40 weeks first baby and miserable!

Brittany - posted on 03/26/2012 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I'm 20 years old and my husband and I are expecting our first child. Today is actually 40 weeks. I've been 1.5 cm for about 3 weeks and 90% effaced. My dr I think is an idiot I have to ask her to check me and she never wants to do anything. And just when contractions become regular they stop. I've tried EVERYTHING!! And she wont talk about induction until after 41 weeks! Any other suggestions. I dont feel him coming out anytime soon. =(

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Raquel - posted on 04/10/2012

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It sounds like you have a FABULOUS doctor. Cervical "checks" are useless and only increase the risk of infection. Induction is hell on your body and on the baby. Just relax and your baby will be here within the next week or so.

Kay - posted on 03/26/2012

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Brittany,



I know it is hard--believe me, my youngest was 10 lbs, 8.9 oz, and late, by the end I just wanted to cry--but honestly, a LOT of doctors are against inducing before that timeline. Mine was too, and she actually is the head of gynecology and obstetrics for a major university's medical school, as well as a leading researcher in the field.



Walking is a popular way to naturally induce. It doesn't always work, BUT, it gives you that feeling that you are DOING something, not just sitting around waiting for it to happen (which SUCKS!). It also stimulates natural endorphins, which help you relax, and helps you prepare for labor, which is, as we are all aware, a very physically strenuous activity.



Technically, 40 weeks is a full-term gestation. So you are right on time. It sucks, and waiting is hard for so many reasons!!! But your body--and your baby--know how long to hold on to make sure he (or she) is born happy, healthy, and ready to face the world. Trust them, and try to be patient. Contractions are NORMAL prior to 40 weeks also--they are your body's way of preparing and adjusting itself for when labor also starts. Think of it as a practice run before the race actually begins.



Not being a doctor myself, I don't know if you will need a c-section, and honestly, I wouldn't stress over it at this point. It sounds like you are on track to have a normal delivery, and most likely, you'll see something in the next week or two--and if not, you only have another week to wait before the doc will discuss induction.



Good luck!!!! Keep us posted. :)

CHARMAYNE - posted on 04/11/2012

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Braxton hicks severity is different for us all. But inducing the labour is not good for you our your little one! It prolongs labour. Women have been doing this for centuries before modern medicine. Relax. Every body is miserable this late if not from the beginning of the first trimester. Let nature take its course

Sandie - posted on 04/11/2012

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I have just been given a leaflet on ways to naturally encourage labour, because my son was 2 weeks late and I do not want to go through that again lol.

On the list is this:-

1. Try a long warm soak in the bath, obviously not a hot bath though! It says Jasmine oil will give extra effect

2. Take a long gentle walk, or standing and rocking your hips.

3. Rolling your nipples between your thumb and forefinger, 1 breast at a time for 5-10mins up to
4times a day encourage oxytocin to be released which helps to encourage contractions.

4. Clitoral stimulation also encourage your uterus to contract.

5. Sex, if safe for you to do so.....but it's the sperm you want to soften the cervix, so if you need to get creative, lol.....

6. Rasberry leaf tea

To me this list sounded a bit like how the baby got in there in the first place, haha, so should work on getting the lil one out. Good luck, and remember, baby will come when he/she is good and ready, mine was 15days late, I contracted on and off for three days until they induced me, but he's healthy and happy and I'm doing it all over again now so :) keep positive!!

Rachel - posted on 03/28/2012

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I'm sure it's slightly different in the US. But where I'm from in Canada, they won't induce until 41 weeks, unless there is a medical need for it (I.e. High blood pressure) I'm 40 weeks 1 day with baby #2 and I go for an induction next week, if I don't go on my own prior to that. I've been having irregular contractions since about 32 weeks as well. I thought for sure I'd go early, but here I am still waiting lol. I know it's so difficult, but if there is no medical need for it, avoid an induction.as long as you and baby are healthy (sorry, but being uncomfortable doesn't count as medical. Though, I wish it did!) I would hope they will send you for a non stresst test by 41 weeks to make sure baby isn't under any stress. As long as that comes out okay, there is nothing wrong with waiting until 41/42 weeks.

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Linda - posted on 04/11/2012

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Unless there is an issue with the size of the baby - or a health issue with you, you are not going to get induced until 41 weeks at the earliest. I know its rough, but once that baby is here, that extra week won't have made that big a difference in the grand scheme of things. Let nature take its course and if it doesn't, you'll get induced soon enough.

Gillian - posted on 04/11/2012

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omg, be patient. your baby will come when he is ready. you wont be pregnant forever, and when he comes out and wont stop screaming cause ur feeding him crap formula and not breast milk, you will want to shove him back.

Yelena - posted on 04/10/2012

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I had to hang on till 42, before I got induced. I've tried everything: walking for 3 miles a day, pine apple, eggplant, castor oil, sex... Nothing helped. There is one trick you can try if your husband is up for it and that is nipple stimulation. I have a lab full of OBs and they say the method works, but keep in mind that the stimulation has to continue for at least an hour:-O for it to work, but that is not a guarantee. My hubby was not that open minded:-). Had to get induced - the little guy just didn't want to come out, but oxytocin is the only thing that will bring on the labor, everything else was a waste of time.

Brittany - posted on 04/06/2012

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Thanks for all the comments and suggestions. At 1 am the next morning I went into labor and welcomed our little boy!

Deanna - posted on 03/28/2012

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Doctors won't induced until at least week 41. I know it is hard to wait, but baby may not be ready. The contractions are just Braxton Hicks. Have you tried a long walk? Or driving on a bumpy road? Spicy food? Rubbing the skin between the thumb and trigger finger? Parsley can cause contractions. Sex worked for my first.

At this point it is a waiting game. It can be a long wait. My suggestion is to relax. Baby might not want to come out while you are tense. Ask hubby for a back rub, a foot rub to relax. I swear baby will be here before you know it.

Brittany - posted on 03/26/2012

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We are going through military insurance. so we cant see anybody off base unless our clinic is completely booked and they arent. I've tried to get other dr and even midwives anybody but her. but everyone else is booked except for her (no wonder why) i will try to see if they will approve someone off base because of the circumstances. thanks!

Brittney - posted on 03/26/2012

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Is it possible to check with your insurance and get a different doctor? It sounds like you're going to have to have a c-section as well and be induced, but maybe with someone more experienced or less lazy you wont have to be so stressed about this.

Brittany - posted on 03/26/2012

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My mother had to be induce twice out of her 5 pregnancies. And she had to have all 5 of them c-sections due to big babies. My sister has had two c sections as well due to large babies. but dr still wont budge. They told me before they thought Id go early because hes so big, and still nothing he just keeps getting bigger and bigger.

Brittney - posted on 03/26/2012

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My advice is to get another doctor, most doctors don't think about inducing until 42 weeks. But if you are in pain, nothing can really help you get better until the baby is born. The longer the baby is in there, the more he/she will weigh and the placenta starts to deteriorate and not as many nutrients/oxygen are going to the baby. Talk to your mom, grandmothers, aunts, sisters and ask them if they had to be induced. Most likely if they did, you may have to as well.

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