working moms who like working

Bree - posted on 01/07/2011 ( 49 moms have responded )

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I feel like I've read a lot about working moms who would rather not be working, but I would love to hear from moms who like working and are comfortable with their children being in daycare. I, personally, struggle with having to work full time. I would love to work 75% time or something close to that, but that isn't currently possible. Even so, I feel like my daughter gets a lot out of her daycare. I'm especially interested in hearing from moms working full time.

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Jen - posted on 01/11/2011

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I'm an incredibly career-oriented woman, but I also love being a mom more than anything (I have two boys - one will be three in February, the other was born two weeks ago). While I sometimes wish I was able to stay home, I know if I did, I'd miss working. I've worked really hard to get where I am as a professional! We also have grad school loans to pay off, and my income is a big part of our ability to pay those down faster than the 30-year plan. For the sake of transparency, I'll say I'm incredibly fortunate that my job is flexible - I often work 55- to 60-hour work weeks - and I'm able to work from home as I need to.

I LOVE the fact that my son is in daycare (the little guy will join him when my maternity leave is up). He started daycare at three months, which was a bit tough for me during the first week; but, we've had a GREAT experience. It's made it easier for us with regard to helping him learn the basics like using utensils, potty training, manners, napping routines, etc. (as first-time parents, we really appreciated having a "lead" to follow). I also truly feel like he's more advanced than most kids his age primarily because he's socialized with friends and introduced to things like artwork, sign language, spanish, gymnastics, manners, etc. while at school.

For us, the the biggest downers are the expense and more frequent colds/ear infections early on. However, each of these are paired with great upsides - (1) our kiddo is socialized and learning amazing things for a child his age, (2) he's developing a great sense of independence and (3) he now has an immune system of steel and probably will have a much easier go of it once he hits the public school system. We also take full advantage of our time off - when we take it, it's all about family time!

It's hard not to be anxious, but don't feel bad about enjoying your career. In the end, if you pick what works best for your family and don't look back, it will work out for you!!

Liesel - posted on 01/11/2011

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Speaking as a working mom who has "come out on the other side" (as my kids are now in 2nd and 4th grade) I would agree that day care--provided you have a good one that emphasizes play--was great and that my working in no way hurt my relationship with my kids. I have many mom friends ranging from full-time SAH and full-time "big jobs" with travel etc. and I can tell you that I have not seen any difference in how the kids are turning out and how close they are with their moms. It is hard to work full time, no doubt, especially because you can't take any time for yourself. BUT, on a more cosmic level, I think this world benefits from every working woman who is out there showing up and making it happen. I work in a male-dominated industry and I feel like I'm having an impact and smoothing the way for other women just by showing up. Maybe my work won't change the world but it sends my daughter a message that she can and should work hard and get out there. Who knows? Maybe she'll be the one to cure cancer or be an inspiring teacher or lead a non-profit doing good in the world. I also like that my working forces my husband to step in and really be in charge if I'm traveling or getting home late. My son is learning that women can be in charge and that men can take care of kids too. I think these are all good things and they keep me inspired!

Becky - posted on 01/13/2011

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I work full-time and for as long as I can remember I always swore I would be a SAH mom. When my daughter was born it wasn't financially possible for either me or my husband to quit work to stay home, so after we each took 3 months off for maternity/paternity leave, we put Little Miss in daycare full time...at six months old. It was HARD. I cried every morning for the first few weeks, but then when I had to stay home with her a few times I realized that while I very much enjoyed being able to spend time with my daughter, I also VERY MUCH enjoyed being in my office, doing important things, talking to adults, feeling as though I was contributing something somewhere outside of the home.

A lot of moms will argue that the home is the only place that really matters, and if that's where they want to focus their energy, then that's commendable and I respect that. But even if I had the opportunity to be a SAH mom, unless it was a better financial decision for our family I don't think I would do it. I come alive when I'm playing with my daughter and filling the very important role of "Mommy," but I also feel VERY alive and accomplished when I go to work and finish projects, meet deadlines, receive kudos,etc.

Working isn't for every mom...but neither is being a SAH for every mom. As much as I hated the idea of "someone else raising my child," I have seen SO many positive results of having Little Miss in daycare. For instance:

* She warms up to people - especially her grandparents who live several hours away and don't see her more than a few times a year - much faster than kids of SAH parents.
* She gets along and plays with kids of all ages.
* I value my time with her in evenings and on weekends SO much more than I would if I was home with her 24-7.
* She has experience following other people's rules - not just Mom and Dad's - and is learning to respect other authority figures.
* She, at age 17 months, has daily exposure to an infant, a boy her age, a few toddlers older and more developed than her, and even a disabled 8-year-old. The exposure to different people, backgrounds, abilities, personalities and even cultures is a phenomenal opportunity for her - and it's not something being forced on her like a class or an instructional video. It's REAL LIFE.

In short, I'm glad I wasn't able to quit and be a SAH mom. As a Christian, I believe God had it planned that way because He knew I am not a good candidate for being a SAH mom. He knows where I need to be, and I'm happy with the way my life is. I love my job, and I love my family. I contribute as best I can to both and am proud of what I do. Am I always thrilled with everything? No. Do I sometimes feel bad when I hear about how special SAH moms feel their time with their kids is? Of course! But do I regret my life being the way it is? Absolutely NOT.

Lisa - posted on 01/11/2011

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I worked full time with both my kids. My son was in daycare since 7 weeks old and my daughter at 9 weeks old. Daycare built socialization for them. I was blessed with great daycare providers who helped create 2 well rounded children. I love working and balancing work and motherhood. It is a great accomplishment.

Dora - posted on 01/11/2011

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I am a full time working mom. Even though I don't like it I can say my son has accelerated thanks to his daycare teacher. The things he has learned has been amazing. He is 2 1/2yrs old. He know his ABC's, counts to 15, spells his name, knows his shapes and NOT just circle and square, if you draw a trapezoid he will tell you it is a trapezoid, he know his colors, etc...... I also love the fact that he has his little friends that he is always talking about. So I have to say daycare has does wonders and can't speak bad about it. And to think prior to placing my son into daycare I was one of those moms that bad mouthed daycares and mothers that would even consider daycare for their children. But I still miss my little boy with all my heart and would love to be home with him at least part-time if possible. So even though there may be negatives to being a full time working mom there are many positives for your little one.

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April - posted on 08/23/2011

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I work fulltime and my husband is a stay at home Dad. This does make it easier for me to work, I don't have to worry about hours, etc. However, we are starting our daughter in daycare one day per week in Sept. so that she can get the socialization that we feel is important for her development. This will also give my husband one day a week to relax b/c she is a handful, lol! I love my job and even though there are times I wish I could stay home with her and even though I do miss her terribly when I am at work, I wouldn't give up working. I need the challenges of working and the satisfaction of doing a good job. I love having that time to myself, even though it is work and it lets me socialize with other adults, lol!

Danielle - posted on 08/22/2011

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I love working its my escape honestly. I work from home but I send my child to daycare at least 3 days a week only for his social skills and him to be away from mommy. I know it sounds backwards to work from home and then send your child to school but it works for us and he loves to go to school.

Krista - posted on 01/21/2011

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I love my job, and my son loves his day care. It works out really well, because we live in a very tiny community, but I work in a larger town (which is where his daycare is). So if I was a SAHM, he'd get very little chance to meet other kids his age to play with. This way, at his in-home daycare, there are three other little boys to play with, and he has a fantastic time.

The only tricky thing is that I sometimes travel for work, so then I have to find a back-up sitter, as I obviously can't expect my husband to drive 45 minutes each way just to bring the baby to daycare. Fortunately, my in-laws live next door and are usually available to watch him.

I just started my job in April, but what I'd like to do after I've been there a few years is to work from home two days a week, and go in the other three days. That would save me considerably on daycare AND on gas, and would allow me more time with my son.

Liz - posted on 01/21/2011

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I am a full time working mom and I love my job. My 4 month old loves her day care, they are so amazing there always keeping the kids busy and also teaching her social skills. My husband and I work and we enjoy every minute we spend time with our little one. Weekdays she's at day care weekends daddy takes care of her. We need both of our incomes to live life comfortably and we can enjoy our days off together :-)

Paula - posted on 01/21/2011

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I am blessed to have the flexible full time schedule as I own my own business. My partners and I are all virtually based which gives me that roughly 75% you mentioned. If you can make that work - I highly recommend it! I enjoy my work, but this allows me to spend more time during the day with my son when we want/need to.

Like you, I feel he has benefited from day care and is easily transitioning into kindergarten as a 5 yr old. Since he is an only child, his social skills have developed quiet well! And since I'm not the natural "mom type", having that interaction with other moms (scheduling outings and play dates) helps him have some great experiences I may not otherwise think of on my own.

Nichole - posted on 01/21/2011

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I am a new mom to a four month old beautiful baby boy and I was lucky enough to be able to spend the first four months with him completely. I am a nurse and I worked hard for my degree and I am so happy to be returning to work. But im at an advantage cuz I get to go to work with little babies too and it just makes me so happy to see the moms interacting with their babies and then i get to come home and snuggle with mine. I really enjoying going to work and getting adult/me time in but I love coming home and nursing my son. I think going to work, since I have always been a busy body, helps me to appreciate the time I spend with him more, instead of wanting to give him away when someone else offers.

Jessica - posted on 01/20/2011

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I am a full-time worker with a 6 year old that has gone to daycare since she was 3 months old. I can honestly say I love working and believe my daughter has benefited. Now there are times where I feel discriminated against by people or organizations that do not accommodate my work schedule such as offering kid programs that my daughter and/or I would like to participate in

Meredith - posted on 01/19/2011

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I would rather work than stay home with the kids. I think they get a lot out of being with other children. I do wish I could spend more time with them. But their job is to go to school/daycare and my job is to go to work and when the weekend comes we play together. I am fotunate to have family close and a job that allows me the flexibility to get to the doctor and go see a dance recital! I take my hat off to the stay at home moms, but I do believe my children have benefits that other kids don't get and any guilt that may be associated with working while raising kids is put to rest!

Jacqueline - posted on 01/18/2011

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I am currently the only working parent and whether my spouse is working or not, I enjoy working. MY quality time with family is that much greater!!!!

Isabella - posted on 01/17/2011

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I believe when you do what makes you U, it helpes you to better care of others. Do what makes you happy.

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2011

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It is wonderful to read these posts. I have an almost 3 year old daughter who has been in a traditional daycare setting since turning 2 1/2. Before that she was with a friend of mine and her children for one year, and before that one year with her grandmother. All these transitions have taught her how to be adaptable, social, and I believe have helped her learn faster than I would have been able to provide for her on my own. I have worked full time since she was 3 months old. I too wish I could work part time, but that is not a reality for our family. I really respect and admire moms and dads doing it all - working and raising a family. It's so hard yet so rewarding all at the same time.

Josalyn - posted on 01/16/2011

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I'm in the same boat with you. I have tried the stay at home thing when I was married and it lasted about 4 months before I was ready to kill my family and them me. I love getting out of the house and going to work. Like you I do feel that my child gets more out of daycare than he would sitting at the house with me. They have implemented a program with the county library to have someone come in a read to them and they have "library" days in the center where the kids get to pick out books to bring home for a week. He has met lots of kids to play with that he can relate to, he wouldn't get this if I stayed at home with him. Even when I am home I have to force myself to sit still and read and play and enjoy him being little, because as a single mom (divorced) having to do it all it is too easy for me to get wrapped up in dinner, laundry, vacuuming, cleaning and everything else that I have to do. When he comes up to me "mommy read a book" my heart melts and it forces me to sit down and appreciate the time I do have with him.

Tamara - posted on 01/16/2011

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i also work full time and have since my oldest was just a baby. i was extremely lucky to have a job i could take him for the first year. after that he started daycare, and he and i both made our best friends there. she taught him sign language, and had him for a sleep over when my youngest was born. now my youngest is nearly a year, and i have been working for about 2 months full time. they have started a new daycare now because we moved, but she too is wonderful. its good for them to seperate from us so they take it better when its time to go to school. its also good for them to interact with other children, and see different walks of life. altho we seem to have the same parenting skills, we have different backgrounds and different ways of life. on a different note i love my job. it gives me hope for the future, and i enjoy the people i work with. i put my schooling on the back burner to raise my oldest as a single mom, so now that we are in a position for me to follow my carreer dreams, its finally a reality. its good for all of us. its sad to leave the kids, but sometimes its just what i need. just like the song says 'sometimes i pray for peace and quiet, but i miss it all once im out that door'. lol its good to get the break sometimes.

Alisha - posted on 01/15/2011

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I work full-time an have for 4 years (minus maternity leave). My daughter is 4 an my son 16 months, we have had really bad luck with daycares. They spend lots of time with the baby's dad an my family. I don't like getting up a 3 for work or knowing I wont be with them when they wake up. BUT... I LOVE working! Sometimes I really feel bad toward the end of the weekend cuz I'm looking forward to going to work an kids are upset I'm leaving. I LOVE my children with all of my heart an want to give them everything in the world. I am their sole provider so I know I have to work but really even if I won the lottery I would still work. After a good vacation lol :) I would go crazy home all the time. I know there is alot to do but it's diffrent then going to work.

Lore - posted on 01/14/2011

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am a school nurse working full time thanks to my colleauges took my little to work till she was a year and wen i was ok with sends her a daycare with no fuss so that it wud help her relate better with her mates she is 2yrs 2months and she is doing very at day care till date av got no regrets taking her there

Gail - posted on 01/13/2011

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I am a very full-time working mom. I absolutely love my job and career but do feel the mom-guilt pangs very often. It is definitely a struggle. My kids have fabulous babysitters that they love and a great Dad who although a crazy work schedule as well, makes the most of the time we are with them. I am sure that I do more than necessary to relieve that mom-guilt but due to my career, my kids have met some wonderful people and have experienced real life as they would not have with me being a stay-home mom, which would never be financially possible. My kids actually like my job sometimes more than me. Keep up the good work as long as you are enjoying it.

Casey - posted on 01/13/2011

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I do not work full-time only part-time, but I enjoy my job even if it is just Mcdonalds. When I am at work I do miss my daughter a great deal, but at the same time I am happy to get away for a few hours since I know once I get done work I will be seeing her again and showing her that I missed her very much! As for my daughters daycare, I really like the one I chose. They love her and enjoy her in their home. She learns a lot of different things every day and there are other children her age where she can play and learn from as well. I was at first very uncomfortable with her being away from me with people not family, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do and over all your child will learn things that you aren't able to teach them yourself.

Sheneva - posted on 01/13/2011

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I feel you, I have two and I work two jobs and go to school..... I feel like that's my only me time too!!!!

Amy - posted on 01/13/2011

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I'm working full time, but my husband is a stay at home dad. Even if he had a job that would cover the costs of daycare I would be ok with putting our kids in it.

I could never be a SAHM, I love working and I love my job. I'm working full time (40 hours, sometimes more depending on how busy we are) and I'm going to school to get my MBA. I miss not being able to spend as much time with our kids but I feel that it's important to set a good example. I want my kids growing up knowing that they will have jobs they hate, but that they should work towards getting a job they love (as both my husband and I are doing). Why settle for less?

Plus if I took time to be a SAHM, that would make it very hard for me to go back into my type of work. I make sure that I have my family time, but work hard to stay on the career path I'm on.

Soma G - posted on 01/13/2011

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I work full time & that includes Saturdays! My husband lives in another city, which leaves me as the primary & right now, only caregiver for our 11 month old son! So I am plain lucky to have been able to employ a nanny for him & have my mother oversee him the entire day!
I like to be employed, I have been here for over ten years now, much before I was married, & bounced back after my maternity leave with a lot of zeal. I love to finish my daily pendings, chat with my colleagues, have a life outside home that is...and not to mention the money!

Desiree - posted on 01/12/2011

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I love my job, especially because I'm so much better at it than doing household chores, esp cooking.. :p
I feel I'm less useful if I were to be a SAHM, because I'm not much of a homemaker.. and shallow as it may seem, I'd feel a bit guilty of "wasting" my education on something I'm not really cut out for..
That being said, if it weren't for my mother who is a SAHM since forever and who looks after my son, I'd probably be less secure about leaving my son for the long hours I'm away at work (usually out the door at 06.30AM and back home around 8PM). But my workplace is not that strict, I'll be able to take a couple days off when my son starts kindergarten this year, and I can always take a day or two off work whenever he's sick or whatever.

If there was a choice of working from home or doing 3-4 workdays a week, I'd definitely jump to it but I'm not taking any risks for now as my DH's business is still struggling.

Andrea - posted on 01/12/2011

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I personally love working full time! I am a Dietitian and work 40 hours a week doing that, and I also sell Mary Kay on the side. I've always thought it was important to get my daughter in daycare at an early age so that she would learn social skills that I can't teach her if I'm home all the time. She has done wonderful at daycare and she is now in Kindergarden and she loves it! I don't think I could be a stay at home mom! I would drive myself nuts!!!

Cheryl - posted on 01/12/2011

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I am a working Mum. I am an Ann Summers Manager and It is the best decision I have ever made!! My little man Jensen is 2 and he goes to nursery during the week from 9am to 5:30pm he loves it there.

Teya - posted on 01/11/2011

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Hi Bree, I'm a single parent to who fulltime and I have work fulltime from all of my child's life.. I enjoy working and when my child was daycare age he went all the time while I was working. Sometimes he went if I didn't have to work.. You shouldn't feel bad because you like to work, and working 75% time spend working is letting your child know when they get older that you have to work in order to take care of your house hold. Best Wishes

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2011

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I am a mother of twin 2 yr old daughters. I work full time 37 hours a week. I am lucky to have my mother to watch the girls while I am working. I like my job and like working, though there are times when I wish I was able to stay home with the girls. Its nice to get out of the house and interact with other adults, plus I went to college and am using my degree working. I do have Wednesdays off so I am home all day with the girls for some mommy and me time.

Marsha - posted on 01/11/2011

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I work full time and have my daughter's entire life. I went back to work when she was 6 weeks old, and luckily only had 4 weeks until the end of the school year. She was with a former student for those 4 weeks and then at the end of that first summer was with a private sitter (and her daughter who was 5 months older ) for that school year. At that time, my daughter went to a NACEY accredited day care center 2 days a week over the summer, and then full time at the beginning of the school year. She LOVED it, as did I. I LOVE my job working with Deaf and Hard of hearing students. It's fulfilling, challenging, and enjoyable. My daughter doesn't have any siblings so it gave her the opportunity to learn how to play with others. Going back to day care full time at teh end of each summer was a challenge, but only for a week or two until the routine was established. The workers were great. My sister was her toddler teacher. Her reading skills in Kindergarten and now in first grade are almost a year ahead of where they should be...and not because I taught her (she refuses to do ANY school work for me) but because she had a GREAT early preschool teacher who work on letters/sounds/ colors/shapes, etc with her class.

I would go CRAZY if I was home everyday all day with her. Does that mean if I won the lottery tomorrow I'd keep working, probably not, LOL , but I'd definately be doing something for "work".

Emma Jane - posted on 01/11/2011

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I work 30 hours a week so not quite full time, I love my job and always have. When the little one is older I plan to return full time. I am very lucky that my husband and I work at the same place so we work around each other so we don't have the added cost of child care, less time for us as a couple but its working at the moment.

Keisha - posted on 01/11/2011

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I love to work because it keeps me sane! I would much prefer to work a shorter schedule....ideally something like 3 days a week, but I can't. My kids have learned a great deal from being in daycare, so I have no concerns about that at all.

Stevee - posted on 01/11/2011

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Bree! I worked while my children attended day care. I worked for the Postal Service, and 95% of the time I enjoyed each day of work. It was challenging, but the children were able to attend private day care facilities. I missed the children during the day, and called the day care at least once a day when they attended. When I picked them up from day care, we were all generally excited to share how our days went. It was fun, but time passes by fast when you work 40 hour weeks.
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I am very happy to be a working mom and don't regret it at all. I have a very happy and healthy 17 month old daughter and am expecting my next little one at the end of July. After my daughter was born I was able to work three days a week at work and telecommute the other two. It was a wonderful way to stay at home part of the time and yet still get away. I think moms and babies benefit from the time apart. I got to have my 'adult' time and conversations and she got used to being around other children. I was able to afford to send her to KinderCare and they have been wonderful. They interact with her and she does art projects, has reading time, etc. After she was a year old I returned to work full time and I don't regret it one bit. She loves the daycare and has never cried or gotten upset when I leave her and it makes the time we do have together even more special because it is limited so to speak. I really think that it is more about the quality of time you spend with your child and not the quantity that counts.

Jessica - posted on 01/10/2011

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I guess that I kind of qualify. I bartend nights while my husband works during the day. My children are not going to daycare, as we always have a parent at home. We also make sure that we both have a day off together, which is Mondays. If we didn't, we wouldn't see each other at all LOL. I am not technically "full-time", but I put in 35-42 hours a week. I really like bartending, but as soon as my youngest is in school, I'm going to back to a full time job during the day. I do NOT get much sleep anymore these days.

The reason why we did this schedule was more or less not being able to afford daycare for two. It's nice both being able to stay home with them and to still work . My hubby gets home at around 3:30pm and then I start at 4:30 could be there as late at 3am, depending on the night. I also do get some nights when I can leave early and be out of there by 10ish.

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2011

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That's weird because I never hear about moms who would rather not work. It's just working moms who love to work. I work full-time but would rather be home. However I love my child's daycare and think that it has been great for her.

Chesilin - posted on 01/10/2011

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I worked full time from the time my daughter was 10 months old, and I HATED the thought of putting her in daycare. I found a home daycare, and soon I felt comfortable with it. She got to play with other kids, she was on a routine, she did a lot of activities, and she LOVED it. I wish it could've been part time, but then the pay wouldn't have been worth it with the cost of care. When my second was born, I felt bad taking her from daycare and actually kept her part time for the first month or so to "wean" her off. We still see the family often, and she asks about them constantly. I almost feel like I took something away from her because now she has to stay at home with boring old mom and no playmates! I'd love to be able to have her still go a few hours a week, but we just don't have the money for it now that I'm staying at home with my infant. I miss working and I think she misses the interaction with other kids- but with two now, it's just not cost-effective.

Acquelyn - posted on 01/10/2011

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Hi Bree,

I work from home and I work away from home too. I love both, but my passion is to stay at home full time. I'm working on that though! I work with newborn babies when I am away from home and I work as an online scam consultant when at home.

When I am busy working away from home, my kids are in daycare too! I'm okay with that, because I feel like they get a lot from daycare.

I guess we have some things in common.

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Klara - posted on 01/09/2011

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I feel like my job helps others, so it is important to not only me, but those I care for. As a result, I like working, like my job, and feel what I do is important. I'm sure I most likely would not feel that way if I was in a factory...but, it takes all kinds and all jobs to make the world work. We have been lucky to have a lot of family help with our two kids, and that was really good for the kids. More recently, I work 3-12hr. night shifts, and my husband works days, so we kid of alternate watching the kids. It works fairly well for us. We've been lucky when we needed daycare, to have some very good providers, but most of the time it was family. I honestly am not sure I would be a very good stay at home mom. I need more purpose and direction than just cleaning the house and waiting for the kids to come home from school. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and husband very much, and at times its overwhelming trying to fit everything in, but for the most part, I wouldn't change our lives much at all if given the chance!

Lana - posted on 01/09/2011

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I too like working. I work more than I would like, which is prob 50-60 hours per week. My son has gone to daycare since his was 6 weeks. Since I work retail though as does his father we go in late and get out relatively early. His father and I do not see that much of each other. But we do get a great deal of time with him. He usually goes to daycare around 12pm and we get him around 5 or 6 depending on the day. But he seems to like all his teachers. He seems to be very aware at his age and i love his teachers.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/09/2011

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I work full time as well as my husband and my son goes to his nanna 4 day and his farm nanna's place one day. i was home with him for 6 months and by the end of it i had a constant headache from the lack of stimulation, went back to work and the headaches went away. I enjoy my job, its a 30 min commute and my role does not require me to take any work home with me. the weekends and evenings are all about him.Work is my "me" time. We have a monthly date night were someone babysits at night ( the day is spent tiring him out) while we go out for dinner and movie/chat. My work desktop is photos of him and so is my screen saver, if his ever sick my work is understanding and this helps a lot.

I love my son, my husband and my job.

Tiffany - posted on 01/08/2011

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I work 40+ hours a week and so does my boyfriend. Our daughter goes to daycare from 8:45-5:30 everyday. She absolutely loves daycare. The girls there take such good care of her. There's one girl in particular that she would spend everyday with if she was there everyday! I was soooo nervous when I went back to work but she stayed home until 9 months because my boyfriend was laid off, so she spent 9 months with Daddy. (I went back when she was 3 weeks old). And her 1st day of daycare I cried my eyes out. She's been there 7 months and I am so glad I picked that daycare. She learns so much and she gets to make little friends and do activities. I'd love to stay home with her more, who wouldn't? But every mom needs a break and while i'm getting my "breathe" time, it makes me miss her more and appreciate that I have her. And I make money to buy her what she wants! lol.

Cassandra - posted on 01/08/2011

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I agree with everyone. I work 3.5 days a week and my mom watches my girls for 2.5 of those days, my husband watches them the other day. I am a nurse, I love my job and I worked really hard in nursing school. I'm not willing to just give all that up, nursing isn't something you can really walk away from and come back to in 10 years. I really agree with Michelle about being able to talk with other adults and getting a break. I took the week before Christmas off this year and I surely was ready to get back to work after that week was over! I am at home every evening and every weekend, also every holiday. I don't feel guilty at all for working, I think it makes me a better parent for sure!

Kelli - posted on 01/08/2011

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I love my son more than anything but I do enjoy my job. I'm very luck to have a wonderful husband that is willing to take on more responsability than most men. My son loves going to daycare and runs to his teacher every day. I never feel guilty dropping him off in the morning. Spending 40 hours a week away from my son makes me appreciate the time I do get to spend with him that much more.

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I also enjoy working and have never once felt that my son was deprived of anything while in the care of a home-based babysitter, then a traditional daycare settin,g then full time preschool. Now he is in a full day Kindergarten class and is thriving. I have always enjoyed teaching, and this is my 15th year in the classroom. I had an opportunity to teach part time 3 days a week in the 2006-2009 school years and that worked out beautifully. But then it was back to full time teaching. This year I teach 9th grade English at a very difficult and demanding high school. I am grateful that the after-school program is local to my parent's house and my nephews attend as well. Grandma/Grandpa pick up all 3 boys around 4:30ish and then hubby & I take turns picking up our son for dinner. Our routine works best for our working family.

Nancy - posted on 01/08/2011

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I am a working mom of two kids, a boy (near 7) and a girl (near 5). I went back full time after 3 years as a part time faculty member mostly because I really love my work, my students and my employers are very family friendly.(I am lucky!!) My kids did not suffer at all in daycare or with sitters the first four years of their lives. They are happy. Our childcare has been wonderful and except for the prevalence of illnesses it has been a good experience working and having children in their respective schools. My job is very fulfilling, teaching College freshman students Writing and Oral Communication. I am working toward tenure now which was not possible when they were still really young. I read, advise, teach, evaluate and do program development. The days are very busy but I know I am making a difference as an educator. What I do make a point of doing while I work is to attend every recital, school function that I can so my kids know I am always interesting in what they are doing.

Michelle - posted on 01/08/2011

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I work full time, and I am a single parent. I am lucky enough to have my Mother live close by and she put her job on the back burner and now watches my son while I work until he gets old enough and I find day care. I do feel daycare is a good thing. I mean, as long as it's actually a legit establishment. You hear so many horror stories now a days about employees that are...well, let's just say less than par. I took two weeks off when I had my son, and at the end of the two weeks, I almost couldn't wait to get back to work. I have no choice but to work, however, I love it. It empowers me because not only am I looking after my son, and raising him, I am providing a roof over his head and food in his belly. Not to mention it gives me a break, as bad as that sounds. I love my little munchkin, but it's a time where I get to converse with other adults. I don't go out, I don't party.....work is my only me time. lol

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