which is the best bring a child up alone or bring up with both parent,and how does it affect the child,alone and with both parent.

Esther - posted on 04/17/2009

I agree with Gabrielle and Liza. My son is 15 months old and my husband and I are happily married. My husband has to travel for work sometimes and I can tell it has an impact on my son when he's away. I think that in a perfect world, kids live with two parents. However, it's not a perfect world unfortunately, so if your boyfriend or husband is abusive or your relationship is very unhappy, I think the child is better off living with just one parent (I would try to keep the other parent in the child's life unless that was somehow harmful to the child, as in cases of abuse). I do believe people should work very hard though to save their marriage/relationship before pulling the plug (this is different from just staying together and suffering through it), because, as I said, I do feel that ideally kids should grow up with two parents.

Liza - posted on 04/16/2009

it depends on the situation...i grew up in a 2 parent home that was loving and i had a grerat childhood....but i am a single mom to my 6 year old. my marriage did not work and i decided to do it alone rather than stay where my child heard arguments and uhappiness. children are smarter than we give them credit for. even when we acted "happy" for his sake he knew something was wrong. he is a healthy happy intelligent boy and life for the two of us couldn't be any better...do what you think is right for you and your child....

Gabrielle - posted on 04/15/2009

I would say that most people would agree that the best thing for a child is two parents who love each other, help each other, both care for the child, etc. But two parents in an unhappy marriage, with abuse, etc, is much worse than one happy, loving parent alone. I have friends who were relieved when their parents finally divorced, because they wouldn't have to listen to them yelling at each other anymore.

Priscilla - posted on 04/13/2009

i have been contemplating that same question myself..i have not got an answer yet:(

Jordana - posted on 04/13/2009

Quoting daveena:

WELL THAT A HARD ONE.

if ur with ur partner and ur not happy or he is abusive, out all day, dont give u no help, then ur better off alone as ur child will not have to grow up seeing u unhappy and abused in all aspects, at least if u are unhappy then ur child wont see that its daddy making feal that way..

THEN AGAIN

u could be a single mum and feel really alone, even if u have got family and friends around you.

BUT.........

woman are stronge and ether way we will try and make the best out of our situation.

whatever is best for ur child is best for you. just think of it like that 

What she said!!!

Neither and both are right and wrong depending on each individual situation.

Daveena - posted on 04/13/2009

WELL THAT A HARD ONE.

if ur with ur partner and ur not happy or he is abusive, out all day, dont give u no help, then ur better off alone as ur child will not have to grow up seeing u unhappy and abused in all aspects, at least if u are unhappy then ur child wont see that its daddy making feal that way..

THEN AGAIN

u could be a single mum and feel really alone, even if u have got family and friends around you.

BUT.........

woman are stronge and ether way we will try and make the best out of our situation.

whatever is best for ur child is best for you. just think of it like that