Whining at almost 7 years old

Katelyn - posted on 08/29/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 7 years old and he still whines and cries about anything and everything. We have always loved with my parents and just recently we move in with my boyfriend and his two kids. I was hoping the whining would stop and that he sees that there's no reason for it. It is stressing me out and I know it's stressing my boyfriend out. I seriously have no idea how to make it stop and have him not cry for any unimportant reason.

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DC - posted on 08/30/2017

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Agree with everything Karen Thomas said. Also, I wonder if your ds whines more when he is stressed and tired? Sometimes that makes a huge difference, but you can ask him to go back to where he was until he can come to you with a smiley face. You can ask him to be patient – if that is the issue – for as many minutes as the age he is. Having an endpoint helps. Mostly, kids go through stages and you just have to wait this one out. Good luck.

Karen - posted on 08/30/2017

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I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. It sounds like your son continues to whine because it has always worked for him before; your reaction reinforces the behavior. As far as other reasons as to why he is continuing to do so, he has experienced a lot of change recently and that can be very unnerving for kids - he needs stability, structure, and to know that he matters. Kids will often resort to younger behavior in response to drastic change and or if they feel that they won't be heard otherwise.

I went through this with my daughter around that age as well. What ended up helping the most was to calmly tell her when she whined, that if she wants something or doesn't like a situation, then I would be happy to talk to her about it when she could use her big girl voice and words. I stopped responding to the whining and positively reinforced when she would ask for things normally. The biggest thing is to be consistent and to openly communicate with him about what he is thinking/feeling/etc.

Good luck!

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