29 and pregnant with # 7

Joyce - posted on 08/06/2010 ( 100 moms have responded )

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Ok so here we are having are last one we weren't planing on having any more kids we had the appt for my husband to go get fixed and you have to wait 30 days until they do it and in that time we found out we were pregnant just are luck, but as we look at it it must be meant to be. We did use protection I was still breast feeding my daughter which I thought when you breast feed you can't get pregnant but I was wrong cuz we are haven a baby come Christmas the only thing I hate the most so far is the reaction I get from people when we tell them no we are not baby sitting these are all of are kids and we are haven another one some people can be so rude. So what do all of you think is it crazy or should some people just keep there thoughts to them selfs?

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Lin - posted on 08/08/2010

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As long as you are able to emotionally provide for them and have them for the right reasons (I know a certain person who was going to keep having kids until she had a boy - even though she gave some of her daughters up and would like someone to take her other two girls off her hands....thankfully #4 was a boy), I see no problem with you having 7 kids. People are going to make comments regardless of how many children you have - I was constantly asked about having children until I became pregnant, then people started making comments about how young I was with my first child (25), then comments like "you know what causes children" when child #2 came around 2 years later. Just keep focused on the people who matter - they certainly won't mind you having a large family.

Melissa - posted on 08/08/2010

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these days it is not as common like it was 30 years ago to have that many children, but I would not take offense to people asking questions about if they are your children or not. I would be proud that you have such a huge family.

Alecia - posted on 08/08/2010

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i say as long as u and ur man are good parents and provide for ur kids, it is no ones business how many kids u have. congrats and good luck!!!

Tah - posted on 08/08/2010

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one thing i can say for the duggars is that they were financially repsonsible before starting their family..owned a business, sold it, worked..etc..so that is always a good thing if your gonna have a big family, to be able to provide for them....so good luck..

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2010

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I got the same reaction from my family when i got preg with my son (who is now 2) i don't talk to my moms side of the family anymore because they wouldn't treat my kids equally and wouldn't accept my son as part of the family. Just ignore the people who are rude.... also breastfeeding being birth control is a HUGE myth i'd suggest researching what is and isn't protection next time around.

Bryanna - posted on 08/08/2010

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I totally agree with everyone else! I think it's wonderful that you have 7;) My mom came from a family of 7. Children are for sure a blessing, and it's totally up to you and your husband, how many you choose to have, and no one should have a say. If you have the space, and finances to care for them, then have as many as you want. Big families are wonderful, older ones can help out with younger ones:) We are due with our second in Dec, and already talking about how we would like 2 more! lol :) Wish you all the best,and don't pay attention to other peoples negative thoughts or looks:)

Lyndsay - posted on 08/08/2010

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To each their own. Personally, one child is quite enough for me and seven is absolute insanity... but I would never condemn somebody else for choosing to have a large family.

Rebecca - posted on 08/08/2010

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They should keep thoughts to themselves and they shouldn't judge anyways. If you are capable and financially able to care for 7 kids and 2 adults then what is the big deal. I wish i had enough sanity to have another child but 2 is plenty for us:)
Congrats on the new addition!!

Brandi - posted on 08/08/2010

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We have 3 kids and are having our fourth in 10 days : ) We already get the "look" with our three and then when people see I am pregnant they do a double take. I am not sure why it is so unnaceptable to have a lot of children. We are financially able to take care of them and they are raised right. Heck....I can take all three of mine to the store and they behave better than most of the other kids at the store who are either the only child or have one other sibling with the parents. I say stand proud. If you are happy, then that is all that matters!

Charlene - posted on 08/08/2010

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i love the idea of a big family i grew up with a big family my mam had 6 children, i have 2 at the minute and i would like more and so does my husband :) x

Miranda - posted on 08/08/2010

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I would firstly like to say congrats!! I think its a wonderful thing that you have such a big family!!! People should mind their own business and if they have a problem with it they could f off cause its not hurting them or doing anything to them sooo like mind your own business!!!

Tabatha - posted on 08/08/2010

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I feel that people can be just rude and should think before they speak. I think it is wonderful to have a large family, if that is your choice. I came from a family with seven children and to this day my brothers and sisters and myself are still very close and would do anything for each other. Good luck and wish u the best with your seven wonderful little ones.

Rachel - posted on 08/08/2010

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People are just rude and don't think before they open their mouth! Some might be happy for you just surprised you have so many kids. When I read your post I was like wow 7 kids! But I am sure each one is so special! and you are very blessed to have such a big family! congrats on your new addition! God bless you and your family!

Laura - posted on 08/08/2010

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Congratulations! That's wonderful! I hope I can be as blessed as you! Yes, people should mind their own business. We live in a world where 1 or 2 kids in a family is the norm. That doesn't make it right though. I believe you should have as many kids as God gives you. ♥ God bless you!

Shayne - posted on 08/08/2010

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i personally think if ppl cant be supportive then they should keep their comments to themselves. if u are able to cope raising a large family without the support of sitters then u should have as many children as u like and not worry wat other ppl think. u sound like ur happy with a large family and to raise 7 kids without a sitter is amazing and i praise u for that. there are ppl that cant control one child so my hats off to u. congratulations on your little miracle child, they are pretty good odds, u are truly ment to have a large family

Lee Ann - posted on 08/07/2010

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first of all congrats on #7, i guess my thought is how do you do it lol i find one child hard & i have one on the way so i cant even begin to imagine how you are not going crazy with 7 kidos, but i think its wonderful, I'm going to say that's what probably crossed other minds when they begin to think of 7 kids in one house hold.....but like i said if you can make it work then your awesome...good luck with everything

Christi - posted on 08/07/2010

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If you can afford them all, kudos to you. I just don't like shows like 19 and counting or Table for 12 because if you want that many children, which is your right, why don't you adopt. There are so many kids that deserve a shot at life. Why lead to the overwhelming problem of overpopulation, adopt a child that is already on this Earth and give him a shot a life. But congrats on baby 7 and just let the negativity roll off your back. Just my two cents.

Lisa - posted on 08/07/2010

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hey there, 7 kids, you should be blessed, im on two and im 25 we want more someday, but for now twos good, plus doctor told me to wait cause i had my two 16 months apart and my body needs to heal after that surgery i had after my daughter(first) was born, she was 6 weeks early. just ignore the rude people be proud u have ur husband and kids

Jodie - posted on 08/07/2010

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hey i think its not crazy its ur life, im 27 n ive got 7 kids aswell the last was not lanned but we love him heaps, our kids r 8 yrs n under.

Kelli - posted on 08/07/2010

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I would say you are very blessed to have so many children, and that if other ppl have a problem with it... screw em... :) They don't have to take of the kids, so what business is it of theirs? Haha, and hey! You could be up for your very own TLC show before long! (I'm just kidding, no offense intended.) I would love to have a whole gaggle of kids, I adore my only son, and can't wait to have more.... basically, it's your family, if you want a big one, then more power to ya!

Ariel - posted on 08/07/2010

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large family's are a blessing! don't worry about what others think because no matter where you go in life there will always be at least one person who does not agree.
"Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind, do they really matter?" Good luck and enjoy your family!

Lauren - posted on 08/07/2010

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I have 6 kids and Im only 25. I know exactly what you are going through. I completely ignore the people that have something negative to say about the number of kids we have. I find it sad when I go into store by myself with all 6 of mine and they are on their best behavior and then I see someone with one or two kids that are screaming and yelling for everything. How can someone talk negatively about someone who has "more" kids when they cant even control or take care of the 1 or 2 they have?? People need to mind their own business. They do not live your life and you and your husband and God know what is right for you and your family. Good luck and God bless.

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I'm pregnant with number 3 due in Dec. My best friend has 5 and another friend has 6. I dont see anything wrong with having as many children as you want/can handle. If you cant handle it God must think better of you then you think of yourself! I just pray that you keep your sanity when they all are teenagers! lol Good look and God bless! (Glad you sent your husband to a chop shop mines headed there the end of this week lol)

Brittany - posted on 08/07/2010

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i think people should just mind their own business... i am 23 and my fiancee is 26, we have 3 kids (they are 6,2, and 1) and people always say to us "you must have your hands full" and we always reply "no, we are blessed"... it should be up to you and your husband how many children you want to have. who is anyone else to judge you! i say all the best of luck to you, your husband and your children!!

Summer - posted on 08/07/2010

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I think if you're up for the challenge, then go for it. We're having our 4th boy around Christmas, we'll have 5, 4, 3, and newborn. I came from a family of three, my husband from two. I always said I wanted four, he originally only wanted one, but after our first he wasn't so sure, after our second he wasn't so sure he only wanted two and so on. Trust me we get the crazy looks and we only have three right now... the rude comments, "most places only offer a family four pack you know?" So we'll buy two more, why does it concern you? It's all up to you, if you and your husband are comfortable and your kids are cared for so what, tell them to mind your own business.

Emma - posted on 08/07/2010

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at the end of the day they should keep their thoughts to themselves if you are both happy with how many kids u have then so be it. they aint the ones living your lives its you! congratulation btw :-)

Meg - posted on 08/07/2010

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Just ignore people like that! You have been blessed and EVERYTHING happens for a reason, it is meant for you to have "lucky #7" Congratulations!

Jessica - posted on 08/07/2010

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IMHO, I think it's great if you are a responsible family and do not have to rely on public assistance to maintain your household. There are many communities in my area that tout having many children within families that do not have the resources financially or socially to take care of them. These large families end up on an already taxed public assistance program because they fail or have been failed in sex education and a lack of availability of contraception. When a family is financially and emotionally ready to take on a large family, though, it is a beautiful thing. =)

Jessi - posted on 08/07/2010

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lol just don't start your own reality show! as far as i'm concerned you are absolutely right, it was meant to happen. you and your husband were doing the right thing by using protection while waiting for his procedure. i believe everything happens for a reason. good luck with the new little one!

Rebecca - posted on 08/07/2010

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Funny, we have the exact same life! LOL I just had #7...I was 29 when we found out. Life is crazy, but very fun & exciting. I get a lot of different reactions from people too. Good luck with the pregnancy. :)

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It's crazy but people need to learn to get past things, and not be rude it is the same for Younger moms. I know the feeling I got this when I had my daughter I was a young mom and not out of school, So I understand what you are dealing with. I have 2 kids now, just had my son, and I have a step daughter, and my husband is older than I am, but your going to get looks no matter what. People just need to learn its not their life and they need to keep their thoughts to them self and rude looks and comments too, it isnt called for. ( my hubby is 32, I am 24) we both just had B days. But you just hang in there, life can throw you a curve ball at times you just have to make the best of it.. and Congrats on the new bundle of joy coming....

Priya - posted on 08/07/2010

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The best you can do,,,,,,,IGNORE THOSE PEOPLE! These are the people who don't know how to appreciate and just think they are not lucky as you are to have more kids. If you are happy having more kids then why worry about others. They are always people who likes to talk and talk silly for everything. God created them for fun :). Anyway, enjoy your pregnancy and your motherhood, TAKE CARE :)

Sarah - posted on 08/07/2010

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I'm a mother of two, so far, but would like to have at least a couple more. I think there's nothing wrong with big families. My dad is one of 7 and we all love going to family get togethers. I think people who haven't ever had the experience of big families or even kids are the ones who judge and turn up their noses. So just keep your head up, as long as you're happy you're better off than most.

Donna - posted on 08/07/2010

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It's really none of anyone elses business is it? It's your life, your family...your money? As long as you have the money to pay for 7 kids & the capacity to care for them all, I say good luck to you!

Tah - posted on 08/07/2010

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well...i dont want to be the rude one because it is your decision...i don't agree with people being rude because of it.now i come from a family of 7...but it was of course a different time back then....i am 29 with 3 and to even begin to think of having 4 more makes me nervous..literaly i start shaking...lol...school(for me also, work, band, karate, dance, scouts..etc..for 3 is hard enough..i am a nurse and my husband is navy and this economy sucks even though we make ok money so 3 is plenty to keep us busy and writing checks...but being honest, yes it's a shocker...children are a blessing, if you can take care of them all between the 2 of you then God bless..i guess you all wanted to stop because he was on his way to close up shop...lol..but hey...and i guess you know this by now..you CAN get pregnant while breastfeeding.....lol

Tshanda - posted on 08/07/2010

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Ever family is different. If you can afford it great. No one has the right to be rude to you for it. Shocked maybe. I am always shocked to see more than three kids in a family, but I shock is different. If u can handle it more power to u. I couldn't.

Xiomara - posted on 08/07/2010

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Congratulations! Every child is a blessing. Just because having many children is not necessarily the norm today does not make it wrong! I'm sure you and your husband give your children everything they need. As long as your big family is full of big love, you have nothing to be ashamed about as a mother.

Racheal - posted on 08/06/2010

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No matter what you do or say, somebody always has a better way of doing or saying it, and doesn't mind telling you about it. You are a lucky woman to have that many happy and healthy kids and a husband that is willing to stand in the middle of the crazines!!! As much as I would love it if people would just shut the hell up, i know they won't. Just let it roll off your back and remember that you are blessed. Everyday is a gift and who can't smile at a gift!! Best wishes!!

Britney - posted on 08/06/2010

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i have to just say WOW, you must be a very strong and determined mother. i am in complete awe. i do not think you are crazy at all, if you can take care of them i do not see a problem with it. i have to say there is no way i could do it, i have two and i am running on empty a lot of the time. congrats on your wonderfully large family!!!

Leah - posted on 08/06/2010

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WOW! I just have to say you are truly an inspiration to me! I would love to have more children but my husband is INSISTING we stop at 2. I am a firm believer that its not the amount of money you have, the amount of space you have or whether or not your kids have to wear hand me downs for the rest of their childhood, if they are LOVED, that is what is important! Good luck and please keep us posted as to how it goes!

Natasha - posted on 08/06/2010

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wow, I can't even imagine. It's amazing. I have ONE and wonder how I'm going to do it again because I really want one more. The thing that gets me is how expensive it is. I wish I could have seven.
take it easy :)

Marina - posted on 08/06/2010

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If it works for your family then more power to you I say! If I had enough energy and my body would co-operate I would have 7 kids too =) I think big families are great! People will always have something to say but when all is said and done, it's really none of their business how many kids you have as long as they're loved and well cared for.

Lacye - posted on 08/06/2010

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wow! pregnant with #7. you have been blessed. people should just mind their own business. children are a blessing. plain and simple. if they can't see that then they can go run off a cliff.

Melisah - posted on 08/06/2010

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THATS SO FUNNY IM 29 AND WE HAVE 7 CHILDREN ALSO IM ALWAYS GETTING ASKED WHICH CHILDCARE CENTRE I WORK FOR ...EVERYTIME IM TAKING THE KIDS OUT TO THE PARK OR THE BEACH JUS OUR NORMAL FAMILY OUTINGS, I TELL THEM NO THESE ARE OUR CHILDREN AND THEY ARE AMAZED AND REPLY "OH BUT YOUR SO YOUNG" CRACKS ME UP EVERYTIME : ) DONT WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOUR AN AMAZING WOMAN,MOTHER,WIFE.. BLESS YOU GUYS : ) WELL DONE

Keara - posted on 08/06/2010

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i am one of 10... i have 6 sisters and 3 brothers and it was fantastic!! i love having a big family!! who cares what anyone else thinks... if you and your kids are happy and healthy then that is what matters... look at the 19 kids and counting people, they don't care what people think because they are happy, and if they can do it with 19 or 20 kids, lol, then i'm sure you will be fine!! best of luck to all of you!!

Stephanie - posted on 08/06/2010

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Please, we celebrate a family with 19 kids (and counting), what's the problem with having 7? You have a husband to help you out as well, why do we accept the very single octomom who has what, 14 kids? Keep your head up and don't worry about it. These are probably the same people who have no control over their 2 or 3 kids.

Sarah - posted on 08/06/2010

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First of all GOD BLESS YOU for having to chase, diaper, feed, discipline, educate, clothe, etc, etc, etc 7 children!! I Can barely keep up with two. Anyway, I am one of 7 as well and though it was hectic, loud and most of the time a little crazy it was great. I wouldn't worry about the people out there that give you dirty looks or ask hurtful questions. You are making the home and family that YOU want and you should not listen to what people say about how many children you have or want. If your kids are loved and cared for as they should be the negative comments of others mean nothing and should not worry you at all. Just tell them you are seven times blessed and smile sweetly at them.
Good luck

Katie - posted on 08/06/2010

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I am a first time mom my son is 4 months old : ) If I could I would have a few more kids but my husband only wants one more. I grew up in a big family and I loved it and I would hate for my son to grow up without any siblings.
I think people need to mind their own business, it is ur life and ur choice and if ur happy then no one can bring you down : ) and yes it seems as if this baby was ment to be. I don't think your crazy lol I think the people that have 19 kids are crazy lol
But congrats!!! That is truly amazing, you are blessed: ) becuz some people can't have any kids or have miscarriages and lose their children shortly after birth

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