What morals and values do you want you children to have?

Rebecca - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Just thought it might be fun to see how we are all different and how we all raise our kids differently :)

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Jennifer - posted on 01/16/2010

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My grandfather was a big influence on me and so I am big on respect and manners.

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Emma - posted on 01/19/2010

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I would like my son to be polite, well-mannered, compassionate and independent, to have self respect and respect for other people and their belongings. At 3 he is already polite and compassionate, as long as this continues we know we've done a good job!

Gina - posted on 01/19/2010

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I am a christian who believes in God's salvation by grace ,so my prayer for my children is that the grow up and develop good christian morals based on the word of God.To be loving and god fearing ,seeing and accepting the word of God as the true yard stick to a meaningful life.

I have a 24 year old girl and a 6 year old boy.

He knows one needs to be nice to people even if they are not nice to you.

Sylvia - posted on 01/16/2010

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That's a great question :)

I have a seven-year-old. We are trying to teach her, above all, to be kind and compassionate, a person of integrity, a person who considers others as well as herself. I really think Hillel's advice is the best guideline here: What is hateful to you, do not unto your neighbour. (What he's supposed to have said is "What is hateful to you, do not unto your neighbour. That is the whole Torah; all the rest is commentary.") What's very humbling about this whole parenting gig is the way it reveals the moments when we don't behave this way ourselves -- when we're snarky or impatient, or get angry for silly reasons, or are tempted to be less than honest for selfish reasons (as opposed to bending the truth to spare someone's feelings) ...

It's hard sometimes. But I think seeing that adults struggle as well is probably not such a bad thing for kids.

Sushma - posted on 01/15/2010

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Thanks Rebecca, it really helped me, coz by the time he grows up, it'll b lot easier for him to choose a true friend for himself...

Rebecca - posted on 01/15/2010

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Sushma you have such a vaild point. There is a point where you have to stick up for yourself. I was always the kid who wanted to please everyone even at the expense of my own happiness. As i grew up I realised that those who are not willing to reciproate are not worth it and more often than not are unhappy people who dont have true friends. I still find it very hard to believe that people can be like that but rather than trying to please them i pity them because there is no better feeling in the world than making someone else's life a little bit brighter.

Sushma - posted on 01/15/2010

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I have an eight year old boy, and as I always wanted my child to be honest, human with a forgiving heart, and very helpful and adoring and so he is- a gem of a person.But I realize now that is not the way my child will survive in this world. My heart breaks to see my boy come home crying. He is very often fooled by his friends.
I really would want to know what values do we want our children to have so as to face the world bravely...

Alison - posted on 01/14/2010

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High on the list: Generosity, compassion, grace, family
Low on the list: material possessions, physical appearance, what other think of you

Rosa - posted on 01/14/2010

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I'm giving my 9 yr old girl a strong foundation in faith, to know God personally, how she views God's character will help her respect others, through that respect, love follows. She should love, she should take care of herself cause we have to be prepared for anything in the world. If we can keep our faith, we can take care of everything else.

Rebekah - posted on 01/14/2010

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Number 1: God. Everything else should follow if God is first in their lives.
Number 2: Honesty. It's so hard to find these days.
Number 3: Respect. For others and also for themselves.
Number 4: Humility. I don't want a child that goes around bragging about all the things they have.
Number 5: Self Reliance. I want them to think and do for themselves. I'm not going to wait hand and foot on them but teach them to do for themselves. My 4 year old is already setting the table for dinner. (Of course on some things I still have to do for them but you get the idea).

Brittany - posted on 01/14/2010

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Oh, wow. A good question. I have a three year old son and I am pregnant with my second (another boy!) I want them to have a strong concept of family, a forgiving heart and I want them to stand up for the things they believe in. Of course I want them to know God for themselves. You know, now that you've got me thinking... I could go on and on and on! LOL! You asked a great question. Thanks!

Stephanie - posted on 01/14/2010

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I love this question... it will be interesting to see hw many people reply.... I have three children ages 20, 19 and 6... the most important thing i can instill in my children is the importance of God in their lives...... along with respect for them selves and others.... I feel that with those two things being strongly emphasized in our lives everything else falls into place :):):)

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