5 month old night waking AGAIN

Hannah - posted on 10/08/2009

Quoting Brandy:

Quoting Rhonda:

well, he was co sleeping for a while.. UNTIL I started getting slack from family members about how the chance of SIDS increases and stuff.. My dad was telling me how one of his inlaws smothered their child in her sleep and it freaked me out, especially since I had a brother die of SIDS. But of course, if he cries I just pick him up and put him in the bed with me. Bad thing about that is, I cant sleep because Im constantly afraid of killing him..lol. But in the same sense, when he's in the crib Im constantly checking on him making sure he's breathing. SO...its a lose/lose situation...

Well if you check out the statistics on that subject, you can tell them that there are fewer incidences of SIDS in families who co-sleep. I know it will probably be hard to convince them because they have happened to be involved in one of those few incidences but it is your opinion that matters most and if that is what you want to do and you do your research and agree with it, then they shouldn't hold you back.

Please see the Dr. Sears website or Attachment Parenting International website on how to SAFELY co-sleep! yes there are dangers - like rolling over on your child but there are also advantages. This is a decision that each family makes for themselves - but you should make an EDUCATED decision based on your own ideas and research - not on the pressure from your family. 

Brandy - posted on 10/08/2009

Quoting Rhonda:

well, he was co sleeping for a while.. UNTIL I started getting slack from family members about how the chance of SIDS increases and stuff.. My dad was telling me how one of his inlaws smothered their child in her sleep and it freaked me out, especially since I had a brother die of SIDS. But of course, if he cries I just pick him up and put him in the bed with me. Bad thing about that is, I cant sleep because Im constantly afraid of killing him..lol. But in the same sense, when he's in the crib Im constantly checking on him making sure he's breathing. SO...its a lose/lose situation...

Well if you check out the statistics on that subject, you can tell them that there are fewer incidences of SIDS in families who co-sleep. I know it will probably be hard to convince them because they have happened to be involved in one of those few incidences but it is your opinion that matters most and if that is what you want to do and you do your research and agree with it, then they shouldn't hold you back.

Laura - posted on 10/08/2009

i agree with the cry it out method worked for my boys i did this at 3mos or 4.. they sleep like champs now.. its the quickest way i think.. then everyone will get good sleep.. it can be somewhat dangerous to keep him in bed w u esp since hes prob becoming more mobile.. good luck let us know how it goes

Tasha - posted on 10/08/2009

Quoting Samantha:

honestly, the cry it is the best thing you can do. yes it is very hard. but i wouldnt let me son go more then 5 minutes without me going in to calm him and explain to him that this is bed and its bed time and such. it will only take a few days to a week for him to understand it. it will be hard for your fiance but it wont last long.

 

i wish these post had a "like"  or "i agree" button. because i agree with this!!

Rhonda - posted on 10/08/2009

well, he was co sleeping for a while.. UNTIL I started getting slack from family members about how the chance of SIDS increases and stuff.. My dad was telling me how one of his inlaws smothered their child in her sleep and it freaked me out, especially since I had a brother die of SIDS. But of course, if he cries I just pick him up and put him in the bed with me. Bad thing about that is, I cant sleep because Im constantly afraid of killing him..lol. But in the same sense, when he's in the crib Im constantly checking on him making sure he's breathing. SO...its a lose/lose situation...

Hannah - posted on 10/08/2009

Brandy makes a great argument! I won't say that my son and I co sleep - but when he is sick - or teething- he wants to come to bed with me. I don't feel comfortable using hte cry it out at those times. I just want to hug and snuggle when I don't feel good either.

Other times he just wakes up and there is nothing wrong. I give him his paci - rub his back and lay him back down. he may cry for a minute - possibly two, but then he is out like a light.

Brandy - posted on 10/08/2009

I believe in co-sleeping for various reasons. You can search online about Dr. Sears and co-sleeping if you would like to hear more about it and why it is great for you and the child. He could be starting to teethe if he is suddenly changing sleeping patterns or it could be a growth spurt, stress in the household, really there are so many different reasons why a baby can change sleeping patterns. And if you don't feel comfortable making him "cry it out" then don't. There is no really good reason for this. My daughter slept in our bed for the first 6 months of her life. When she was ready, we put her in her crib and had no problem. It doesn't make them too dependant or whiny. My daughter is 17 months now and is the most independent, confidant baby I know and she hardly ever cries or whines about anything. I'm not saying you have to co-sleep if you don't feel comfortable but you don't have to go the hard way if you don't want to either. Besides, if you do decide to sleep with him and it is just teething or something like that bothering him, it might only take a few nights until he is back on track.

Tasha - posted on 10/08/2009

does he take a paci? mine never did but i heard that really helps, maybe you can do the routine check (wet/poopie diaper) and then try giving him the paci. i know as hard as it is the only other thing i know is to let him cry it out because as long as he knows you'll come put him in the bed he will continue to do this. oh, another thing is when mine (i have twin boys) used to cry or come get in my bed i would wait for them to go to sleep and put them back in their bed or either lay on the floor in their room until they would fall back asleep, i would slowly inch my way to the door night by nite and within a week or two they were back to staying in their own room again. this was all happening when they were around 10 or 11 months. (i got the idea from one of the nanny shows that come on tv about staying in their room and then inching my way to the door so that they would at least feel some comfort lol) i know it might sound silly and time consuming but it worked. they will be four on the 14th and have been sleeping in their own room since they started walking around 9 1/2 months. Good luck, i hope some of this works for you. i had even started when they were really little putting a shirt or something with my scent in their crib so they'd smell it and think they were laying on me (surprisingly) that really worked lol

Samantha - posted on 10/08/2009

honestly, the cry it is the best thing you can do. yes it is very hard. but i wouldnt let me son go more then 5 minutes without me going in to calm him and explain to him that this is bed and its bed time and such. it will only take a few days to a week for him to understand it. it will be hard for your fiance but it wont last long.