29 and pregnant with # 7

Sheena - posted on 08/10/2010

I say don't pay attention to what others think or say. Because u r the one raising ur children and apparently ur doing a great job because u r having ur 7th child. Which I think big families are great. I had myy first child december 22 2009 and now I'm pregnant again. People think I'm crazy to have another child so close but they will be 14 months aparrt.

Lisa - posted on 08/10/2010

If you have happy and healthy children than everyone else needs to hush! I think there are alot of families that don't know when to stop when they can't afford or take care of the ones that they have. If a child is loved, fed and clothed and has parents who aren't always leaving them with other people than who's business is it if you're having one more? Enjoy them all and bless you're heart. I'm due in less than a week and have a 2 1/2 year old and cannot image any more. You must have so much patience and a great support system to survive each day. I know some days I just wish for a trip to Walmart alone. Good Luck!

Annette - posted on 08/10/2010

I am with you in that department. I have 3 kids myself and 5 step kids all under 9 years old. I just had my first baby girl last Feb and with the other 7 kids has been very hard on myself. People as me well how old were you when you had your first child. People think my step kids are mine. The oldest is 9 and i would have been 14 when she was born. I tell them that and they give me funny looks. My and my husband so want another which will make 9 of us. 2 together, 2 with my last marriage and 5 step kids. It is hard thinking people are judging you all the time, but i look past it a lot and say yeah they are mine And i am proud of it too! If you got a problem with it, then deal with it. Its not their responsibility its yours. Just always love them and people will see who you really are and not a crazy person :)

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2010

We have 5 and your right ppl should keep their thoughts to themselves most of them are probably the type that either dont want kids or have them but are self centered and they think everything in life is planned out and will go as planned... Once they realize it dont work that way and ppl start reacting to them like that for whatever reason then they will have a different outlook on it... But it will come back to bite them in the ass(so to speak) someday... Just keep your head held high it seems like your doing a great job... besides tell them the bigger the family the more love to go around... Thats what my kids say...lol... Have a nice day

Jameelah - posted on 08/10/2010

Well if you can afford to have a bunch of kids I dont see anything wrong with it!

Daena - posted on 08/10/2010

Wow first of all congrats and good luck they are so cute and they keep you busy, I have three and they keep me busy but I have always wanted to adopt and my husband said no, some people cant keep their thoughts to themselfs and seven is nothing compared to back in the day so dont worry, my mom had six and one miscarried and her mom had 16 and one of my annts is on 12 last year who knows she might be pregnant now LOL, nothing wrong with having a big family I think the kids learn how to share and when they get older you can play baseball with them, wow I am so excited, keep your head up and remeber that your kids will not have a problem sharing and caring for others

Jacinta - posted on 08/10/2010

Well, it's a good thing that you're not having your kids for these tactless nimrods. I think that some folks seem to think that if it's on T.V. then it must be just fine... but heaven forbid if someone has that many kids in real life. God Bless your children and God Bless you and your hubby. How many are boys / girls? =-) I only have 2 boys and one girl. I grew up in a family of 3 boys and 3 girls. =-)

Angela - posted on 08/10/2010

Well done is all i can say my first and only to date is nearly 7 I'm achin for more children! I'd give anything to have a big family but it's not happened yet!

Erin - posted on 08/10/2010

Oh don't worry about destroying the planet with having babies One Cow's Fart has a bigger Carbon Footprint than any amount of kids :)

Becky - posted on 08/10/2010

I'm one out of 8. It's a rarity to have big families nowadays and people generally don't seem to understand them. People can get over themselves. You've got a big family that needs you and that you love (regardless of if any or many of them were surprises ;) ) So whenever you meet someone who has a problem with you having a big family don't give them the time of day.

Gin - posted on 08/10/2010

I am sooo jealous of you! I have two babies right now and would love to have a LOT MORE! People laugh at me and tell me that I am crazy for wanting more but I would love to have as many as possible :) As a mom myself, all I can say is that you are a hero and an inspiration to many of us :) Keep up the great work and good luck with all of your beautiful babies!

Rebecca - posted on 08/10/2010

i am 29 also and i am pregnant with baby number 6. I have 5 girls and just found out today i am having a Boy this time. Due 24th December. I get bad looks at me when i go out with all the kids. I also look very young for my age and i think people must look at me and think im 2 young to even have one! It does my head in. But im proud of my kids and would never change a thing. I think its good that we are young enough to have a great relationship with our children and we have so much energy to do things with them.

Zara - posted on 08/10/2010

hiya hun hope ur o.k congratulation's and try not 2 worry about what people say at the end of the day it's your life and as long as your happy etc!i pregnant with my 4th wich was abit unexpected lol but am very happy but i also worry about what people think etc and wish i diden't! but any way i wish u all the best with everything and congrat's again x

Alana - posted on 08/10/2010

wow! good luck with 7 kids lol i have just the one and i find it is so much hard work! all though my dream is to have a big house and looooads of kids it doesnt look like iots gona happen just cant afford it :(
anyways, to your question, i think if you want seven kids then that is entirely up to you people should keep their nose out of your business they is no need for them to be rude or condesending at all. xx

Bethany - posted on 08/10/2010

I certainly think that its no one else's business. Whether planned or unplanned having a child is the most precious gift in this world. Although my fiance and I don't plan on having as large a families as yours, things happen for a reason and you never know God may bless us with more than we 'plan' for but sometimes you just never know what life has in store. Good luck with your seventh addition!

Erla - posted on 08/09/2010

I congratulate you for already having 6 kids. Obviously you can do it and if you couldn't. you wouldn't be blessed with an additional one. People will have something to say regardless so try not to get offended. Just tell them nicely that you appreciate their thoughts but you would prefer they kept it to themselves. If you can handle it that's all that matter and congratulation.

Yvonne - posted on 08/09/2010

I hope it's clear that I'm not trying to be rude at all, just informative. I wish you the best with your family and your little one on the way.

Yvonne - posted on 08/09/2010

This is the sort of thing that I do typically keep my thoughts to myself, but since you asked in a public forum I will give you my thoughts and explain why I feel the way I do, and perhaps people could get a better idea of why some people are against having so many children.

First of all I'd like to say that I totally can understand the appeal for having a lot of kids, when I was young I wanted six kids, and from a societal stand point there really isn't anything wrong with having lots of kids as long as you can sufficently care for all of them and give them all the love they deserve.

However, there is more to the picture than simply societal. Many people do not want to accept this, but our planet can only hold so many humans, we will eventually get to a point at which we will no longer have enough things like food and places to live for everyone. The biggest reason why so many animals are going exticnt is because of humans expanding into their teritory. It may not seem like a big deal for one person to have seven children, but if all of your children also have seven children, you will have 49 grandchildren, and if they all have seven children 343 great grandchildren. That is a lot of people in just a few generations. Concidering medical and techonigical advances have kept nature from keepign our population in check (Back in Bibical times people had to have seven children to ensure that one or two would survive to have children) Imagine if everyone did this how quickly we would over populate the earth.

Sure the average family does not have seven children, but even if the average family with kids had three children, and each gernation there after did the same that's nine grandchildren and 27 great grandchildren. It adds up fast trust me.

Every habitat (in this case for humans that would be the whole planet practically) has a carrying capactiy. The Earths current human population is about seven billion. It is estimated that the population will reach ten billion by the year 2050. Determining the Earth's carrying capacity for humans is complicated, because you have to also factor is the cultural carrying capacity, because each culture use different ammounts of resources, the United States being on the top of the list for resource consumption.

Population control is a very important part in slowing the rapid climate change that we are experiencing, because over use of resources is a huge factor in the degradation of our planet.

While I do agree that all children a blessing, and I would never tell someone to not have children, or be rude to them about it, I think it is very important for people to understand this and to take personal responsibility in this whole matter. If one has lots of children, it is important to also make sure that you are living sustainably in other areas of your life and not consuming a lot of resources if you can manage. Personally I would never have more than two chilren, because of that the replacement fertility level beacuse I don't think we need to be increasing the human population anymore than it is already.

If you would like to read more about the earths carrying capacity I found a good little article here.
http://www.sustainablescale.org/Conceptu...

Oh for what it's worth, breastfeeding is 98% effective as birthcontrol for the first six months as long as your cycle has not returned and the baby is not being supplemented or eating solid foods. It's pretty good but not 100%, but nothing is 100%.

HEARTY - posted on 08/09/2010

Gr8, i mean in this busy world moms are not able to handel one or two and u r handling 7.i must say u r blessed and leave on people what they think .u shud be happy with what u have .......i must it must be fun to see all kids playing together.

Ashley - posted on 08/09/2010

Forget them!!! You are blessed with seven! I would love to have a big family! Congrats!!!!

Ashley - posted on 08/09/2010

Are u happy do u love your kids thats all that matters be happy with your life and forget about thoughs who are not they dont matter.

Danika - posted on 08/09/2010

if we think back to our parents generation 7 kids was the norm, i wish i could be so relaxed about it as you are. i have my 3rd coming at christmas and would love to have 2 more in a few more years but money is the only reason why i have reservations. i think children bought up with lots of brothers and sisters seem to be more responsible and caring. asi am only one of two and so is my husband (apart from my half brothers and sister which i didn't live with as they were much older) theres nothing i want more for my kids then to have alot of love and support in their lives and family is where it all comes from. congrats and number 7 and i wish you all the best for your family. the more the merrier so they say, your family must be very merry :-)

Neisha - posted on 08/09/2010

Having a child is a blessed event and the fact that you have gone through it 7 times say something about your strength as a woman. I am a first time mother of a 12 m old girl. As an only child, I wished I could have had siblings and plan on giving my daughter at least one brother or sister. As for the negative people don't pay attention; that's just the devil. The only opinions that REALLY matter are you, your husband, and your children.

Monique - posted on 08/09/2010

ppl should keep their comments to theirselves. kids are a blessing. if u can take care of them be happy and forget what everyone else says. =) congrats

Michelle - posted on 08/09/2010

i say, that if you can sufficently provide for all of your children without taxc payers footing the bills, than please more power to you, the world could use more love and laughter. However,from a medical standpoint you are putting yourself and unborn children at risk when having so many and especially so close. So monitor your contractions and let your body guide you, no one wants another Josie Dugger. Have fun and be safe, but most of all BE BLESSED!

Vanessa - posted on 08/09/2010

I hear that I have 5 kids and 26. I believe that each one was a blessing. And I don't know where I'd be without one they make our family whole. Good luck with you babys and the new one on the way.

Mandy - posted on 08/09/2010

Sometimes the shock maybe from the fact that a lot of us Moms know we wouldn't be able to do it. I know that I would probably be one of the shocked just because my two overwhelm me sometimes. But honestly I wish I had the patience to have a whole houseful. Take as a compliment because we all really admire you ;)

Amanda - posted on 08/09/2010

Hey don't stress people think a lot of things doesn't mean they're right :).
Here in Australia the government classes a big family as 3 children 1-2 is average these days. So when people see you with your 7 obviously happy children (they think you work for child care, they wouldn't think that if your children didn't appear happy and well) it's a shock to their system they can't comprehend your achievement and success with your family, which unfortunately leads to rudeness in a lot of people these days. I have to admit when I read the title I was a little shocked and concerned only because you're so young but then I read your post and I realised what a good mum you must be to be able to guide 6 children so far. It takes a special person to have such patience and perseverence I'm a mum of 2 with a partner who acts like a child and some days I'm pulling my hair out lol. so to me you're a very special, strong and encouraging lady with a lot to offer the world :) good luck with your 7th I hope he's just as good as your other 6 and good luck to your husband getting the snip :)

Aimee - posted on 08/09/2010

I grew up in a family of 7 kids and i loved it as well!! I always wanted a big family too and im on my fourth and im 24 yrs old. We are stopping at four but i definitely love seeing others have lots of children. They will come out with great social skills and a great compassion for others :) The only thing I would say that was hard growing up is that we could never play sports because there was too many of us :( Good luck with your pregnancy!

Alisha - posted on 08/09/2010

I say, if you can afford to have lots of kids.. have them. I am 25 years old and I am a mother of 3. Ages 2, 3, and 7. I got my tubes fixed after #3 b/c financially that is ALL i can do. Kids are expensive. I would have LOVED to have ONE more boy, but, I am very happy with my 3. I do have my hands full, being a single mother. But I wouldn't trade it for the world. I'd just take mini vacations from time to time, lol.

Ashley - posted on 08/09/2010

i think its wonderful that you have a big family....i want a big family one day as well...im 19 and ive had 2 babies within the last 2 years

Cynthia - posted on 08/09/2010

Dont worry about what anyone else says! Each child is a blessing from God and I think it's wonderful that you are willing to go through with it, even though sometimes these things arent planned! So many people these days just cant be bothered and abort these precious babies and they never have a chance at life! If someone says something again, tell them that you just enjoy the baby-making "process" so much that you cant stop! Maybe then they'll be emabarassed and think twice before sticking their nose where it doesn't belong! I have always been a firm believer that people should not decide on how many children they are going to have- I think when you're "done" you just know! (and if you dont have a set number in your head then you dont have to worry about any of life's little "surprises!" Best of luck with baby #7!

Amy - posted on 08/09/2010

Dont worry about what anyone says or how they look at you and your family, if your happy, I say enjoy it!!! I'm 27 and have 8 kids, I gave birth to 2 and have 6 step-kids, not to mention a granddaughter and another on the way, my hubby is 11 yrs older. My friends thought I was crazy when we got married and even crazier when I had 2 girls of my own. But, we love them all and enjoy it lots.

Rosa - posted on 08/09/2010

Ok, some people are rude and were never taught that it isn't nice to have people look at you crazy and make ugly remarks. But here is where it gets interesting I believe if you have the resources available to you to have 7 children then by all means go for it. By resources I mean you are financially stable enough to provide for these children on your own. Now I do not think it is right to have 7 children and put that financial strain on the government and taxpayers. Not to be rude but you asked and that's my opinion good luck on number 7!

Sara - posted on 08/09/2010

I believe it is a True Blessing you have that many kids!!! Good for you and your husband!!! I know you werent planning your last one but it was def meant to be. No one can judge you and dont let them hurt you. It takes a very strong woman to raise that many and you really give me im sure many other mommies inspiration. I have always wanted a big family and now a days you really dont see it that often. How do you do it? Are you a stay at home mom?
God Bless you and your Beautiful BIG family.

Erin - posted on 08/09/2010

That makes me feel so much better. I'm 29 with 5 kids, my last two are due in 7weeks! So happy for you.

Gladys - posted on 08/09/2010

Hey Joyce, i know that feeling and i guess u never thought u would be having seven kids.well, it happens.i dont judge you and your husband.my parents had five kids.my aunt had 12. its nothing new unda the sun.you and your man just need to plan for the future of your kids.provide for them the best you can. its not easy but its not wrong either.sometimes,it might seem tough and hard.when it feels that way,reach out to friends.if you cant find any,am here.take care.

Shawnisy - posted on 08/09/2010

keep there thoughts to themselves I have two girls but last week I had my two nephews and decided to take them out all for a walk and some women and her husband made some rude comments to me it's no ones busniess but your's how many kids you do or don't have because either way people say something if you have none they say your not haveing any or think you can't if you have one they say your not going to give that one a brother or sister if you have two girls its your not going to try for a boy and same if you have two boys so people just like to make trouble be proud of your family and good luck

Amber - posted on 08/09/2010

WOW 7 kiddos at such a young age is a lot BUT WHO CARES! It is working for your family (although I am not sure I could do it, I am 27 and have 2 blessings). People should really mind their own business (I to get those looks, my husband and I have always looked younger than we are and get the looks... HATE it). Cherish your 7 blessings, it is hard getting pregnant (for me it was so literally I cherish the 2 I have) and raising them is hard and rewarding, but if you are doing it and enjoy it, it doesn't matter what others think. Opinions are like a@$holes... EVERYBODY has one! :) You are a very lucky lady!

Allison - posted on 08/09/2010

Having big families used to be the norm so you are not unusual at all. I have 3 siblings and I wouldn't trde them for the world. You should not let rude people bother you. You have so much love in your life you are truly blessed!

Vixi - posted on 08/09/2010

I am one of 6 and I think it is great having so many siblings. Especially now we are all older and a lot closer than we were as kids!! As long as u are good parents then who has the right to judge?! x

Jordan - posted on 08/09/2010

ppl are rude and its sickening. so long as u provide for all ur kids with no help from the same rude ppl then... they shud mind their own business!! Congrats and embrace ur gift.

Danyele - posted on 08/09/2010

I have 4 and im 31 i say sod what people think its ur life ur choice is u and ur husband feel able to cope and feel ready and financially and emotionally stable go for it its ur life not theirs

Elizabeth L. - posted on 08/08/2010

Totally keep there thoughts to themselves. I have three, 2,5 and 7. At the time I had only two and they both were throwing fits in wal mart. I was in the process of handling the situation, when some man screamed at me. "Can't you just shut your ____ kids up" I instantly turned and was going to strike like a cobra. I was already a inpatient, mother of two misbehaving kids, sweating so terribly. I could not spot the person that said it to save my life. A good thing is all I can say! These days, I dare someone to say something to me. They'll wish they hadn't. ;-)

Maggie - posted on 08/08/2010

Tell them to back off! I think it's amazing you had that many! A true blessing =) So who cares about what they think as long as you and your husband are happy then that's all that matters =)

Shana - posted on 08/08/2010

Congrats on Baby number 7!! I have 4 boys and quite often get asked rude and nasty questions about having all boys and my age(I am 28 with 4 kids aged 10,7,5 and 2)...try not to let it bother you HAHAA lets face its gunna bug you to bits so do what I do, now when people question my life and kids...I now answer with "It will cost you a dollar for the answer" and when they ask why/what i reply with "if I had a dollar for everytime a rude and nosy person asked me that question Id be a millionaire - so I am starting now"....that usually puts them in their place!!
And by the way my youngest son was concieved through two lots of protection and we too feel he is a blessing but a lot ppl think we are nuts (ppl seem to think we CHOSE to have all boys!!)

Kendall - posted on 08/08/2010

My cousin has 5 and I babysat them all for a week during spring break before I had my own child and I came to the conclusion that 5 was too many for me but my cousin does it wonderfully. If that is what you and your husband want then thats your choice and no one elses. Keep your chin up, dont let others get you down, some people just have no filter.

Ashley - posted on 08/08/2010

There's no way I could ever imagine having seven kids, so more power to you for being able to handle and balance everything! If you and your husband feel this is meant to be, then it's meant to be. There's no reason you can't have a happy, healthy family of seven. People just need to mind their own business. You clothe your children, feed them, and put a roof over their head, and I'm sure show them love -- so it sounds like you've got a happy, healthy family. Don't worry about what some people may say to you. You know what's best.

Jessica - posted on 08/08/2010

We should all keep our negative thoughts to ourselves, but we don't always do that. I know that I could never have seven kids, I barely have the patience for one. If you can care for all seven and you are excited and it's meant to be then all the luck to you. I am sure ya'll are wonderful parents.

Kristen - posted on 08/08/2010

CONGRATS!!!! I am one of 6 kids but on the other hand my mother is 1 of 13 yes 13 so i come from a very large family not to mention i also have a cousin with 7 GIRLS yes everyone of her kids are girls so i can say having a large family is great i am 23 years old with 2 daughters n pregnant with my 3rd but you having 7 is not at all crazy there is always someone thats going to say something rude i know i may be 23 but when i was pregnant for both pregnancies i got alot of dirty looks people saying rude things all b/c i look like im about 14 but i had my first when i was 20 so dont let what others think get to you n good luck n u r truly blesses