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Samantha - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I get up every morning around 5:30-6am to feed my little ham and to spend some time with him before I have to go to work at 8:30. Now when I get home he is happy to see me at first (11 weeks) just smiling away and trying to laugh. Then after about 2 hours he starts to cry, a lot, I pick him up and he's fine, I put him back down and he cries. I even try to lay him down and talk to him which helps a little but then he starts again. What should I do? I can only let him cry for so long and I dont get to see him all day so I want to spend my time with him, but I dont think I should be holding him all night. Now I know that during the day he is not being held, I thought that might have been the reason. Is this normal and what should I do?
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Samantha

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Christina - posted on 01/28/2010

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It is very normal! It sounds like your little one is still a wee one if you're still getting up to feed so early. It is wise to be concerned, you don't want to get in the habit of baby becoming dependent on you to fall asleep. That being said, be sure it is not a feeding issue ( reflux tends to present itself more at night if baby in lying down all day) and if not, hold your baby as long as you'd like ( or have time to) until it's time to get ready for bed. Once he cries, while your heart says you need to love on him a bit more, your head says it's important for baby to learn to self soothe. Believe it or not, babies learn to manipulate early, and they can smell fear and hesitation. So stick to your gut, find a bedtime routine that works for the BOTH of you and STICK TO IT!

Laura - posted on 01/28/2010

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When I went back to work - for the first month my daughter would cry, scream and become very clingy when I went to put her to bed - I was told that she was afraid/had anxiety about the coming seperation from me in the morning and this was her way of prolonging the time that she felt she had with me. Maybe that is some feeling that your son is experiencing?? What I found helped ease her is sticking to her routine and making her bedtime a special one to one time - my daughter loves books so together we choose 3 books and then after we give our "goodnight" hugs and she goes to bed also in the morning I make it a point as much as I can to be the one to drop her off at her babysitters, leaving about a 10 min window to let her be comfortable and say good bye - I found now that she feels evrything is predictable again in her world that she has calmed down alot - it is so difficult leaving your baby and transitioning back to work - it will take awhile but eventually everything will cometogether!

Samantha - posted on 01/28/2010

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I have been back to work for 3 weeks now, and he is crying before his bed time, around 6:30 - 7 til 8- 8:30.

Brooke - posted on 01/28/2010

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How long is he sleeping during the day? It's possible he's not tired or ready to go down yet. You may need to regulate how long they are letting him sleep during the day. It may be as simple as he wants your attention. How long have you been back to work?

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