What motivates you to stay and work when you hate your job??

Angel - posted on 07/16/2010 ( 159 moms have responded )

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I just want to find out from working mums what kind of things motivates them when they feel like not going in to work or packing their job in...

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Deborah K. - posted on 07/25/2010

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I can't tell you how much I wish to be a SAHM right now. My SO is waiting on his SSDI and in process of getting his home-based business up and running while I go out and work FT. As soon as this changes I will be cutting my hours drastically - especially when I start school again this fall. I like my job and work schedule but would still rather be home with my family.

Sondra - posted on 07/25/2010

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The thing that motivates me to goto work is simple economics, if I want to survive and provide electricity, food, and clothing for my child I must work. I am married but he doesn't make that much. So, I goto work.... I enjoy what I do (RN in a Pediatric ICU) but if I won the lottery would be a stay at home Mom in a second!

Gene - posted on 07/24/2010

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$$$ is the only thing that kept me going back. Now I work from home with my daughter and I love it!

Laura - posted on 07/24/2010

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The ONLY thing that motivates me is the money as I am the primary bread winner in our family. My husband got laid off from his job three days before our daughter was born. We went without income for my 3 months of maternity leave and then tried to pay for daycare so he could find a job. We had an AWFUL daycare experience and will never put our child in one again. My husband stays home with our daughter and works PT nights as that was all he could get. It works for us. I just know that I could not leave my job as we depend on my income. I absolutely hate my job and would much rather be home with my daughter. I am currently pregnant with number 2 so I look very forward to being able to be home with both of my babies for my 3-month maternity leave (which is NOT nearly even close to being enough time). I will dread going back to work again and leaving the second child. My solace is that I know they are getting the best care as they are home with their father.

Dorothy - posted on 07/24/2010

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My kids & taking care of an elderly parent(mom).The thought that if I give up they do too.They look 2 me for strengh even when I'm @ lost/empty boarder.Always trying to look 4 the light @ the end of the tunnel. It gets harder sometimes everyday . But communicating with others HELPS!!! Alot too.Look 4 the positive before the negative@ all possible times/keeping faith.

Sheryl - posted on 07/24/2010

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My children keep me going. If I was single or me and my husband had no children I would gladly leave my job since i'm learning what I am anoited to do. I think it would be selfish for me to change my chilcrend lifestyle of living they've grown accostomed too because ididn't do what I should have before brining them in. now if my health had begun to be affected might not have a choice but would definately have something lined up prior to quitting because you have responsibilities. Not easy but when you chance your focus it will change your perspective and you'll be able to tough it out!

Lisa - posted on 07/24/2010

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1. Prayer 2. A good support system 3. counting my blessings 4. reading "Ten Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment" by T.D. Jakes 5. Looking for a better job and realizing that the stress of not working and being able to meet my obligations is greater than the stress of working and even with all of those things, it's still not easy. I sympathize and empathize with you. Finally, I try to use my experiences to help and encourage others realizing that everything in life happens for a reason - even the hard things.

Anita - posted on 07/23/2010

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I think its just the money, the fame & the fact that your income can enable your kids to have a better future

Rena - posted on 07/23/2010

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BILLS and i do actually enjoy my job. Also, i think i appreciate my kids more when i have to work and i am not around them more. However, i don't like the fact that my children are basically being raised by someone else. However, i do love my babysitter.

Laurel - posted on 07/23/2010

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Angel,

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Laura - posted on 07/23/2010

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My motivation is know that those innocent and helpless lives I have created depend on me for everything they will ever have, from food and clothes to shelter over their heads. But also they depend on me to teach them good values, morals and manners. How can you not want to set the best example possible for them to learn by.

Charlotte - posted on 07/23/2010

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Mainly having cash flow. Regardless, the bills have to be paid. I am in a new job now that I don't necessarily hate though.

Melissa - posted on 07/23/2010

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Supporting my family is what motivates me. We are a two paycheck kinda family. I also get the health care benefits through my job. So even though it's a struggle going in for a twelve hour shift. I know I am doing the right thing for my family and having 4 Days off a week with my son makes it all worth it in the end!!

Laura - posted on 07/23/2010

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All that motivates me is the money. I hate that and have looked for other jobs that would be more fulfilling but I would have to take a huge paycut. Right now i have good hours, great benefits, and a lot of vacation time so i try to be thankful for that, especially right now when so many others are out of work. I would rather be home with my kids though and be more organized and cook more at home. It's hard!!!

Nikisha - posted on 07/23/2010

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Honestly its very hard to go to a job I hate and have to drop my kids off @ daycare but then I think of how hard it would be for them if I didn't have an income

Erika - posted on 07/23/2010

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For me, its knowing that I am a single mom and my twins depend on me. I have a boy/girl set of twins and they need me and my crazy job for everything right now. I would love to be a stay at home mom but I would be broke and poor. I vowed never to be that way. I want to leave so bad...like right now!

Lesly - posted on 07/23/2010

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Money - it allows me to take my daughter on vacations, give her dance lessons, summer camp, and all of the things I never had as a child...

Jaime - posted on 07/23/2010

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my children that i have to provide for and also me wanting look at why i hate my job and is there something i can do to make it better.if not start looking for another job. then put in my 2weeks notice and move on

Bonnie - posted on 07/23/2010

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I had to go back to work when my son was 3 months old and have not been unemployed a single day since. I have HATED every minuet of it!!! I've had to miss out on alot of bonding time with my son and so many firsts. Now it won't be long before he is as tall as I am and I don't feel like we're as close as we could be:( I Love him and he knows it, he is a very sweet creative boy but his formitive years were spent with other influences, with other people and that has always bothered me. I guess what keeps me going is BILLS! I have to be responsible or we don't eat. When you're a mom you do what you gotta do, no matter how much it hurts.

Nancy - posted on 07/23/2010

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Money is a means to providing my child with the tools she needs to have the best chance at a successful life. College isn't cheap - student loans are a handicap (often the size of mortgage payments) and I'd like to avoid her strarting life in dept. Money pays for a better education, the ability to take music, dance or other activities she my express an interest in trying. It is security - two incomes in a bad economy vs. risking no income if the sole provider gets layed off.

It's hard sometime and a sacrafice not being with her all day, but I know in the long run it will pay off.

Karrin - posted on 07/23/2010

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The only thing that motivates me to stay at my job is my paycheck. And even that isn't motivating.

Tracy - posted on 07/23/2010

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I am a single mother, in the summer I work 2 jobs so I can have the money needed to get ready for the new school year. That sums it up in a nut shell. My children have a lot of things they want, but must practice delayed gratification in receiving these things. They must also earn these things, by doing their best in whatever they do, then with a little extra effort I am able to reward them. I have never had anyone offer me the option of not working, if my children were still young I would have taken the option of staying home with them, but because of my work ethic they also have a strong work ethic in everthing they do. In this I believe they will be able to handle anything in life. If you are not happy with what you are doing you may consider something you enjoy more, seeing you must do it most days of the week : ).

Joselyn - posted on 07/23/2010

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i love ma job but being away from ma baby just makes me sick, but we leave all to God. Always pray before you leave and when you arrive home,and pray to God that your child minder takes care of your son. it may not be up to your standards though but they try. tip: when yu feel you miss ya child take out a photo and kiss

Rebecca - posted on 07/23/2010

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Good for you!! Wish you all the luck!! It is a great feeling to go it on your own!

Joan - posted on 07/23/2010

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I stay in a career I hate to take care of my family...until I can make it on my own. I have been learning and honing a craft for the last five years, since right after my daughter was born, to do something I love. I am close now. Only a matter of time before I can cut corporate ties and be free.

Rebecca - posted on 07/23/2010

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I haven't always cared for every job I've had but I just remembered my boys. To keep a roof over their heads, food on the table, clothes, etc... that's what had to be done. Once I had the opportunity I was offered my own business that I loved and now I have more time with my boys!!

Jody - posted on 07/23/2010

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I really feel for you. It is hard enough to leave those wonderful smiles, but to leave and go to a job you don't like, that is tough. Regardless of kids I think it is really important that everyone enjoy what they do. A luxury we don't all have but should. Best of luck with your search for motivation.

Ondene - posted on 07/23/2010

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What motivates me.......money money money. Cant look after my child without it

Micha - posted on 07/22/2010

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It really is a nice break for me to get out of the house for those 7 hours, since a lot of the time, I feel like I'm doing most of the work with raising my son. Don't get me wrong, I love Raiden and I would do anything for him, but going to work to support him is part of the anything I need to do, and since I'm able to get out of the house every day and be around other people besides my crazy ass family, I'm a lot more.. Sane, I guess is a good way to put it, and I'm a much better mother for it than I was before I started working.

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I stayed for the money. My income was over half of our family income so I wasn't in a position where we could afford for me to stay home. Going back after having the baby was tough but my boss worked with me and allowed me to telecommute two days a week which helped me feel like I was raising my baby and not the daycare. A few months ago there was a change in the organization structure and I got a new supervisor. Everything that I had worked out with my previous boss went out the window so I feel completely stuck but I am hoping a new job opportunity pans out.

Pami - posted on 07/22/2010

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haa my mortgage payment and I do it for my family and kids! Other selfish reasons can be new shoes or an outfit help from time to time. If it helps keep a picture of your child near by thats what I do when I have to deal with rude people

Courtney - posted on 07/22/2010

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i really do dislike my job...i feel like im still 16..mind you im only 21 but ive been married for 2 yrs i have an associates degree but do not ue it....i work at a fast food place where ive worked for 5yrs now...why do i stay?? because ve been there so long i can pretty much set my own schedule (mon-fri 1030am-330pm) i make $9/hr to stand around most of the time....if i want more hrs i can have them if i dont want to work i dont have to...can i really pass it up? to start over at a new job change my daughters schedule...right now he goest o bed by 10pm and doesnt wake up till 930-945 when im ready to walk out the door to leave.....i still debate what to do....on one hand i want to beable to support myelf and my daughter on my own just in case somethin were to happen to my husband..but then on the other hand id rather spend more time at home with my daughter....its a hard decision and ive been trying to figure out what to do for weeks now....

Adina - posted on 07/22/2010

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I have a job I really enjoyed before I was pregnant. My co-workers (who are mostly men) are all very workable with my pumping (most don't know what the black bag is for and don't care if the job is getting done). So I still enjoy my job, but I still can't wait to see my baby at the end of the day.

Marina - posted on 07/22/2010

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Just think-- what is the alternative? Staying home with no money--NO THANK YOU!

Dana - posted on 07/22/2010

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my son motivates me all the time. just because i want to make a better life for him. and sometimes you just have to do what you dont like to do to get the things in life you do like.

Christine - posted on 07/22/2010

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my daughter because i know what it is to grow up wit little or nothing to eat some days and unable to go out with friends and shop,because my parents could not afford to.

Yashama - posted on 07/22/2010

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The only thing that make me stay at work is that i have to take care of my child even though i hate my job i make the best out of it just to make a living for my family.

Christine - posted on 07/22/2010

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i guess when you know you have to get up and get for you kids, because no one would give you any thing for free and i love handling my own money i love feeling independat

Paula - posted on 07/22/2010

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i just like to say well done to julieanne ,all the work will paid off for you. you sounds like a great person.

Rachel - posted on 07/22/2010

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My motivation is of course my little ones but also because i know that the people i take care of need me. ( i take care of mentally retarded people in a group home setting and even they may drive me crazy some times i like my job. you need to find something you like doing to make it worth leaving your child or children for.

Paula - posted on 07/22/2010

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i am luck i dont hate my job,i love the work that i do, it can be somtimes stressful.but the main reason i am there for like every other mother,is for the money which will help me give my son a good start in life

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My children. Must work to have food and rent and car. That is my motivation. I work to support my kids.

Lynn - posted on 07/22/2010

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I have to just say my hat is off to the mom that just responded, Julieanne, good for you!! You should be so proud of yourself and everything you are doing for you and your son. Take care and know there are many mons out there sending you lots of support and positive thoughts!

Julieanne - posted on 07/22/2010

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I'm 19 years old and a single mother to an 18 month old boy. I work a full time job m - f 9-5 and a part time job nights and weekends about 12 hours a week...i am also in school Sundays 9-5 to become an emt...i rarely see my son...but when i feel like just giving up i look at my sleeping baby and tell myself its all for him. I need to keep a roof over his head and food in his belly and i need to stay in school and better myself for him. when you feel down turn to your baby give em a kiss and know its for your little one

ZELDA - posted on 07/22/2010

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well i go to work for me and my daughter.I know that if i donot go to work who's going to do for her.

Lynn - posted on 07/22/2010

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Well honestly I struggel with this quite a bit mostly because I'm not totally crazy about my job but needing a paycheck gets me out the door, haha. However, if you're asking me what keeps me working in an office instead of being a stay at home mom (besides the paycheck) it is the fact that my daughter is in a really great pre-school with teachers and friends she loves. They provide her with experiences are completely different from what I can provide and I think will help her be a much more well rounded and confident person in the end. That being said, I think stay at home moms are super moms and frankly don't know how they do it every day so I don't mean to take away from the experiences they provide their children but for me and my daughter this is the solution that will allow her to grow the most and that's what keeps me from packing it in .... hope that was helpful. Take care :)

Lorraine - posted on 07/22/2010

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For me its simple, 1 it's my time away from the kids, 2, if they want the holidays to Florida or Menorca or the Christmas/Birthday presents or the days out then I have to pay for it. My mother was a stay at home Mum, we never went abroad, we never really went to the zoo or ro a theme park. I deceided sacrafices have to be made to give the children things I didn't have

Melissa - posted on 07/22/2010

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I am fortunate to have such awesome friends who give great advice. I have to pray alot!!! Prayer does help..

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