Abby - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
The father-to-be is very excited and proud about the little girl we're expecting. But his hours keep getting cut at the job he has, (plus he just enrolled for health insurance, so they will start taking that out this paycheck) and he hasn't been very active in trying to get a different/second job. So since I'm currently 7 months pregnant I can't get another/different job (which I would love to but physically can't right now) I've been trying to make him see that since my pay is currently bigger than his (and my employer only offers unpaid leave since I am part-time) and 65% of the bills are paid by my income, that he needs a better or second job, at least until I can get back to work after delivery. I've been bringing home want-ads and sending in his resume for him occasionally (I know I shouldn't). The other night I broke down in front of him with my concerns which he genuinely seemed to understand and take in. I even told him that I will leave him and either move in with a local friend or move back in with my mom (4 hours away from where we live now and a definite last resort) if things don't improve. He knows that he isn't fully responsible, just that he'll need to help out financially a little more. The main issue is that come August I will be returning to classes for my senior year of college at the University of Vermont, and will be getting fewer hours at my job once I am able return to work. Our talk the other day seemed to make him realize how serious I am, but I'm not sure it worked fully and made him understand my concerns as I (and therefore the baby) feel them. Does anyone have advice about making the fire under his butt bigger??