My screaming baby!!

Kristin - posted on 12/13/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I had a family Christmas party this weekend and it was the first time that they were all meeting Nicolas. So, of course he was completely overwhelmed and overstimulated and cried alot. A couple of my relatives would continue holding him even when he was crying. I felt really bad and wanted to take him back, which I did eventually, but didn't want to offend anyone and make them think I didn't trust them to calm him down. How do you handle situations like this? Take your kid and calm them down right away or let them try for awhile and then take him? I let them try for a bit and when it didn't work, I took him. But I felt so bad listening to him cry...

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Angela - posted on 12/18/2009

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Liv has stopped taking naps in general but if she even falls asleep for a couple minutes in my lap my dang MIL will squeeze her cheeks or rub her head (she hates her head rubbed) to wake her up b/c "she's boring when she sleeps". I wanna strangle her every time she wakes her. then she gets mad when LO cries.

Leah - posted on 12/17/2009

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Emma can't sleep at my in-laws either. My MIL is always smothering her and people are passing her around. If MIL see her move or her eyes open in the middle of a nap, she rushes to take pictures of her (with a flash, mind you) and pick her up. Then, when she finally falls asleep there is always some commotion. The last 3 times we've been over there for 12+ hours, she's napped less than an hour.

Angela - posted on 12/17/2009

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Quoting Leah:

I will usually let then try and calm her for a few minutes, then I will take her, calm her, and give her back to them. Although, the other day we were at my in laws and Emma was fine and happy sitting in her infant seat and my MIL just HAD to pick her up and she started wailing and crying like I've never heard before. But she wouldn't give her to me, she tried to calm her down for at least 10 minutes and nothing was working. Finally, she put her back down and she was fine. Obviously, she didn't want you to hold her. I said to my husband, "Is it really worth making her cry like that just so she can hold her." I was SUPER annoyed.


my in-laws do the same thing especially if Liv is sleeping. they wake her piss her off then hand her to me every single time.

Leah - posted on 12/17/2009

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I will usually let then try and calm her for a few minutes, then I will take her, calm her, and give her back to them. Although, the other day we were at my in laws and Emma was fine and happy sitting in her infant seat and my MIL just HAD to pick her up and she started wailing and crying like I've never heard before. But she wouldn't give her to me, she tried to calm her down for at least 10 minutes and nothing was working. Finally, she put her back down and she was fine. Obviously, she didn't want you to hold her. I said to my husband, "Is it really worth making her cry like that just so she can hold her." I was SUPER annoyed.

Chelsea - posted on 12/16/2009

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this is a huge issue for us. Irelynn is not a happy baby unless with myself or my husband. So what do you do when family wants to cuddle the baby... hope they will be understanding that right now she is just not comfortable with other people right. Well my side is fine with that, my husbands side not so much and it makes me dread going to see them. IMHO you should take your baby and comfort them, calm them. Your who they know best and if you leave them with those people I think it could cause some anxiety issues in the baby.

Angela - posted on 12/14/2009

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It depends on who it is, my family always wants to try to calm the baby on their own and most of my firends. hubby's family expects that the baby never cries or they don't want her. but she usually only cries if they hold her (i think b/c she knows there is no comfort with them). If we are at the in-laws I take the baby and calm her down they tick her off again, i calm her then eventually just keep her.

Marnie - posted on 12/13/2009

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:hugs:



That sounds like a lose-lose situation. If you take the baby, you're a harpy who obviously doesn't trust anyone with her child. If you leave the baby, you're a horrible mother that lets her baby wail uncontrollably. ;)



I have been trying to encourage people to "stick it out" and hang on for a moment or two since passing the baby around or moving too much is only going to create more chaos. Some folks are good with that, some lose their patience (which I completely understand). I think it depends on who is snuggling the baby.

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