Work,school, and kids,and me time?

Koree - posted on 04/03/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I work 40 hours a week and i go to school 14 hours a week. My husbands an exclent father who works part time and our "shifts" over lap so we never have much tme together. we are both home i usually end up dealing with the kids so he can relax, i don't mind most of the time, but it seems that i never have any time for mr to relax. Any ideas?

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Hi Koree, been there...What can you do for yourself ( that honors who you are) everyday for 10 minutes ?
Laurine

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You need to find out what you really love doing, like a hobby or activity, that makes you feel great. For me it is Scrapbooking... I never have the time to do it, however, once every couple of months I'll spend half a day and I feel so much better for it. It might not be much time, but the couple of hours makes a big difference. Forget about the untidy house and the pile of ironing...they will always be there! Just remember..."Happy Mother, Happy Others!"

Rachel - posted on 04/04/2010

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I understand how you feel. I work full time and have 9 month old twins. My husband is a stay-at-home dad because it was cheaper for him to stay at home than to put them in day care. I my days off from work he feels like he should not have to help with the kids. I feel guilty when I take a couple of hours for myself but I feel like I will go crazy if I don't. Of course it's ok for my husband to have some "me" time on my days off because he gets to spend time with our boys while I am at work. It seems like every few weeks we have an agrument about this but I truely don't think he understands.

Louise - posted on 04/04/2010

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Hi koree I feel a bit like this also. I work 40 hour week and my husban works shiftwork but is gone before I get up in morning and home after kids are in bed. Or he's leaving house as I get home in evenig and coming home as I head out the door in morning.
My day is up at 6:30 out door by 7:30 with 2 kids ready and bags packed etc (11 month and 4 year old) I drop them to Creche and am at work for 8:30. I work till 5 with half hour lunch (my choice so I can finish at 5 instead of half) go collect them. Home by 6:10 then feed change and in bed by 7 for 4 year old and 7:30 for baby. I do this 5 days a week and normally all day sat as he's either working or sleeping from the night before. I feel like I should have a couple o hours off on a Sunday that he can spend with the boys. He reckons that as he works longer hours he shouldn't have to do a thing. I mean it's only childminding right. It's not at all tiring or so he keeps telling me. Then why am I so bloody wrecked all the time. Oh did I mention my baby is up at night night teething also and has been give or take the last 6 months. And guess who's up with him.

What I have started doing is walkig. Stick in the iPod and 2 miles later! I had to fight for it though. The other thing you can do is spring it on him. Right so love your dinners on the table. See you in a bit etc. Even if you go sit in a cafe with a cup of coffee an a book.

Ronda - posted on 04/03/2010

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when you have that much going on its hard to find time to relax but maybe grandma or grandpa could watch kids for acouple of hours a week for you and hubby to do somethg or just cuddle up on couch and watch movie. no matter what it is you have to make time to relax. its well worth it just to let your mind and stress levels relax

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