Planned or unplanned?

Jessica - posted on 06/15/2010

my beautiful little girl was unplanned, i was on the pill, my husband works 2 full time job

Lisamarie - posted on 04/16/2010

I know, feels like I'm suffocating! lol.Mums fault! lol

Jessica - posted on 04/15/2010

lol thats pretty much the same deal for me Lisa, damn having big boobs!

Lisamarie - posted on 04/15/2010

Well, because my boobs are so big it's impossible for me to lay on my back whether I'm pregnant or not! lol. I do lay on my side in bed but always seem to end up on my belly! :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2010

I hate sleeping on my tummy so that didn't bother me!

Lisamarie - posted on 04/15/2010

OMG! That was the main thing I hated about being pregnant! I ALWAYS sleep on my belly so when I was pregnant it was a nightmare to fall asleep on my side! lol
That is a cute name, I like it! :)

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2010

lol aww thankz ladies! We were definatly taken by surprise! She does have a name, she will be/is Peyton Ella Seymour, and hopefully she is here soon cause mommy and daddy want to meet her little face and mommy can't wait to sleep on her stomach again! lol

Jennifer - posted on 04/14/2010

Ditto Lisa! It's so unfair that some people get pregant just like that lols! =] You're a lucky woman Jessica!

Lisamarie - posted on 04/14/2010

Aww Jessica, that is such a nice story! =) I wish I could get pregnant that easy. Have you chose a name yet?

Jessica - posted on 04/13/2010

Our first little one is due anytime now and she was not planned per say. We were married on September 4th 2009, found out on September 11th 2009 (the day we got back from our honeymoon that I was a month pregnant! I had gone off the pill literally a week before we conceived! lol, we wanted to start trying for a baby but we also thought that it would take alittttttttle longer then a week! All in all though we were just really excited and now we can't wait to meet her!!!

Elizabeth - posted on 04/10/2010

My son wasn't planned, he was a wonderful surprise/miracle. I was on Nuva ring when I got pregnant with him. Put it in and took it out on time, followed all instructions to a T. Still not sure what happened.

We're using FAM now and planning on trying for another little blessing this summer :)

Jessica - posted on 04/06/2010

My daughter was an unplanned blessing I was on birth control when I got pregnant

Jessica - posted on 04/05/2010

My first wasnt planned at all, im expecting my second now and she was planned. I was on birth control for about 3 yrs (my first is now 3) and after going off of it it took just over 2 months before conceiving.

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

he was deployed and got into alot of chemicals, hes not sure how he got them all in his system or what he got into until he came home. they said over time it should get out of his system but they dont know how long it will take. but then again thats a military dr. they arent the brightest. morons every time i went in i was pregnant. i burned my arm real bad with hot soup and so he took me in and i guess i was sick to cuz i had a fever slightly and i was pregnant. im like umm im not pregnant and im here bc i burned myself in case you cant see my arm. shes like well you have a fever and thats a sign your pregnant. im like i think i'd know and no im not. so finally afetr she argued me and my arms still steady burning, shes like well your not pregnant. im like noooo really? or the time my husband went in and the guy was like so are you pregnant? hes like umm im a guy, but yes is it that obvious? im having twins. hes like sir this is a serious question. hes like ur a freaking retard guys cant have kids. hes like well its a generic question. my husbands like i know im fat but i think thats for girls. its in the female section. and the guy was like ohh. or when i went to have my toe looked at. bc of them i almost lost my toe. it was badly infected and almost to the bone but again i was pregnant. till it came back negative.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

Uranium...that's radioactive and can cause cancer and yes can cause infertility. And it can cause very serious birth defects like the ones that happen as a result of the Chernobyl disaster. How did he have it in his body?



The only other option would be for you to have your tubes tied. Yes it's more invasive but it is reversible unlike a hysterectomy and there's no risk of impotency for him obviously lol.

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

he had uranium and some other stuff, he doesnt know what all he had in his system but it made him infertile for 2 years. then they said we would lose it or she wouldnt develop right or would have some serious problems. so it scared him and until she was born he was scared to death something was wrong with her. at first he wanted to see the u/s and if there was something he wanted me to get an abortion, but then when nothing was wrong he thought she'd have dwarfism since she was small like the whole time until the last like 2 weeks. im like shes fine just calm down, hes like i cant what if shes is short? im like well then shes short, theres alot worse than that ya know. hes like well what if shes like really short? im like well then shes really short. hes like what if she has a muscle problem? im like shes fine the u/s came back great hes like well it wouldnt pick up if she had a muscle issue where she was spastic. im like omg. his mom was like shes perfectly fine will u just relax? hes like i cant. i wont relax until shes born and i know 100% shes fine. he just worrys too much. i have been trying to talk him out of one as did my grandma when we went home last time and my sister, but since my body cant handle the birth control he feels like thats the only other method except condoms.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

He should see his doctor as he'll be able to explain that a vasectomy won't help and that some sort of medication will! I know he's not working at the moment but if he was working he wouldn;t have time to feel turned on all the time...tell him to get a hobby or something! My sex drive is very high the same as my hubby but thats because I have a very high testosterone level - characteristic of PCOS. What type of chemicals?!? Is he on medication? I didn't think chemicals in the dad's body made any difference....fair enough the women shouldn;t drink or take medication as it may affect the foetus but the only way the man could affect it is if the sperm and egg carried the genes required to develop a genetic disease.

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

hes like way too turned on all the time. like 24/7. i didnt think it would help and told him he'd probably need meds. you cant tell guys stuff lol. he most likely wont go thru with it tho. if he does i will be suprised bc hes been saying he was going to get one forever. at first since we were told we cant have kids we thought nothing of it, but he had alot of chemicals in his system to, we lucked out with her theres nothing wrong and she developed right. they said it was a miracle. hes more worried that if we do have another it might end up deformed bc of all the chemicals in his body or that were. one u/s tech said next time we might not be as lucky as we were with her.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

He's hoping a vasectomy will help with a testosterone problem? Eh...does he have low testosterone or high? Studies have found a vasectomy has no effect on testosterone levels at all - he'd be better off getting medication for that. And it can cause impotence the inability to get an erection. I can't understand any man wanting to have a vasectomy...I certainly wouldn't want to have my tubes tied.

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

im ok with 1 i guess lol. i never really wanted any. but when we first met he wanted a boy and girl but i think it changed after we had her. its been really rough. i think hes scared of having another one and going thru it again really. but he wants one soon, i told him once its done its done he cant go back and undo it. but he has a testosterone problem to. hes hoping maybe one will help him with that. everyone tried talking him out of it, but thats what he wants, but if it helps with his issue cant complain there lol. usually they have rules where you have to have so many kids or a boy and girl before they will do one but idk. guys are too confusing tho, one day they want this the next day that and then they dont want something or they do. its confusing, and they say girls are confusing lol

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

He's getting a vasectomy now or in the future? I'm confused lol - just as if he's getting it now there's no way back lol!

Yeah I agree! I think it's best if you discuss what you want int he way of a family before you make the commitment of marriage. I think it's stupid when a man actually gets a vasectomy because the woman wants him to do so. Even when we've hd our second I'd never want Steven to have a vasectomy because it's an unnecessary operation and can cause so many complications the biggest being impotence. It may be a very old-fashioned even male view even though I'm a woman but it's a man losing their manhood in my mind lol!

Lisamarie - posted on 04/05/2010

I wanted four children, Mat wanted 2, so we're having 3. :) My uncle has been with his fiancee for about 3 years now, they have one child together, his only child, she has a little boy from a previous relationship and she told him to have a vestectomy and he did! I couldn't believe it, my uncle has always wanted a big family, he grew up with four brothers but as soon as she comes along and she don't want anymore he just gives up and this all took place just a couple of weeks after having their daughter.

I personally wouldn't have children or be in a relationship with someone unless you both are aware of what you want in life.

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

hes getting a visectomy which doesnt bother me, but idk. i might try to talk to him again in a few years lol.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

Ah right! Sounds very confusing then - what kind of compromise can yous make if one want's another and one doesn't hmmm!

Christin - posted on 04/05/2010

its a debate now over another. i really want a boy and now he doesnt want another kid at all.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

Lols I don't want another baby until Logan's in nursery/school - will start trying when my implant gets taken out =] And our second will be our last! Will move into a 3 bedroomed house before we have our second as our housing association have to because the maximum occupancy on our house is 3 people. And when our second is also in school I'm gonna get a job so we can hoepfully buy our own house.

Lisamarie - posted on 04/05/2010

I want another baby! lol Only got a 2 bed tho and paid loads of money decorating it and still sorting out the garden which is a huge mess plus want my children to be in school/nursery first! :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

Ah...she must be kinda just a bit lazy then lol! But yes I can understand that it's hard to push a buggy with the board on the back. I know every child is different but when you see an 18 month old walking and then a 3 or 4 year old in a buggy it's like well if the younger one can walk the older one should be able to.



Yeah I'm very strong in my opinions so I tend to offend people all the time without thinking about it first so I try to think before I speak now!



Lols I thought I was pregnant but did a test this morning and I'm not thank god!!!

Christin - posted on 04/04/2010

i always end up ranting and offending people lol. i try to watch the rants now tho. this other group im in theres one girl that just has a bad attitude really and like is kind of rude. i really want to email her and tell her if she cant just answer a question without rudeness or how she feels instead of the question she just need not reply. its like some girl asked about her baby throwing a fit over feeding. ours does it to sometimes. but no babies dont have bad attitudes they need something if they throw a fit, but thats not true, they are like us and have bad days to and they do get tempers for no reason sometimes. or the whole vaccine thing, ya everyones got an oppinion but i mean if you want to argue it at least have a valid point. everyone uses nonsense made up stuff and use it. well you cant use made up fictional things in a debate really, that defeats the purpose. i wouldnt mind if someone wants to challenge me on something but i mean at least have a valid point lol

Lisamarie - posted on 04/04/2010

Not offended at all. :) Yeah we bought the buggy board but because she only stands on it for a few minutes and its really awkward to push the buggy with it on we tend not to use it.

When she was a baby she'd go to bed around 9ish then it went down everytime she cut a nap. We actually went on holiday for a week last year just after we had Tyler and because we were so busy she didn't have any naps and slept through from 7ish. Now anywhere after half 6 and she gets moody and wants her dummy and starts playing up. We have decided to keep her up a bit later now its lighter longer just need to get the timing right! lol nightmare! I do have a double buggy too but it was given to us from ffamily and its a side by side one and too big to get round most places and then because she does walk most the time, it would be pointless.

Hope you're feeling better now, remember always here if you need to rant or just chat. :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/04/2010

Yeah it's definately the mother wanting the child to stay a baby when they breastfeed beyond the age of 2. Hehe lol squeeges bless! Ah I see - that's very like the whole fiasco of potty training going wrong when a new baby's born as the child, they usually back track sorta thing.

And yes I can't imagine how hard that is - I never had to share a bedroom as a child and probably couldn't except for now with the hubby obviously lols. We put Logan to bed at 7pm and will probably keep with that when he's older too. Lol I'm dreading potty training a boy and he's not even 6 months old lmao!!!

Ooo that sounds so interesting!!! Have you looked into getting one of those buggy boards so you don't have to take two buggys? Really sorry if I offended you in anyway - when I'd posted it I felt really nasty - not having a good day either though!

Lisamarie - posted on 04/04/2010

I agree with the whole breastfeeding thing, I think it's great that women can and do do it but not for that many years, I think anything beyond 2 weird and over that and I think it's the mothers fault not being able to let go of her "baby".
We have lots of "squeeges" (she can say squeeze LOL) The thing with the dummy is we managed to get her off her dummy by about 20 months but when we had my son she found all his and hasn't put them down and because he don't use them they are available, I could just pack them all away and we were going to do the whole "doodee fairy" thing. (she calls her dummy a doodee.) but people don't realise how hard it is to get 2 children to sleep in the same room and if she didn't have her dummy she'd scream for hours, we have a toddler and newborn living next door and I'm really concious (sp) about the noise. We've only just managed to get her to stay in her own bed all night and to go to sleep at bed time (she goes to bed at half six and used to stay awake in her room, running around and playing until half ten) It is a hell of a lot harder than I thought and I hate saying it because I feel like a failure because I planned all this and I chose to have my children and I don't regret it for a second and if I could go back I would do everything exactly the same, it's just a struggle. And don't beleive the whole terrible two's thing, when my daughter was two it was easy, and everyone I have spoken to says 3 yr olds are the worst! lol
We went to an eco park yesterday and it's all about dinosaurs with boat trips and rides and a mini farm, we were there for about 4 hours and she walked the whole time. By whole day I meant 5 hours or longer, she can definetely walk for longer than 2 hours! lol When I'm on my own, mat works 8-4 daily, she has to walk then and that could be for a few hours. We don't take her buggy 9.5 % of time because she walks for a few fours and if she's tired she stands on the back of Tyler's buggy for 5 mins then will walk again. :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/03/2010

I think each to their own - it's your choice what you do but I just think by the age of 3 they should be walking and if you don't make them walk for more than two hours they'll never do it because they know they'll get to use the buggy anyways.



I plan to get Logan off his dummy by the age of 18 months, or 2 years at the latest. A child of aged 3 shouldn't need a dummy for comfort - a cuddle works just as well, or I had my favourite soft toy the famous Digididog =]. I think my opinion stems from the fact that I didn't have a dummy or go in a buggy when I was 3 years old and the fact that dummys aren't recommended over the age of 18 months because it can affect their speech and plus I can't stand a child with a dummy trying to talk with the dummy in!!! It's great that she has a great vocabulary and that the dummy hasn't affected her speech development!



Logan loves his dummy but he loves his Cuski comforter much more lol! At the end of the day people can do what they like - give toddlers over 1 year old a bottle, dummys to young children, and push 3 year olds in buggies so I'll be doing what I want to do and what everyone else does is their business whether I agree with it or not lol!



There was this programme on tv before about this woman in Yorkshire I think who still breastfed her 7 year old...it make me physically sick. Up to the age of 2 I can handle but 7 years old I think not.....

Christin - posted on 04/03/2010

i guess that means pacifier in the us? our daughter wont take 1. she took one for like a day but since she was born she refuses them. she just suckes her feet,hands, or thumb lol. alot of people here will let kids have bottles and soothers way beyond what i think they should. one mom let her 9 year old still breastfeed but they made a huge issue about it. theres people who breastfeed for years. well into elementary school. our daughter has her doll and tigger blanket she takes everywhere. if she goes over night to his moms we take both or her doll. in her carseat she takes tigger. at night she sleeps alot better with her doll.

Lisamarie - posted on 04/03/2010

lmao! Jen, you'd hate me! lol. Destiny has her own buggy, we only take it with us if we are out for the day, if it's only a couple of hours she'll walk, but if we go to the zoo for the day we'll take it because she gets tired and ahe's way too heavy for me to carry and hubby has stomach problems so he can carry too much weight for a long period of time. She has a dummy too!!!! lol She uses it as a comforter and I don't see anything wrong with that, she only has it if she is tired or poorly or she's hurt herself or something. She takes it to bed but it falls out when she's asleep and I usually find it on the floor in the morning. It's not perfect but I don't see anything wrong with her having it her speech is amazing for her age (told by doc and lots of people) I love learning so I teach her a lot and she is really intelligent, she can walk and she does most of the time and she could probably run faster than me! lol (Im not very fit!) But no, my daughter will walk to school with me (If im on my own she has to walk because I cant push 2 buggies) and she will not be taking it to school!!
My son will not take a dummy, he never has and he just chews on them, so now his comforter is his bottle! The ONLY time he cries is when he wants a bottle (he's a very quiet baby) and he is having way too many bottles because he won't take the dummy as a soother!
Went on a bit, sorry ladies! lol :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

Lisa - yeah they qualify for the free nursery the school term after they turn 3 years old. I just hope when he does go no one takes their child in a buggy lol - I'm very judgemental and would be first to judge. I know lots of people use a buggy until their child is like 3 and beyond but there's no need unless the child has a disability. Just the same i hate seeing 3 year olds with dummys - the next door neighbour does both of these things and is pregnant so who'll be the lucky person with a screming baby and a screaming little one when she says she can't go in her buggy anymore?

Here most people are very respectful to everyone, everyone is equal despite obvious levels of salary etc. But just because one person earns £50000 doesn't mean they're god lol!

Christin - posted on 04/02/2010

kids today are mean. especially here. on a military base rank means everyting. all these people teach their kids that if their mom or dad is higher ranking they have every right to treat those of lower ranks kids like total crap. my little sister never took crap from people in school. people just dont teach kids respect for others and let them be in control and let them bully other kids.

Lisamarie - posted on 04/02/2010

Destiny is 3 and she's still not in nursery, she didn't qualify for free until this month, I'm terrified of sending her! She's so cute and she'll go up and hold childrens hands and talk to them and stuff and they just give her dirty looks!!! :( She's really obedient with other children too and if they tell her to do something she'll do it!! I really don't want her to go!! :(

Christin - posted on 04/02/2010

usually here we go from like 2-5 or 3-5. i think my brother went 2 years and started school early.

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

I only went to nursry for a year as my bday is in June but because Logan was born in November he'll go to nursery for like 1 2/3 years. Sounds interesting!

Christin - posted on 04/02/2010

i went when i was a kid and my brother went as did my sister. i had to wait until i was 5 to start school tho since i have a late birthday. but right now we have her in an early head start which they can do until 5. they come once a week to work with us now and help us if we need any advice or have an issue, basically help us be better parents and when shes a bit older like in a month or 2 they will start working with her. and outside of that we can send her to daycare or head start and then they can still work with her on the side.

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

Aww bless! Over here children go to nursery at 3-4 years old then start school at 4 years old - the school year in which they'll turn 5 years old. Nursery isn't mandatory but I'll definately make Logan go and I don't actually know of anyone who hasn;t sent their children to nursery.

Christin - posted on 04/02/2010

im almost afraid to send her lol shes better with kids tho before she would just give them dirty looks and stuff. now she pays no mind to them. at his friends his daughter was trying to give her a breadstick as she didnt understand shes not ready lol it was cute but was trying to immitate her and mines to busy watching wrestling lol

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

Really?!? At my Sure Start Centre most of the people who go are under 30 years old. Yes I agree with Lisa, once your LO is at nursery she'll be making friends and develop her social skills there =]

Lisamarie - posted on 04/02/2010

Most of the women that go to our sure start centre are older, I don't go very often tbh, just get my son weighed and my daughter play for a while.

Christin, my daughter didn't have hardly any interaction with other children until I had my son and she loves other children (actually she loves everybody!!) and as soon as she starts nursery she'll have all the interaction she needs. I wouldn't worry too much, just take her to the park, she'll love it! :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

That's a big shame! Most if not all areas have Sure Start Centres which put on the various mother and baby/toddler groups. I couldn't imagine living in an area with mainly old people - it's generally the farmy type villages in the UK that have a mainly older population.

Christin - posted on 04/01/2010

nope i looked it up, we have like no baby groups. we are in a program that they have group get togethers but alot of people have older out of control kids or are kind of like ghetto and disrespectful. or alot of them just cant control kids. most people are high school kids. we live in a small town where the population is like idk lol its alot of farmland and older people come to think of it i just mainly see the school kids and i have seen the neighbors 1 time that live next door and the older woman next door a few times. but i never see anyone our age here. im sure there has to be tho lol. but i think once our lease is up we are moving again.

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

Just try to make friends. Where I live I know no one really except this friend I met on Net mums and friends I've made at various baby and toddler groups. Which is very helpful as all my friends that I know from school are either working or at uni. Are there no baby groups where you live?

Christin - posted on 04/01/2010

they think im crazy not taking them, but if they just cause issues i hate doing it. i hate being tired 24/7 and sleeping all day. but myh usbands also helped me thru alot. my dr said that if i could get a support system and have people to talk to it would help me alot. i have no friends here tho and he thought that was wierd, but i mean i just moved here like a year ago and i was pregnant when we moved and now i have her its hard to go make friends. especially when you know no one and live in a small town. my husbands friends wife is a year younger than me and they have a 1 year old and her and i are alot alike but we dont really hang out.

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

I've been off my tablets since November 2007 and had no problems since. My husband definately helped me through it all and now it's gone for good I hope! I used to self-harm too but I think whilst you think you will never get through it you do and now I can see that I did and I'm much stronger for it. But I think pills are given for a reason, if you can do without them then you should make sure your doctors know you're not taking them because otherwise they'll be none the wiser lol!