has anyone evr had this happen?

Christin - posted on 04/10/2010

ya i dont like them. i think downtown where we lived there were like 50 massage places. we had like numerous strip clubs. we went into one once when i was looking for a job bc i was at the point where we needed money and i walked back out. the waitresses were rude by ignoring people. we were lost, like they saw us confused and stuff and didnt help us at all or even akknowledge we were there, they were walking around to themselves. they didnt even id you to get in. anyone can just walk in. the music was so loud i couldnt even hear myself think. i was like yelling at my husband and he still couldnt hear me and all the girls in like every place looked like drugged out well prostitutes. the dancers all looked nasty, i dont know how guys liked it. when i went to talk to manager about the waitress job hes like oh you have the face that will bring in guys and you could make alot of money stripping. im like umm no i dont strip. thats not my thing. but ya neeless to say i didnt get the job lol. the strip clubs here are decent. the girls look decent and not drugged out.

Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2010

Over here massage parlours and escort places are illegal too. I think if you're that desperate for sex find a partner.

Christin - posted on 04/10/2010

its illegal here to an extent. if you work for an agency like an escort place or a "massage spa" its not since your not on the streets. but the cops overlooked alot of stuff. i tried getting a job at a strip club as a waitress since i couldnt get one anywhere else and i just wanted to waitress, but they kept pushing me to be a stripper. i didnt want that. so i didnt. but alot of strip clubs got busted and one shut down for prostitution. where we live now theres 2 strip clubs. one up the street and one the other way. but they are real big on stuff. it was funny tho, we were waiting to go in and get married and we were talking to another couple waiting to and they brought some guy in in handcuffs. im like hmm nothing like seeing a criminal in handcuffs on the day you get married lol. but theres like no other strip clubs anywhere pretty much. i think these 2 are the only ones close by in any city around us.

Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2010

I was married at the resgistry office as Steven's not religious so it would be abit hypocritical being married in a church but over here most people have a wedding dress even for a registry office wedding =]

I'm glad I don't live in America - over here there are very few lap dancing clubs and they aren't usually on main streets and I've never seen prostitutes walking around - it's illegal and that's the way it should be.

Christin - posted on 04/09/2010

i never had one. i had one picked out but we went to the court house. its just really irritating. i went in to get an outfit for easter to wear to his grandparents and all they have are super short cutoffs that would barely cover my butt. im like ya thats great to wear to familys house around guys. so i get shorts that are above my knee that actually cover my butt and they are considered capris. im like what? but i have long legs so skirts are too short and shorts are to and its hard to get jeans that fit right. so its like really annoying. i really hate walking out in public having a baby looking like a street walker. in texas that was a big thing. there were strip clubs on every block. on our street alone we had a few. like 3-4. but you'd see prostitutes outside walking the streets or in the apartment complexes and there was some bigger girl who had on a tight teddy thing and her boobs were way hanging out. im like omg.

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2010

I don't do sun dresses either - my hips are so wide and I just look so strange in them! The only dress I've ever liked the way I look wearing it was my wedding dress =]

Christin - posted on 04/09/2010

usually i go to rue21 here. they have alot of actual clothes that are like hip but not all show offy. like they cover your body and are cute and dressy but at the same time young. at wal mart we were looking and ended up in like the old people stuff. im like umm no not that old lol. i cant wear sun dresses cuz i dont have the body type for one so i dont look good in them.

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2010

I love New Look they have yummy mummy clothes I think =]

Lisamarie - posted on 04/09/2010

I know what you mean, I walk into a shop and you get all the young skimpy stuff that is gonna show way to much stetchmarks for me! lol. Thgen on the other side you got all the older more conservative stuff. Where's the middle? So annoying lol

Christin - posted on 04/06/2010

sounds like me lol i used to love shopping but here omg i walked into the store to get an outfit to wear for easter and it was like wheres the clothes? they were all cut off hoochie shorts or stuff that doesnt cover your butt or the shirts were all strapless and low cut. they had like no decent clothes. i finally found a cute outfit. my husband picked it out lol. he was looking for an outfit that looked cute bc he said what i picked out didnt flatter me too well. i love shoes, but its hard for me to wear heels anymore plus he sais i dont look good in heels lol. i dont have heel look i guess. which really i dont unless i wear dress pants. i used to be super girly and now im not so much anymore. i just finally figured out how to work a curling iron

Lisamarie - posted on 04/06/2010

I'm a UK size seven feet! :) My hubby bought me the most perfect pair of gorgeous red shoes last month! Love them! :) I'm really girly so love shoes and really want a pair of Louboutins but hubby says he won't pay that amount of money on one pair of shoes! :( Don't get me wrong, I'm not an airhead who loves to shop and wears lots of pink, I don't! Although, I do LOVE pink! lol I actually hate shopping because I have no idea what suits me and what doesn't and I am quite intelligent and booksmart! :)

I always thought I had big feet but I think they're pretty average, not really sure. I have no idea the size differences either, Christin, don't feel dumb. lol

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

lol i feel dumb now. i havnt looked at tags in awhile on shoes. here the average is like a 6 or 6.5 his moms like well i have huge feet i wear a 8 im like so then my feet must be ginormous. shes like why what size do you wear? im like 9 or 9.5 shes like ohh that is pretty big. im like ya thanks lol shes like i didnt know they were that big. im like ya. my child has a mix of our feet. she has wide feet and i think shes going to have high arches like me

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

US sizes are different to UK sizes...a US size 9 is a UK size 6.5 and a US size 9.5 is a UK size 7. So I'm like a US size 11/12/12.5. There's only two shops I can get proper womens shoes from although I usually just wear Converses or vans =] so I can just get mens anyways lol as they look the same as the womens.

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

thats what size i am lol. i wear a 9 here i think thats the same as uk sizes. usually they have sizes in diff. countries and i think the us and uk are the same. i wear a 9 or 9.5 in shoes. they have those sizes but in like the really cute shoes i really want they never do and it makes me mad lol.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

Lol I'm a UK size 9 or 10 in shoes so struggle getting shoes all the time!

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

lol, i have big feet well compared to most girls but i have small hands.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

I definately think it depends on the man or woman. I had no problems with my female midwife lol but others have and vice versa lol. Plus I have bigger hands than most men lol!

Christin - posted on 04/04/2010

i think guys are just naturally more like gentle i guess since they have bigger hands they try not to be as rough as a woman who just really doesnt care lol. i had 2 guys deliver my baby, the female dr was out of town so her fill in was a male and my dr i see. neither one coached really. just you can do it when i just stopped pushing or occasionally i got almost there! keep pushing big pushes the longer you stop the longer it will take. but really iw as so tired i didnt care.

Christin - posted on 04/04/2010

i think guys are just naturally more like gentle i guess since they have bigger hands they try not to be as rough as a woman who just really doesnt care lol. i had 2 guys deliver my baby, the female dr was out of town so her fill in was a male and my dr i see. neither one coached really. just you can do it when i just stopped pushing or occasionally i got almost there! keep pushing big pushes the longer you stop the longer it will take. but really iw as so tired i didnt care.

Lisamarie - posted on 04/04/2010

Yh, I found that too with my male doctor over my previous female doctor, she had no compassion at all and was really rough.

Christin - posted on 04/04/2010

i love my dr. at first when i found out it was a guy im like umm ok i really wanted a girl but then hes really pretty good so i stayed with him. i hear guys have softer hands and arent as rough as the woman. which id believe that, when the female dr did stuff it hurt but when he did stuff it was done before i knew he did anything.

Lisamarie - posted on 04/04/2010

Wow! How rude!! You can actually report him for that! That's really bad and he should definetely not be talking to his patients like that! Our doctor is a pain in the arse, sometimes he's really nice and he'll talk to my daughter but then sometimes, if I go in with my hubby and the children he is always moody and tells me to leave with the children and wait for my hubby outside! He's just funny with me sometimes.

Jennifer - posted on 04/03/2010

Very different feelings on the matter then lol! Nah I just think men who want to be a midwife or a gynaecologist have a problem to be quite honest. I just think it's eurgh and that they have an underlying mental problem because no way would I want to be looking at mens bits all day! And it makes me feel so uncomfortable too especially since the man who did my internal post-partum was old enough to be my granda...! I think I could understand a gay male midwife because they tend to be very feminime and caring. The midwives I had were really nice, even the ones who had had children of their own. And most of the male doctors I've seen (at the old doctors I used to go to these were), they were pig headed, patronising gits to put it nicely. My mam took me when she thought I had PCOS and the first one just said no your just a bit hairy and fat....I was like oh thanks that's so helpful.

Lisamarie - posted on 04/03/2010

Ooo my sonographer was a man and I really wanted a male midwife!! lol And a female doctor did my stitches both times! I'm so opposite you too! lol I found the female midwives too bitchy and look at you as if to say,"come on, we've all done this before what's the big deal?" whereas male midwives are more caring because they don't know what it's like and want to make a better impression because they are men.

Jennifer - posted on 04/03/2010

That's so strange over here midwives deliver the babies and I've never seen one who's a man lol! I'm so glad there wasn't a man meant to diliver the baby as I'd have requested a woman anyways! A male doctor did come in to help do the stitches but that's mainly because a midwife isn't heavily trained in that field.

Christin - posted on 04/02/2010

ya i hated those, luckily my dr never did that lol. he never checked for that stuff unless he thought i was in labor or was going to go into labor soon. the main dr is a girl but she was out of town when i delivered so i had my dr and another guy, which you know when your having a baby not such good support lol. my mil was like well they did a bad coaching job, but i had a female nurse in with me the whole time who did that since i figured the dr.s job wasnt to coach esp if its guys lol. i probably would have thought they were crazy anyways if they tried.

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

Eurgh nasty! I don't think I'd enjoy it being put in either lol! The implant was fine because I don't mind needles but I hated internals during pregnancy and labour - makes me feel uncomfortable, especially when it's a male doctor doing it!

Christin - posted on 04/02/2010

my husbands friends wife had one and he said he had holes from where it poked him not big but he said it just hurt too bad.

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

Yeah I heard that too lol! I thought it was funny to begin with then was like ouch that might hurt!

Christin - posted on 04/01/2010

ya i hear you bleed alot more than depo and it hurts and it pokes the guy during sex

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

I don't think I'd ever consider the IUD - it's meant to be really painful apparently.

Christin - posted on 04/01/2010

yazmin is a pill but theres alot of stuff behind it causing people alot of problems. thats a bad pill to take, they have a commercial about a lawyer bc it has bad effects on people i guess. i wish they had like a hormone free one other than IUD.

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

I was out shopping the day after my son was born as well lol! I do as much exercise now as I did during pregnancy and I have a good boxing work out on the Wii lmao! =] Good luck with your appointment about the implant =]

Lisamarie - posted on 04/01/2010

what's yazmin? Never heard of that one.

Christin - posted on 03/31/2010

i never got my 2nd one either. they wanted me to but im like no. my friens on yazmin and she said shes thinking of sueing them bc it messed her hormones up.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/31/2010

I was out shopping two days after I had my daughter and a few days after my son. I know what you mean about the laziness, I walked up the shop (about an hour and a half walk there and back!) everyday when I was pregnant, sometimes having to carry my daughter and shopping bags! Now I take the kids to the park and we play in the garden and stuff but my energy is shot, I blame the depo! lol Decided not to have my next jab which is due next week, I'm gonna talk to the doc about the implant! :)

Christin - posted on 03/31/2010

i think i was in pain for like a month. it hurt to sleep, move,walk. but it let up over a few weeks. they gave me pain killers but i didnt take them. i just walked. they told me to rest 6 weeks, but i was cleaning as best i could, he helped me with laundry and cooking, and i was at the mall like a few days after having her. i cant lay there for 6 weeks and take it easy. i can now tho lol. im like its sad when your in better shape when your pregnant than 5 months after you have the kid. im so out of shape. idk if its from not being used to not doing much for 9 months or what. but o my goodness. i think i was less lazy when i was pregnant lol. but then again its hard to do just go randomly do stuff like before.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/31/2010

Oh OK! LOL! I'm being a retard! lolOK, that makes more sense! lmao! :)

Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2010

A 3rd degree is meant to be worse lol - it's worse than a 1st and 2nd - 1st is just the skin, 2nd is skin and muscle and 3rd is skin and deep into the muscle =]

Christin - posted on 03/31/2010

they told me i had a pretty good tear but thats all they said really.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/31/2010

I got a 3rd degree tear with my daughter (I didn't ask, they just told me! lol) and I couldn't walk for about 5 days properly, 1st degree with my son and I was absolutely fine, they had to keep me in but I could walk about and go to the toilet, the 3rd degree was actually worse than the 1st degree!

Whenever I went to the toilet, which was quite a lot because I was sick and I hate being sick infront of people, the midwives would stick this little stool infront of the other door (there were two seperate doors into the bathroom from the two rooms) and I was thinking, well, that's not gonna do a lot, is it? My 3 year old could open the door and push that out the way! lol

Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2010

Eh...mine had a lock on.... I had a 2nd degree tear (skin and muscle) but only stayed overnight to make sure breastfeeding was going well before I was let home. I actually wanted a home birth but due to the problems during pregnancy and Logan's predicted small weight I couldn't.

Christin - posted on 03/30/2010

lol i would hate no locks on the doors. i would freak out. i tore as well. idk how bad i didnt ask or want to know. i figured if i knew i'd freak out lol. i liked not sharing a bathroom cuz that way i dint have to lock the doors in case i did need help. ii had a hard time walking and moving since the tear hurt. i walked like 2mph lol. and then i feel like i was waddling.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/30/2010

Our hospital has actually been accused of losing quite a few babies in the last year, it's terrible, but we had no other choice, we couldn't afford to go private and I didn't want a home birth. The labour room I was in when I had Dizzy was rubbish, a bed, it's own bathroom and 2 plastic chairs, which my mum and hubby had to sit on all night, I gave birth at 10;12am and was sent home at 3pm, then when I had Tyler I had a SHARED bathroom and I freaked out everytime I went to the bathroom because the doors didn't have locks! (for obvious reasons but still) the chairs were a bit comfier with more padding. Because I had a 1st degree tear I had to stay in over night but was moved to the maternity ward which was OK, except my son was the quietest one there so everyone else's babies were keeping us up. lol

My hubby bought me Maccy D's for breakfast!! lol

Christin - posted on 03/30/2010

thats how ours were, well we got a couch and some chairs and our own bathrooms and showers and stuff, the labor room tho where you first go so they can see how far you are and wait until active labor before they take you to the room your with other people. which i really didnt like bc i always ended up next to loud over dramatic kids lol. the last time tho was nice because when i went back i was already like 5 cm so i went straight to labor and delivery from there. i think after i had her i was so tired i went to bed lol but the next morning they brought me breakfast and stuff. the hospital food suprisingly wasnt too bad. except in the er, they brought me a hamburger and it looked rather dry and un appatizing. we always had people in tho. his mom left about 2am the night i had her, then was back up in the morning for a bit since she took off work and brought his aunt and his brother and his wife decided to come by and his friend and his wife so we had all those people and teagan and me and my husband in one room. but no one stayed long thankfully because i was so tired and so was he, so after they left we crashed and his mom came back up later for a little bit to see the baby. then the next day i left. they wernt going to keep me but because i had her so late they left that up to me. they said we could go home or stay tho they recomend i stay to make sure everythings ok and stuff so they can monitor me. so i did.

i was scared to deliver there because at his dr there were older people and the other hospital is bad here, like it's ok if you have an emergency, but delivering there no. so the other one was best, but the old people were talking about their kids having a baby and said stay away from where we had her bc its a bad place and they will kill you there or something crazy so i was like scared after that but my husband said they were crazy. im glad i didnt listen to them tho bc my husbands cousin had hers at the other hospital and didnt like it.

Jennifer - posted on 03/30/2010

Air bubbles in your blood stream can kill you...thats why they always make sure there's no air in injections before they inject. My hospital was rated one of the best in the country and the rooms were great. You gave birth and stayed in the same room which was great because you had your privacy whereas if it was like in some hospitals where you're transferred to a ward you'd be with other people. The room had a bed, your own toilet/shower/sink, 2 massive chairs, a rocking chair wardrobes, it was heaven lol!!! I was only in from 8am when I got took in by ambulance until 10am on the following day so it wasn't too bad =] Oooo and the hospital food was lovely....1 hour or so after labour I was munching on sandwiches and eating soup yummy!

Christin - posted on 03/30/2010

if the air bubble is big enough it can kill you, they do bubbles when they do echos tho but they arent big enough to hurt you. if it's little bubbles they wont hurt it has to be a big one. i asked my husband bc i remember hearing that to and he's good at that stuff and knows about medical stuff. when i was int there getting checked for labor they ignore you most of the time and rarely check on you. i sat there once like all day and if i needed something i had to have my husband go ask for it. shoot my dr came in to check on me and stuff and make sure i was ok to go home without going into labor and he asked them to get me some crackers and juice to get some sugar in my system since i hadnt had any sugar or food and was hungry and needed energy. did they? no. i got crackers, hes like did they get u juice, im like no. hes like well i asked them specifically to get you juice you need sugar. so thats when he just let me go home to eat.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/30/2010

The bed I was in when I had my son was comfy but the week before i was put in the smallest room, which had literally just a bed, a not very comfy bed that I couldn't lay down so had to sleep sitting up slightly. The room was at the very end of the labour ward in a little crevise (sp) so no one checked on me the whole until about 6AM the next morning. The drip that was in my arm had air bubbles in it and I was proper freaking out because I'd heard if a air bubble went into your vein it could kill you (not sure if it's true or not but I was freaked!). I buzzed for the nurse and she didn't come for 20 minutes, she replaced the tube because she said it had lifted slightly and when she did that blood squirted out of my hand like a fountain! She got it in the my blood was going through the drip thing that goes in your hand. As soon as hubby got there and the drip was finished I discharged myself, they wanted to keep me in for obs. but my baby's heart beat had been monitered all night and apart from a few braxton hicks he was fine.

Christin - posted on 03/29/2010

our labour beds were comfy, i didnt want to switch rooms lol. i liked the labor and delivery rooms 10x better. they were alot bigger and roomy and comfy. the mother baby rooms were smaller and typical hospital room. but still comfy. that sounds like military tho. the military hospital where we were well the maternity ward is horrid. they lost my friends babys heart beat and had her so scared until they made her come back and they found it again, then some girl went in in labor and they told her there was no room so while she was waiting she had her baby in the waiting room and there was a dr walking by at the time to help her, then they will send you home while in labor until your ready to actually have the baby and start pushing.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/29/2010

OMG! My hospital is shit, it is actually one of the worst maternity units in England! A week before I had my son I was vomiting every half an hour so had to go in and be put on a drip because I was dehydrated. I was taken to the labour ward, Mat was at home with Destiny and my mum and step dad were with me. We were told they had a bed waiting for me in a ward (with TV and phone to ring the hubbby) my parents left around 10PM and some midwives came in and put me on the drip. I asked them if they were moving me and they told me they had no bed for me, left and I was stuck in that bed (meant only for labour) the whole night!!! So uncomfortable, I discharged myself the next morning!