What motivates you to stay and work when you hate your job??

Angel - posted on 07/16/2010 ( 159 moms have responded )

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I just want to find out from working mums what kind of things motivates them when they feel like not going in to work or packing their job in...

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Marcy - posted on 07/16/2010

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I think it all depends on the age of your kiddo as well. When my son was under the age of 2 I really struggled with balance and being okay with being away from him. I knew he was being well taken care of but I felt like I was missing everything. Now he is almost 4 and what motivates me to go to work everyday is the fact that my job allows him to go to a fantastic private school in which he is thriving. I can also pay for swim lessons, little weekend getaways and an occasional toy. I think the key is honestly to find something that you really like to do. Its tough spending hour upon hour each day away from your children working in a place that doesn't make you happy. The best time to find a new job is while you already have one...good luck!

Nikki - posted on 07/30/2010

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WOW, GREAT responses! We should all give ourselves pats on the back - we are AMAZING role models to our sons and daughters, showing them that we are hard-working women in the workforce!! This is what motivates me, Angel...I want my daughter to grow up having an independent professional as her mother! My mom was a single-mother, a VERY hard worker, and she is my role model!

Other motivators are the priceless amounts of intelligent conversation with adults that keep my brain exercising! I have a great job, and if you do not, find something that you will enjoy because it would be much harder to leave my daughter if I didn't enjoy doing what I do.

If bettering yourself in your current workplace is what you want - Have confidence in yourself and dress like you're going to see your big boss everyday! Make yourself stand out and do things that get your name out there. YOU can get yourself promoted!

If you want to better your education to get into a better career - Take some classes; many business schools offer night classes. In economic downturns, one of the positive aspects that come out of it are that people go back to school to further their education and this will further your chances of landing a job when there is so much competition for a good job right now. Imagine the impact that will have on your children; showing them what a motivated mom you are!! There's nothing selfish about bettering yourself for your family!

Finally, enjoy your working time as your time, but think about your children often! I love the post about pictures at your office! Find other working moms and chat about your kids. Call the daycare every once in a while to see what your child has been up to, and, OF COURSE, keep yourself busy so that the day goes by quickly and you can get home to your sweet babies even faster!!! GOOD LUCK and let us know how you’re doing!!
Nikki :)

Ashley - posted on 07/30/2010

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This might sound awful but my husband and I live VERY comfortably when we both work and our son gets to play with two other kiddos during the day with a GREAT lady. When he comes home we play play play and we get him all day on weekends. I want my son to be able to try out whatever he wants. I got that oppourtunity and it led me to getting a scholarship to college so, as much as I would love to sit at home all day and play house wife, we want a life of no struggle living paycheck to paycheck more.

Lisa - posted on 07/24/2010

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1. Prayer 2. A good support system 3. counting my blessings 4. reading "Ten Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment" by T.D. Jakes 5. Looking for a better job and realizing that the stress of not working and being able to meet my obligations is greater than the stress of working and even with all of those things, it's still not easy. I sympathize and empathize with you. Finally, I try to use my experiences to help and encourage others realizing that everything in life happens for a reason - even the hard things.

Marina - posted on 07/22/2010

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Just think-- what is the alternative? Staying home with no money--NO THANK YOU!

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Melissa - posted on 08/09/2010

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I have a 9month old daughter and a 2 1/2years old son and i hate having to leave them at home while i go and work, but when i think about it they are alright there with their dad and they both have big smiles on their faces when i get home at night.my husband works days and i work nights. i dont like my job, but i stayed on for my kids. i know that i am getting money in to buy them the things that they need food, clothes etc. thats why i stay there, for them. plus its a bit of alone time for me, time to spend and laugh with my work friends. its pays off in the end becasue i want so much to take them on holidays and trips.

Celia - posted on 08/05/2010

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My motivation is that I need to take care of my daughter. I had this problem at my last job and just kept telling myself that it wasn't forever, saved up a bunch of money and quit. And it felt great. I have been able to spend some off time with my little girl and am about to start a new job that seems promising. Just remember nothing has to last forever. Keep going and saving until you just can't take it anymore and walk out that door. (just be sure to give your two weeks first. Better for future jobs) ;o)

Nasim - posted on 08/03/2010

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i hate hate hate hate my job, for lots of reasons a girl works at my office that i dislike she was my friend i got her the job she is in cause it was my job but i went on maternity leave with the aim of not coming back but i eventually had to cause of the lack of jobs in the country, my pay sucks it cana't even take care of my daughter much less me i have to get help from my fam and her dad who i don't really like and my boss is a pervert. oh my life sucks when i thinkof my job i can't go to school because of lack of money so i don't know what to do i want ot leave it everyday.

Ian - posted on 08/03/2010

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it simply requires a job to give a good life to your kids...i have to be away from my kids to be able to give them all their needs and it sucks...the idea that i can give all the GOOD things to my kids motivates me to work...

Gail - posted on 08/01/2010

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I was blessed because I worked from home until my child turned 17. I was thankful that God gave me a job that allowed me to be at home with him and to enjoy all the wonderful moments in his life. I have another opportunity that I have just gotten involved with that will allow you to be at home with your child. If your interested in working with some very successful business people and professional football players and making some serious money let me know. You can reach me @ rgp2875@aol.com to get the information to watch the Live Webinar that will give you all the information you will need to do this business! Good Luck & God Bless!

Akosua - posted on 08/01/2010

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what motivates me is knowing I have a son and that he's gonna need things and I have to play my part as being his mother...I want to stay home all the time so I don't miss any moments of his milestones

Angel - posted on 07/30/2010

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..Thank you so much for all your motivating responses, being a mum is such hard work but when you have to go to work and you hate the job its even harder. For me, if I am answering my own question I would say that what motivates me is in line with what most of you have stated, such as being able to provide for my son, paying the bills as well as having a few luxuries like going on holiday etc or treating myself to a nice dress, or even a nice hair do. On the flip side however I absolutely hate my job and I absolutely find it a struggle to go in to work each day-
From having to leave my son crying for me when I leave the door to having to spend 8 hours with a manager that I absolutely cannot stand as she makes my life and everybody else's life a working hell. In the past like most of you suggested, I have tried to ignore her and decided to have a picture of my son on my computer screen saver so that when she is in her negative mood I look at my sons picture and find motivation, and would you believe the woman asked me to take down my son's picture claiming it was 'unprofessional for me to have personal pictures of my son in the office', I found this be very offensive and in fact I nearly walked out- I found it to be so spiteful, especially as she has her own kids pictures in her office. Every mum loves their child and for someone else to criticise your child, you feel that its a personal attack on you, and so I didn't want to work any more with this person because she feels the work atmosphere with negative energy, pressuring everybody to work beyond their contractual hours etc etc...cut a long story short, I posted this because I wanted some ideas of how to make a bad situation tolerable. You know that you cant quit work as its not an option, but how can you make your work more enjoyable and less stressful? Your feedback has been absolutely on point, Mummys thank you so much for the ideas and input.. Keep em coming xxxxx

Kindra - posted on 07/30/2010

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I'm a single mom. I've been raising my daughter on my own for 8 1/2 years with minimal and/or sporatic child support. The thing that keeps me working is the realization that there's no one else that can jump in to support her/us.

There's also the satisfaction of knowing that I CAN do it by myself. That I don't NEED to depend on someone. I pay the rent. I pay the bills. I buy the groceries, clothing, all necessities.

I know how hard it is to make yourself go to work everyday. I've got a horrible boss that is rude, disrespectful and ignorant. But I always remind myself that I NEED my job. I NEED that income. I LOVE my independence and knowing that I have the strength to keep pushing forward.

Grannia - posted on 07/30/2010

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Life is short people...Happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts ....and MOTIVATION determines what you do...never forget KINDNESSES, forget injuries,,you expression is the most important thing you can wear..that determines your ATTITUDE....blessed

Melissa - posted on 07/30/2010

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I really dislike my job, but I'm a single mom so I don't have a choice. I try to remind myself of the good things about it. Yes, my commute into DC is a pain, but I like working in the city. The hours are pretty reasonable and I don't have to travel for work. The annoying boring downtime gives me time to read the paper online and research things like preschools for my daughter or classes for her to take. But yeah, I do spend the last hour or so of every day wishing I was with my daughter!

Mirto - posted on 07/30/2010

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Money. I am back to work for 5 months and I will be here for another 3 as I am going on maternity for my 2nd child. I really have no clue what I will do afterwards. Maybe the increasd costs of a 2nd child and the expectations to maintain the same lifestyl will send me back to work for another 7 months when I am expecting to get my promotion. And then... we see

Andrea - posted on 07/29/2010

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Health Insurance. My husband insurance is more expensive and less coverage. My baby needs health coverage as well as me. The first week was the worse. I found a great sitter that I trust and my son loves. He does not cry when I leave him with her. When I go and pick him up, its the best time of the day. He squeals with excitement when he sees me and I just love that.

Mary - posted on 07/29/2010

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I think it is because I get to see my son at work about everyday(at a school) and it is great when you know you are getting through to a child or children who were struggling at first but improves through the school year. Just a smile on their face does it for me.

Allyson - posted on 07/29/2010

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As a single parent, I work because I enjoy sleeping indoors and having groceries. And I do hate going to work

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I have to get to a certain point before I leave. Everything that I wanted to get one has to be done before I leave. If I don't have everything I naturally just can't leave.

Josephine - posted on 07/29/2010

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What motivates me is the reality that no matter whether or not I want to go, I still have bills to pay, mouths to feed, and things I like to do that require money.

Muna - posted on 07/29/2010

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I love my job but their are some days when I feel tired of lots and lots of responsibilities ...so I programed my self to be an automatic thing ...just to wake up and go ...just the first few minutes and then I'll just be tooo busy to think :)

Christine - posted on 07/29/2010

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kids and their/our financial needs, specially if you're a single parent, not much choice in there...especially that bills and mortgages don't have holidays let alone rest!

Ariesgirl - posted on 07/29/2010

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My kids have always been a motivator for me when I haven't wanted to work but needed the money.

Veronique - posted on 07/29/2010

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For the past 3 years i was working in a job were they treated me like shit. I had ask for a raise and it was granted and then i told them i was pregnant and they took it away. I was working in accounting and when they found out i was pregnant with my second they put me as receptionnist. I finally found a job that i LOVE and i'm very happy. My boss is really great and the ambiance is pleasant to work in + i got my raise that i derseved. I have to say that the main reason people saty in jobs they hate is because they have to because there's nothing else out there. It's very hard!!!
Good luck to all you working moms who are in a job they hate....Stay strong and believe me if you are looking you will find something just be patient!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/29/2010

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How did you know that it was the one that was legitimate? Do tell more.....

Alison - posted on 07/29/2010

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When my kids were small I started my own day care out of my home which allowed me to earn money and stay at home with my kids. Now I still work out of my home but work selling memberships that help other people save and earn money from home. Check it out at www.bign.com/aswhipple.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/29/2010

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Oh my don't I relate to this post? I feel like this often. First I focus on the reasons I work; and I focus on my source of strength. I keep a copy of my devotional on my desk. Right now it is Sistergirl Devontions: Keeping Jesus in the Mix on the Workplace. I try to do my work as if it is unto God and not man.

And I remember that I work because I love my family. If I could stay home, I would, but I really need to work to support every thing I want for my children, and to be effective at showing Christ through me.

Anastasia - posted on 07/29/2010

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Obviously my kids! I would rather stay at home. Even played with the idea of home schooling. But single mom with 5 kids working two jobs (both which I rather not be doing - not to mention the pay sucks!) may options are limited

Vivianne - posted on 07/29/2010

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da fact that i wana buy ma gal smthin wthout askin 4 money...oh dat small feeling of independence n da fact dat i wana contribute to house needs keeps me working

Amanda - posted on 07/29/2010

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I can't say that I hate my job. I have a hard time coming to work some days cause I feel my place is at home. What motivates me to keep going to work is because I want to provide for my kids. Without my income things would be really tight and I don't want the concern of weather we can put food on the table or clothes on their backs. My kids are my whole world and I would do anything for them. I am lucky to have a job where they understand that my family means more to me than my job. I do my best to balance both work and family!

Martha - posted on 07/29/2010

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I stay in my job because it brings in the extra income we otherwise wouldn't have. It's only part-time so that helps motivate me to stay as well. With the economy the way it is I have had no luck finding something else I would maybe enjoy doing more.

Catherine - posted on 07/29/2010

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i only work 2 days a week, the only motivation just now is if i stop working then my boys have to come out of nursery and they are both doing so well, they have learned so much in all areas that if i was to take them out now they would end up going backwards in their development.
i would get more money if i wasnt working! which i find ridiculous

Shona - posted on 07/29/2010

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as kid, both my parents smoked (not that there is anything wrong with that) but that took their extra money to buy good quality shoes or weekend outings etc...so i work to give my boys the things that i didnt get.

Amanda - posted on 07/29/2010

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The money, to help pay for our mortage and the possibility of redundancey after 9 yrs there

Rochelle - posted on 07/29/2010

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it's out of need. i know that if i quit, my family would suffer. the people i work with and a competitive compensation package can also do the trick.

Christina - posted on 07/28/2010

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Bills. I hated leaving my daughter and still do. Shes 19months now and I only get 4.5hours with her a day. I wake up and go to work before she's up but dinner and her bedtime routine are all mine. I hate that I dont get to be with her more and feel like a bad mom sometime. But I have to work to pay the bills. The food she eats, bedroom she has, toys she plays with all have to be paid for.

Christina - posted on 07/28/2010

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The only reason I stay at my job is because of the bills I have to pay and their biological father has never paid his child support. I know I've got to do it for my kids even though it takes time away from me being with my kids :(

Emma - posted on 07/28/2010

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I had to go back to work so we can pay the mortgage. After the 1st baby daddy stay home so I could work. I like working more then him. But after 2nd baby we decide to both work part time. I like working 7 days a fortnight and the boys like childcare.

Heather - posted on 07/28/2010

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Angel - I DESPISE coming in to work each day. So far, I've stayed motivate just remembering that we would lose a lot of our lifestyle if I were to leave it. I also haven't had time to look for another job, so I must keep coming to this one. Trust me, it's HARD. I'm an inside salesperson and it's for the birds! I just do as much as I can muster up and in the meantime I will either asked to be moved to another position or find a new job. Good luck to you girl!

Rachael - posted on 07/28/2010

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The money. I may not get to see my son during the day, but I know he's well provided for and I will make it up to him someday.

Tara - posted on 07/28/2010

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Knowing that I'm the main bread winner(husband is disabled) If I don't work my kids can't do anything.

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My desk if full of family pictures, of moments we have shared and I think of how financially stable we are, this allows our family to spend this types of moments. That is what keeps me going.

Jessica - posted on 07/28/2010

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I absolutely hate leaving David. He is such a good baby and a mother couldn't love him more... but what makes me keep going to work day after day is knowing that I am making money for his future and to be able to keep a roof over his head. I also got lucky, that even though I work at a Casino... I have some of the nicest co-workers around that all love my baby so much that they remind me of him every few seconds. Knowing I get to go pick him up after work everyday and the look on is face is so precious.

Dawnelle - posted on 07/28/2010

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I enjoy working - that motivates me. Even if I won the lottery, I couldn't be a SAHM all the time, I would be volunteering for some cause and taking classes. I think it is healthy for children to see their parents working as long it isn't all that they do. I also also think it is healthy being around other adults that we have entrusted to their care and play with other children. In our modern society, where there are few children that are ever outside playing and when our children are with us parents, we over-schedule and cram their days with activities. Daycare is the only place where he can just play with others (or even himself). It is best for all of us. My son is 2 1/2 and I work at most, 32 hours per week. My husband and I stagger our schedules a little so 2 days a week our son is daycare about 9 hours and the other 2 days, he is only there about 6 hours. I am off on Fridays.



However, it was a necessity for me to work full-time when he was born and I hated that. I was able to gradually cut back after he was 6 months old and my husband started making more money. However, I don't regret how we did it but I would do it differently next time. If we have another child, I would like to work very part-time (20 hours max) until the child is 12-18 months old.

Brigette - posted on 07/28/2010

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My daughter and my husband! As painful as it is for me to get and go to a job that I ABSOLUTELY HATE!!, providing a better life for my family is top priority. When I first got married, we (my husband and I) agreed that I would stay home and go to school full-time, however, with furlough days and our household budget, I had to continue working. Hopefully, the end of this year, I will finally be able to pursue my goal....being a full-time mom and a full-time student!!!

Tiffany - posted on 07/28/2010

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the only thing that motivates me into going to work everyday is my paycheck, if it wasnt for the good money i do make every 2 weeks I wouldnt bother going in, but I like when i get to buy newer things for my daughter, my husband and myself, makes me feel good inside, although I do wish that sometimes I didnt have to start at 6 am everyday maybe later would be nice I am so tired every morning..

Sherrie - posted on 07/27/2010

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Its hard,when you hate your job I know because I do and my boss is not a nice person but my kids come first, so I want to give the best and that what I'm doing because I love them!!!!

Jannise - posted on 07/27/2010

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My love for my girls keeps me at work. I don't want them to grow up quitters when things get rough. I envy SAHM's "sometimes", but I love what I do, it gives me purpose. My job is also something that helps me provide them with the things they need like books, crafts, etc. I hope that my situation changes soon (my own business), but for now, knowing that as a Working Mom, I help my family keeps me going when I'm having not so great moments at work.

Danielle - posted on 07/27/2010

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I hate coming to work everyday and the only thing that really motivates me is that I don't have a choice! I have to work and there's nothing I can do about it. We have a family member that watches the baby when we both work and that really helps, knowing that he's with someone that really cares about and takes great care of him. And as hard as it is, it really is good for him b/c he has never had a problem being away from me b/c he's been doing it since he was 2 months, so we don't have the problem of him screaming and crying when I leave and all that stuff. If the opportunity ever arises, I would love to stay home or at least only work part-time. It is important for you to get away and stay in the work force.

Deborah K. - posted on 07/25/2010

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I can't tell you how much I wish to be a SAHM right now. My SO is waiting on his SSDI and in process of getting his home-based business up and running while I go out and work FT. As soon as this changes I will be cutting my hours drastically - especially when I start school again this fall. I like my job and work schedule but would still rather be home with my family.

Sondra - posted on 07/25/2010

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The thing that motivates me to goto work is simple economics, if I want to survive and provide electricity, food, and clothing for my child I must work. I am married but he doesn't make that much. So, I goto work.... I enjoy what I do (RN in a Pediatric ICU) but if I won the lottery would be a stay at home Mom in a second!

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