What do you do when you feel guilty about working but have no choice???
Cara - posted on 11/18/2008
I felt guilty about it until I got a Career instead of a job. I love my work and so I am happier and better able to be present when I am spending time with my kids. Good daycare and family support will let you be relaxed at work too, knowing they are in good hands and likely having fun doing crafts etc. My kids are older now and no longer in daycare, but they were very socially advanced once they got to school and now they have their job of getting good marks and I have mine of paying for our house etc. That is a concept they both understand and if people ask them they say, my mom works really hard for us. So I feel like they are also learning the meaning of a good work ethic. Not forgetting to hug and kiss them everyday will make it easier for them when they are younger.
Diane - posted on 11/18/2008
I used to have more problems with it than I do now. The biggest thing that helped me was becoming good friends with another working mother. Fortunately for me, her kids are the same age as mine, and our husbands get along great. We do everything together and we have the same attitude -- it's what we have to do to take care of our families. We make the most of it and make sure that all family time is quality time.
My kids are happy, healthy and are properly cared for. How can that be wrong?? Yes, I'd love to stay home with them, but I can't so I do the best I can.
Laura - posted on 11/18/2008
It might help to know that I read a study a couple of years ago that a working mother spends more quality hours per week on average with her children than a stay-at-home-mother does. It was because working mothers tend to schedule priorities with their children and the SAHM lets SAH type work bleed into family time 'because there's always tomorrow.' The real significance of the study IMO was scheduling.
Of the less scientific nature, I know how you feel. I would like to be at home too, at least part time, but it hasn't happened yet. I am working toward it though and getting closer and closer all the time.
Kristine - posted on 11/17/2008
I wish I could be a stay at home mom, but unfortunately I don't have that option. I just remind myself that there are many many childrend who have working parents and they turn out just fine. I do think it is important to be engaged with your child when are home. Clear your head of work, turn off the TV, even the radio is a distraction and just spend time with your children.
Michelle - posted on 11/17/2008
I try to remember that being a provider is also important for my children. I think I have set clear boundaries--when I'm at home with the kids, I am not doing work. I keep pictures of them on my desk and just try to do my best. Don't beat yourself up! Being a working mom is also setting a good example, I think, for my daughter so that she knows she has choices too someday.
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