Iysha - posted on 01/24/2010
If you don't want to...then dont! lol. If your husband doesn't mind being the only one working, then go for it. I would. I told my Fiance who is in school right now, "You need to hurry up and finish so you can make the big bucks and I don't have to work!" I would love to be able to focus on keeping the house clean, not have to try and figure out when I'll have time to go to the doctor and just have time to do things I like to do...like golf and hang out with friends. Guess that's what retirement is for but, why not start early if you have the option?
At the same time though...I was home for 4 months with my daughter and I got real depressed. I felt like I didn't do anything and just felt lousy. I have worked for 6 years at the same place and I kind of missed it. lol. Funny since now that I'm working again, I say at least once a day that I hate working and want to just quit. lol. Never happy =]
I love working...getting out, doing my thing... making my own money.
I don't think I could rely on another for all the things I wanted, or expected out of life.
I like to contribute, and I like a backup plan..
what if he become ill or loses his 'good' job. In todays world you should always have a backup plan. If my husband or I lost our jobs we would not be devastated. We would have to become more frugal etc...but we would not be devastated.
Steph - posted on 01/24/2010
you dont have to its your choice...I'm 18 with a one year old son, i choose to work because i like my job and think my child is better at nursery than being stuck in all the time as he has more stimulation at nursery and it with his friends
Marylou - posted on 01/23/2010
Work if you want to ... I find there is a satisfaction & sense of accomplishment in working. I worked part time when our kids were @ home, to pay for their sports & extra school activities; now I work to spoil our Grandchildren & myself and husband. I also volunteer for many organizations. Whatever you choose to do ...@ 45 you should be enjoying life ....I know I do. Good luck with whatever you choose!
Netty - posted on 01/22/2010
Hi Janet--you're right you absolutely shouldn't have to work if you don't want to --you should be able to have the freedom to stay at home and travel or whatever it is that your life requires :-) If you do decide it would be fun to do something on the side, then my best suggestion would be to look at what my son is doing--Shawn Stoik and his wife Emily are top internet marketers--\He used to be a private investigator for the city of Edmonton police and spent years researching companies to see what is legitimate and what is a scam and eventually came across something where they are now earning between $1-3K a day using simple online marketing techniques. You should probably check it out because they are able to stay at home with their 3 children and have been incredibly successful training people all over the world to take their existing businesses online and to the next level or to help internet newbies to create a successful home business as well. I hope you find what you are looking for--
take care and God bless,
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Andrea - posted on 01/22/2010
i think to go to work it is getting you out the house so you can meet new friends and just think the extra money could go to that thing or holiday that you have always wanted to ive just done a college course to help me get work and i loved every min of it plus ive got a new qualification if i do want to go back to work i say give it a go if you dont like it you havent lost anything give it a try
Maggie - posted on 01/21/2010
who said you had to work? If you can financially make it on what your husband makes then talk to him about quitting. Maybe find a nice hobby or club or take some classes. Spend time doing what you WANT to do. Just be sure you won't be bored when you're at home. I'd lose my mind if I didn't work!
Janice - posted on 01/21/2010
It's great your in a situation where you don't have to work,but even if it's only a part time job while your husbands at work,so you still see each other,It's nice to have a little extra money.Also for your own piece of mind.Doing something that helps someone out.If money's not the issue,there's so much volunteer work thats needed.I'd love to be in a position where I don't HAVE to work,I Want to.Enjoy your life what ever your decision.
Jennifer - posted on 01/20/2010
I don't think it is that you have to, I work because I love my job. But if a job doesn't sound good, maybe volunteering! There are so many places in need and it can be a great way to fill your days with new friends and people to enjoy life with.
Amy - posted on 01/20/2010
I would encourage you to do whatever makes you happy. Since your children are grown, maybe working helps you feel fulfilled to some degree. I'm sure you provided a good life for your children and now with them gone maybe this is your way of showing you are still an equal contributor. Follow your heart.
Bev - posted on 01/20/2010
Are you scared of working? Af 45 with two grown up kids you probably havent worked much if at all? It can be daunting and people generally dont like change. If your husband has suggested it maybe he would like to sit back a bit now the kids have grown. Give it a try you never know you may love it!
Traci - posted on 01/19/2010
There is no reason why you should have to work. If you don't need to work for the money, and you husband is fine being the sole income earner, then it's up to you what you want to do. Some women do find more fulfillment in working. Others find more fulfillment in doing volunteer work in the community. Others just want to spend time with their hobbys or with their friends. There is no one right answer for everyone. Only you know the right answer for you.
Aundrea - posted on 01/19/2010
I don't know that there is any law that says you have to..or did i miss something hehe? Seriously, there are benefits to working and there are drawbacks. I don't know that you have to...but you may want to.
After raising children, personally I think any mom deserves a vaction if she can afford to take on IE a break LOL So I see nothing wrong with pursuing interests etc that having children may have made difficult or just lounging around. You may find though that eventually you will be bored and working would fill in idle time you have on your hands while helping your husband make ends meet...or to help with paying for a special vacation for the both of you etc. Also I do agree with some others here that if something should happen to your husband, having the job skills, credit, as well as a social environment to fill your time is a very positive thing. Alot of women never go to work and when a spouse passes on they are left alone and depressed, struggling with money and bills. Having a career would help alot in those areas. But I don't think you have to do it...if it isn't for you...it isnt for you :O) And you're a women...we all know we never do anything unless we want to ;O)
Veronica - posted on 01/19/2010
I can understand this seems to be a good set up now. Why should you have to work? Right? The first question you really need to ask yourself is this. If your husband were to gone tomorrow - wouuld you be able to live the rest of your life out - on his retirement/ssi/401k(a 101k in my idea)/pention, etc. - and I mean living comfortably. If you are only 45 - and people are living to 100 and beyond - would you be set for the next 60 years? This is my question to myself, and Im 26. My husband is going on 40. We won't live comfortably after he hits retirement - he doesnt make enough. So, because I am younger - I have taken it upon myself to build a business to take care of that for us.
I think this is more important to think about - the future, the what ifs - your Plan B. If you feel you are financially secure til your time is up - then I say if you dont want to work, then dont. If you dont' feel this way - you might want to reevaluate. I would also evaluate the economy - more people that are 'at the top' in the company are one of the first to be cut to save on budget. Just because someone is a big manager, or practically the president of a company - doesnt really mean their job is that secure. Im seeing people in prestigous positions get cut from their jobs - "to save money". One of our friends worked for over 20 years at his job, they let him go because he was one of the highest paid, and they need to cut their budget.
I guess i wanted to open up an avenue you might not of thought of or explored before.
Take care Janet, if life is where it should be for you - than live it to the fullest!!
Crysta - posted on 01/19/2010
Why? So that you have the background and ability to support yourself if need be. Staying at home with the kids when they need that extra support is one thing, if you and your husband agree to this. But there comes a time when you both want things, both want to feel equal in the giving and taking, that having a job..even part time is not only good for your self esteem, but great for your relationship.
I found that once I went back to work after many years of being home, I am happier, more content with my life, and my relationship with my husband has improved greatly. Not to mention we have the extra money for little trips just for us, I have money for some new items I have wanted for myself, and we both enjoy spending time with our three children doing things that we couldn't really afford to do as often before I went to work.
Just my opinion.
Esper - posted on 01/19/2010
You don't have to work if you don't feel like it. Maybe you want to find or start a hobby, meeting people is always good for you. It helps for your health and mind to get out there once in a while instead of just staying home or you could always do work from home like I do. We had a lot of fun with my team and I hope you'll find something that will work for you that will make you happy too.
Pamela - posted on 01/18/2010
I don't think you have to work who is making you?? .. me myself I do it not just for the money but for the self respect and the sense of self worth. Im currently not working but will be soon I have a 2 year old and a 10 month old
Victoria - posted on 01/18/2010
I love being home, there is so much I want to do, that is why I always had side contracts on a part time basis and temporary, the last time I took a full time job I created a big mess. It's good to keep a job just to keep learrning and changing -- change is good. I do wish I could go back to school, get a PhD as my original plan for the sake of growing and changing, not for the $$ part because there will always be a compromise of choosing between money or time. I rather have time.
Alison - posted on 01/18/2010
Who said you have to work??? Sometimes work can be very fulfilling. It doesn't have to be a chore. If my husband had a big enough salary, I might go back to school, or try to start up my own business, or just work part-time.
Danitza - posted on 01/18/2010
Thats a very lucky situation for you! I would love to still be at home with my 3 year old cos i believe only i can raise him right, but unfortunately both me and my husband have to work...but if i had a choice i really wouldnt.
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