

Martina - posted on 09/30/2009

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Legally speaking in New Zealand you can only leave a chile home alone once they reached the age of 14.



Practically speaking it will depend on your child, some are mature enough at 11 and some aren't even mature enough when they are 16 so you will need to decide that one

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