What do our children think about having a working mom??

Terry - posted on 03/13/2010 ( 213 moms have responded )

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Stacey - posted on 03/29/2011

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I have had a little of both worlds. When our first son was born I stayed home with him for 5 years, and by then we had another son that was 2. I went to work when they were 2 and 5 and I think they know that it's ok for mommy to work. I personally think it's better to at least work a couple days a week than not. You get to bored very easily and sometimes those consequnses arent worth getting bored! But I personally think if thats what you want to do do it! I work 2 days a week right now and still have plenty of time with my family. Starting friday I will be going back to work at least 4 days a week and that means no weekends with my family which is really killing me inside because I so enjoy that time with them! But at the same time I know it will be ok we will work it out.

Adina - posted on 03/29/2011

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I think my kids respect that I work and it gives them some perspective. They know that my time with them is special but when I'm working they have to find something to do. Of course there are times when they feel I like my computer more than I like them but we're working on that! But in the end, I believe strongly that women whether they work or not, should have something that's just theirs, that their kids know about, so they know that mom is and was someone before they came along! Just MHO!
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Adina - posted on 03/29/2011

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I think my kids respect that I work and it gives them some perspective. They know that my time with them is special but when I'm working they have to find something to do. Of course there are times when they feel I like my computer more than I like them but we're working on that! But in the end, I believe strongly that women whether they work or not, should have something that's just theirs, that their kids know about, so they know that mom is and was someone before they came along! Just MHO!
More on this on my cooking blog...http://www.mykitchenchaos.com

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I was out of work for 6 months after a severe car accident a few years back. When I got hired at a new job, my daughter reverted completely and was actually angry. She would sit in a chair all day long and would go to the bathroom in her underwear because she thought if she was bad, I would stop going to work. She got used to it and even became ok with it once I sat down and talked with her, explaining the importance of mommy working and how we can still have so much fun together when I wasn't working. Now, she is perfectly fine with it. She whines a little when my husband doesn't have work and she doesn't have school, but I still have to go to work. I fought long and hard with my job to not work weekends anymore and that has certainly been beneficial to my family life. My daughter appreciates the time we have together on the weekends AND understands that its a good thing to have mommy go to work.

Sara - posted on 03/07/2011

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i am living in Pakistan and the atmosphere no more is for working women... i applied for a job in Govt sector and got it with a very good salary etc. at that time i have no idea how difficult it will be with three kids.. third one a cute small baby girl...eldest is use to of living with my mom and youngest both they feel great when i am around.. after office i try to give them time but this small time does not satisfy them because their father works abroad so they feel alone ...my mother and sister help me a lot but children need mothers...now i have started i cannot get rid of this pace as my husband has pushed all responsibilities on me.
Few years back you can survive in Asian countries with small amount of money but now its getting impossible without a lot of money ...one day our countries will be just like Europe or America where you have to run all 24 hrs for getting some amount. And its miserable... but for Asian woman try to live at home its more comfortable for you and for your children especially.

Jo - posted on 03/02/2011

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I'm unusual in the fact that I didn't start a typical home based business, I created my own. My children have been a part of my business as long as they can remember and they embrace it. I'm a coffee roaster and have been fortunate enough to build a roastery on our farm. I think we all are born with a gift and sometimes it's hard for us to tap into our gift. I give back to women and children around the globe and empower them. Many women grow the coffee that I roast. My children (7) all realize that there is a greater purpose in life, and that is the ability to help; not just exist. I was told several years ago by a major company that I couldn't compete with the big boys, I had to find my own niche; I did just that. I'm a personal coffee roaster, roasting coffee to everyone of my customers specs and shipping all over the world. I was asked to provide the inagural coffee basket for the Obama's and work with June Pagan a private chef to Hollywood. It's amazing to me how my business has grown just by savvy marketing and word of mouth.
Always be open to try new opportunity's or you may just miss the boat.

Natasha - posted on 03/01/2011

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My two children do not know better than that mummy works. However when I take the odd day off to for example attend a school play or just a couple of days off when their school is closed they soooo appreciate the quality time with me. They do sometimes say things like, "mum, it would be nice if you picked us up from school sometimes like the other mum" which makes me feel guilty at times...

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Chaundra - posted on 02/24/2011

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My kids hate me working!! Well they hate this job I use to work for the school and I would be off when ever they were out of school. Now I have to work holidays and summers and they hate it. My husband said it was just because they are spoiled but I was spoiled to. Getting to spend so much time with my kids even if it was only for a few years was a blessing and a curse. If we would have never had that time together we would not know what we are missing and sometimes all I can think about is trying to find a way to get back to that.

Sheryl - posted on 02/18/2011

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My daughter is almost 4 and has been in daycare since she was 8 wks old, so she has never known any different. We treat her going to school like her work---her dad and I go to work and so does she!

Dawn - posted on 02/16/2011

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I dont think my son like me working as he has to get up early 6am with me and go to school from my works. I have to work to get him the things he wants. Given a choice i would much rather stay at home and be a full time mom to him, and not a full time nursery nurse to other peoples children. I work a full week of 40hrs so i am tired at the weekend and like to relax its a good job he has his X Box bless him love him to bits

Susan - posted on 01/31/2011

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I have no choice to work, I'm a single mom. My 9-yr-old knows nothing else. It's not a big deal to her. I work the same time she's at school plus a couple hours.

Stacy - posted on 01/31/2011

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I don't know how my child feels about it (she is 3 months old) but I do not like working away from her. I want to be a "housewife" and stay with my daughter all day. I feel that I am missing so much by working 9 to 6 everyday but Saturday and Sunday.

User - posted on 01/30/2011

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My oldest hates when I have to go to work. I have to work afternoons because my husband works days so that we can watch our own children. My oldest is almost 5 and is in school. When I leave for work around 5pm I only get to spend the first hour before school and an hour after school with him. He gets upset because he misses me as I do him. My youngest is only 1 1/2 so it's easier for him because I get to spend the whole day with him. But he knows mommy has to go to work to help provide for the family and I think because we don't spend as much time together as we both would like to we have alot more fun together when I do have a day off.

Caroleen - posted on 01/29/2011

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Same here Brittaney, my girls are 11, 9, and 4 so they know that if mommy doesnt work they dont get nice things

Brittaney - posted on 01/29/2011

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I'm workin 2 jobs and about to start school. My son is to young to kno whats going on but I kno as he gets older he might not like that I work so much, especially since i'm a single mom but i'm hoping that one day he'll kno I did it all for him

Maria - posted on 01/28/2011

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I think our children respect us as they see us working. It's tough to be a working mom and they realize that as they get older. One thing that helps is extra money for their school trips and projects. I signed up at Momburbia.com to hope to win their 1000.00. I could really use that money to help pay some bills. Working is great but any help financially is amazing.

Elaina - posted on 01/26/2011

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I work hard when I'm there, but don't take the work home. I'm fortunate to be a teacher which allows time off with my oldest who is currently at the school I work at. The baby, is close by the school with a babysitter, who is heaven sent. I get summers, Christmas, spring break, and random holidays as well as weekends off! I love my kids and my job and feel like if you have to work having a job that is flexible is essential! You need to have some time with them. They won't be little for long, and although working is a means to an end for most of us, finding a job you like and will work with you around your kids is the best!

Michele - posted on 01/26/2011

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I actually love what I do and many times I have brought my children into my office. They see first hand how much I do and that I actually like my work. I am a Director for a non-profit organization. The fact that my children see strong work ethics and that you can choose your career and actually like what you do is something that is taught, not by telling them, but by directly modeling the behavior. I have to admit I deal with many young staff who have do not have strong work ethics, not sure what has happened in the last decade.
We owe it to our children to teach them life lessons. Working is apart of life.

Carrie - posted on 01/23/2011

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My kids hate that work. I have done so on and off for years. Now, I have no choice, their father left and I have to work. The worst part is that we are staying with my Mother and her Husband and we are not wanted. Problem is I cannot afford to live anywhere else. Life is a hug challenge right now.

Sara Beth - posted on 01/19/2011

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Luckily, my job allows me to take my children to school, be there for them within the hour of them getting home from school and be there for school functions. I don't attend every single function because they are getting to the age that they don't want me to. My step-son who lives with us full time is 14 so he doesn't really want me there except for the BIG stuff. My eight year old wants me there most of the time but even he is beginning to weed out some events. My three year old... of course wants me at everything but with his age it is hard for him to understand that I have to go back to work and so I choose to not go unless I can go home and take him with me. I have seen the looks of disappointment, for instance, this Friday my eight year old is going on a field trip and he really wanted me to go but with it being tax season, there is NO way I can leave work to go to an all day event. My husband recently accepted a new job and he doesn't need to be off of work for a whole day yet. So, I feel like I disappointed him. I also despise the mornings when my three year old yells and screams when I try to drop him off at preschool. It breaks my heart so badly but I have to work...

Sara - posted on 01/17/2011

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I only work one job, but lately have been thinking about working a second job part time. My vhildren know mommy needs to work, some days they have no problem and some days they want to hang on my leg

Angie - posted on 01/11/2011

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i work over nights too, and my kids dont like that i have to sleep either. hopefully they will understand some day. it is rough..i sympathise with you

Keona - posted on 01/04/2011

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My children don't like the fact that I work but I know it's only because I work 2 jobs. I'm home every evening but I do work 7 days a week. For a while my little people thought that all moms work like I do but once my eldest realized that not everyone works mommies schedule she was quite disappointed but she knows that I work the way I do for her and her siblings. If there are any moms out there that are working more than one job I know it is tough but you can do it!!! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, remember your goals and dreams and take it one day at a time.

Doreen - posted on 12/27/2010

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i guess they think we dont have time for them and we care more about work and not them...i get this from my sons look whenever i leave for work...it hurts me a lot,cant find best way to make him happy arround such times.

Stephanie - posted on 12/14/2010

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Vanessa - posted on 12/10/2010

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I think my kids understand and are grateful that I work but I have to make sure that I turn it off when it's family time. When I try to get an email out and talk to the kids they get upset....my daughter even gets on my lap and blocks the screen. LOL. I've gotten so much better at this in the last year but we have to make sure that our time with them is golden!

Sarah - posted on 12/10/2010

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My 4yr old told me the other day that he wasn't going to take me to work. He was going to take me home. lol....and because he's not feeling too well he cried when I had to go to work. But generally, he's happy about going to school and he loves his teacher. Plus they go on field trips so that helps when I pick him up and ask him how his day was.

Alysson - posted on 12/03/2010

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My babies hate that I work. Everytime I walk out the door they tell me that I don't have to work and no to leave them. But when I don't work they tell me the cutest things... "Mommy you're not working!! Mommy, you're here with me!!" And of course, that makes my day...

Heather - posted on 12/01/2010

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I couldn't agree with you more! I am a single mom and i cannot not work. I work at at a private preschool and it amazes me how many moms just have their kids there just because they have "errands" to run. I would love to tell them that it's ok to take your kids to the store....however....i need to be careful what i say. I haven't been "running errands" without atleast one kid since i can remember. I do understand that child care is important otherwise i wouldn"t do it....however, to those parents that use it as a drop off to"run errands"....it:s better to spend time with your kids.

Heather - posted on 12/01/2010

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It is very hard to work all day and still have the amount of energy it takes to give your all to your children. However, economy these days pretty much dictates that us moms work...so where is the balance?

Samantha - posted on 11/30/2010

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My kids hate the fact that I work. I applied at my job and when I was hired I was forced to take the afternoon shift til a day shift came available. Here it is one year later, and I'm still on afternoons all my kids are in school full time one is in high school another in grade 6 and my youngest is in grade 3. I wish I could be at home but being a single mom I got to do what i got to do. What I have been able to do though is I cut my 5 shifts down to 3 shifts a week so two days a week I'm home with them doing homework, having family dinners etc. etc. and during the school days one or two days a week I go to my younger kids classes and participate in trips, lunch room supervisor and just have reading time with my youngest and her class or my middle son I cheer him on during his music class. every year I take a day off and have a mom and me day with all my kids:). Just so they know they are just as important to me as my job is. And then they have a deeper understanding of why I have to work to keep us all going. They treasure our time together too!!

Marsha - posted on 11/18/2010

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I've have worked for my daughter's entire life. She doesn't know life without Mommy working. I'm lucky that I have summers off since I work in public education. So we still have time to do fun things together. I have weekends and almost the same school schedule off as she does. She's been to my school on numerous occasions, has met some of my students, and asks about the kids that I advise in the community service club that I work with. It's important to me that she knows that the world does not revolve around her and that some Moms work in the home full time and others work both outside and at home. My husband or I are home with her when she's ill. The only time that she expresses any dislike is the first week or two of school, and I believe alot of that is the fact that she's feeling anxiety about her new school situation too.

Kristina - posted on 11/07/2010

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I have a 10 yr. old daughter and a 2 yr. old son. My daughter says she hates me working because I'm so tired by the time I get home, that she never spends enough time with me. And my son is very clingy when I am home but otherwise okay. My husband stays at home with them so I think that helps a bit.

Katie - posted on 11/06/2010

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My daughter hates that I work. She does however have her good days and those are the best for me. I get to come home to her and get a big hug after she runs at me from the other side of the room screaming mommy, mommies home the whole time. She always says to me "mommy you home from work?" then it is always the "mommy you go change" cause she knows I need to change out of my EMT uniform. Honestly I think the hardest thing for her and for me is that I don't work mon-fri 9-5 like most poeple. I work 12 hr shifts on a two week rotation which include 4day weekends every other week. My schedule is very consistant for me but extremely hard for a 2 yr old to understand why mommy is home one day or two but not the next. Anyway the point is that she and I both wish I could be at home on a more regular schedule but just like most other working moms I do it not only because I need to but because I love my job. Besides she does love coming to visit me anytime she wants and she loves clinbing around in the fire trucks, what kid doesn't.

Prescilla - posted on 10/20/2010

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When I go to work my son looks at me and says, "you got to go to work mom and work for the man?"...makes me laugh all the time.

Gretchen - posted on 10/19/2010

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im at an age that is growing old gracefully ... done with the part of rearing young kids but let me tell u it was indeed a hard task , a working mother at home and a working person in an office ... but i make it a point once im home im really a mother ... just like u all are i do faithfully all the work of a mother at home ... i treat my eldest son like a military man ... do this and that ... and he will earn something .. like a story book or buying him a toy he wants with a limit amount ... and im proud to say he made it as a deans lister and graduted cum laude in college and got a better paying job and a beautiful wife, but with my second son, just like all second kids thinking they are left behind coz eldest is more love...no he doesnt get this but he was and is a silent kid working his way up with my guidance.. he was once asked by his teacher what my job was and he told them that im a lawyer, my foot, im a legal secretary hahaha ... i love this beautiful boy of mine coz he brings me home a small flower pick up by the school ground or a big smacking kiss with i love u mom... he is now a working student doesnt want me to pay his sch tuition ... i cried when i asked him why and he said he wants me to enjoy my money and he is ok with his new business venture and im all out support with him by buying his products too ... and my youngest daughter is the typical teenager but more close to God and she is the most reminder of what i say or do that is bad and needs to stop coz God is watching me ... what more do i want from my kids ... just their love, hugs and kisses ... i may not give advices suitable to others but i promised to give the best i could to help some moms in distress or needed help .. there is a maid who does alot of things around the house but they my kids have responsibilities too ... taking care of their beddings, keeping themselves clean, keeping toys in order after playing, among other things kids are capable of doing with their own small hands ... nobody is a favorite coz everybody is loved ... ohhh my kids love it when i go to work coz they all know weekends are the best days of their life ... it means kids outing is the greatest adventure they will get.... :-) thank u for listening to my post ... God bless ... :-) as u can see in my picture to the left is my eldest, RG then my youngest daughter, Nicole with me and my second son, Pedj ...:-)

Sherayna - posted on 10/19/2010

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My youngest son tells me all the time that he wishes that he had a daddy so that I could stay at home with him. Sometimes it makes me feel bad, but in all reality, whether my boyfriend and I lived together or not, I would still work! Maybe not as much as I do now, but I could not be a stay at home mom relying on someone else for my income or mad money.

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My five year old is my biggest fan. I create jewelry and sometimes let him string together designs. When I show him new designs he is overly dramatic about his response and keeps repeating, "I love it, I really really love it. He is my encourager

User - posted on 10/17/2010

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My kids are more uderstanding that I have to work ,and sometimes even help me to solve some homework what should be done by the weekend,but..it takes a time for a while...:):))As a reward we planning some activities at our days off,such as barbeque party or zoo trip,or just some family movie time at home :)Along with limited time to stay together, we are trying to make some crafts,and they helping me a lot with my very first web shop http://www.etsy.com/shop/GiftCreation ,so you can check what we hanmade over there!

Rachael - posted on 10/14/2010

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I think that most moms love their children and want what’s best for them. If we work, or don't work may not be the real problem. I think it is the motive behind it. Who or what are we really doing it for? Some people have to work, and some people want to work. I wish that the moms who could stay home but don't because they need to be challenged and use their skills would find a way to use them in our communities, schools, etcetera. Then their kids could have a mom available and our communities would be amazing! No judgment either way, just a thought. "Where your time is there will your heart be also."

Dee - posted on 10/09/2010

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My oldest doesn't like when i have to work. I work afternoons so not long after i get him home from school mommy usually has to go straight to work. He loves spending time with Daddy just he misses me as do I him. My youngest gets really upset sometimes but if we play a games of peek-ak-boo and say goodbye while playing he is ok with my leaving. I love to work because I know I am benefiting our family in everyway possible.

Fran - posted on 09/27/2010

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My son does not like that his mommy has to go to work after staying home with him for the first two years of his life. It has been stressful on me and on him. I have been back to work for almost a month now and he still crys everytime I drop him off at daycare and it just breaks my heart.

Ceola - posted on 09/27/2010

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my son worries that im not gonna pick him up on time and i just have to keep him updated with whats happening witht he day... but they seem happy with me at work and during dinner they love to hear what i have to say about work... lol mwah

Hayley - posted on 09/27/2010

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They know nothing different. The issue for them is not whether or not I work, but whether or not I'm happy with my job. An unhappy job situation can make for a grumpy mommy...or so I was told before I quit my last job. P.S. I'm not grumpy anymore, so I guess the kid knew what he was talking about.

Amber - posted on 09/26/2010

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They hate that Im gone but love it when they are able to get the toys that they want so it evens out!

Gabrielle - posted on 09/26/2010

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This was inspiring. It's so hard working as a mom, and definitely as a single mom. Always feel like your taking time away from them, especially when they are young and not in school yet. It was inspiring to know that, ok, maybe he will see I need to work to support us and that it will motivate him to me a strong young man some day. awesome.

Lanie - posted on 09/25/2010

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my daughter is about to be 3 and she loves mommy buying her goodies..and i tell her how i work to be able to provide her with things she likes when she is behaved.. and ive noticed her really understanding and not making a fuss over me leaving ever anymore bc she knows i consider that her behaving and just waits for mommy to " buy me somethin with my money"

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