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I just dont know..

Amber - posted on 05/24/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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So My husband of 5 years is still playing WOW... I am so sick of feeling like all of his friends online are more important to him. He has 5 lvl 85 characters and makes time to raid on 3 of them. He stays up until 1 am or longer just to raid and I just want to snap..... When I try and talk to him about it he changes the subject and just doesn't listen. We have broken up because of him playing the game.

I feel like he just plays the game since he's with me. when we break up he goes out and dates and takes them everywhere and doesn't think about playing this game. But as soon as we are together hes back to playing wow. I'm not asking to go out every night. but at least once a month take me out or something.... hell even to watch a movie or help me with our 2 children ( ones 3 and ones 5 month old). I cook i clean and take care of them and im tired of doing it by myself....

idk sorry kinda ranting but i need some advises I'm about to hack his account and delete everything!!!!!!!!!!!

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Jessi - posted on 05/29/2012

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Hi. I'm in the same boat you are. My hubby (coming up on 5 years in September) started playing maybe a year before my daughter was born. (She's now 6 and I have a 2 1/2 year old son too.) He started with that Star Wars game. I have no idea what it's called. He even brought his computer to the hospital so he could play during labor and played while I was sleeping too. Sometimes I would get so frustrated with him, that he would take breaks from the game. Not even go near his computer for a week or two or even a month. It helped, but didn't fix things.

It was a huge fight when we had one kid. Then we had our second and now he takes more time to help me when I ask. What you're describing sounds exactly what we have in our house, except it's gotten better since our son was born. When I was still preggo, I told Adam that I wouldn't be the martyr anymore and he was going to do more with us. (I had felt bad getting preggo when we were still dating and felt like I had to take on everything myself and not make/have him help. And he took advantage of it.)

I just deal with it. His stance on it is that it is way cheaper than his other hobby (cars, fixing them up, etc) and he needs something so this is the better of two evils. I was having problems with him not wanting to be involved with us, and vented to my mom about it. My dad is the same way, he would rather stay home than get out and do things. So she gave me good advice. If you want to do something, go and do it yourself, without him. If you want to go out, call some girlfriends and go out. If your guy is like mine (and this doesn't happen as much as it did before, as I said, things have gotten way better with him), he'd probably make you feel like he's being put out for watching the kids. So find a babysitter.

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