after pregnancy my memory is bad. if i dont write it down i forget is this normal??

Nicole - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 196 moms have responded )

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after i had my son in october my memory is soo bad. i forget everything if i dont write it down. and my husband gets soo mad at me like i am doing it on purpose. is this happening to anyone else???

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Mylene - posted on 01/18/2010

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Hi Guys, here is the explanation about the memory loss.......
Post pregnancy memory loss is not an uncommon disease. It happens with many women. This can occur anytime after pregnancy, but in some cases, it also shows up in the later stages of pregnancy. The reason for this may be many, but there are also ways to fight them and return to the normal life. Some of the basic reasons for this memory loss can be lack of sleep, improper diet, birth, and lactation.

Reasons For Post Pregnancy Memory Loss

Lack of sleep is the most anticipated reason for post pregnancy memory loss, as it reduces productivity and efficiency, thereby, causing restlessness among new moms. This in turn affects the brain's memory power, causing memory loss. In order to avoid this problem, it is recommended to take small naps during the day, as it can do wonders to your memory.

Stress is another challenge that is faced by the new mom, which results in a constant attack on you brain cells, thereby, reducing memory power. To avoid stress, moms should try to relax by watching TV, exercising, or doing yoga. Walking is considered to the best stress buster, in addition to meditation that can do wonders to your body as well as brain.

Improper diet during or post pregnancy life is a major cause of post pregnancy memory loss. Insufficient amount of vital nutrients like Zinc, Vitamin B12, Iron, and folic acid can adversely affect the memory, Iron being the most important of them. Eating healthy food rich in these nutrients like, spinach, legumes, nuts, during pregnancy is very important, as the baby requires these nutrients to grow.

Last but not the least, the other factor responsible for post pregnancy memory loss in the moms is the fluctuation on the hormonal levels during pregnancy, birth, and lactation. The two most important hormones, Cortisol, which is a stress hormone and directly affects the hippocampi, two regions critical for memory functions and Oxytocin, which is a labor inducing and milk injection hormone, are released during labor and delivery. Therefore, more is the labor; more is the chances of these hormones being released, which ultimately damages the hippocampi.

Ways To Improve Memory - Both Now And Post-Pregnancy

In order to overcome this short-term post pregnancy memory loss, moms can use several techniques, which have shown considerable improvement in memory. Some of them have been given below:

Actively recall information while learning.
Periodically, review learned information.
Mnemonics

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That's so funny to hear everyone talk about their memory. I felt like I was going crazy after I had my kids. I'd ask the same question over and over. Someone mentioned that it is normal. That is very true. I have done a lot of research on this. When a baby is developing it takes a lot of Omega 3's that are needed for brain development. If mom doesn't have enough it will take it from her brain. This is why post partum depression occurs as well. I started taking a pharmaceutical grade fish oil. Make sure it's high quality so you don't get any bad stuff. Don't buy it in Wal-Mart or somewhere like that. I use Herbalifeline from Herbalife. You can order it on feelngreatmall.net. This has totally changed my life. If you have fish oil capsules, to test them, put them in the freezer. If they freeze they are not a good one to take. Unfortunately a lot of them are mostly water. Hope this helps some mommies out there. I know how I used to feel and I am so thankful it's not like that anymore.

Kaylene - posted on 01/21/2010

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My memory is terrrible since I have had kids. It's not so much my short term, but I cannot remember anything that happened more than a few days ago. I forget conversations a lot, and trying to remember things from childhood, forget it!

Kobie - posted on 01/21/2010

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it was exactly the same for me with both my children. it felt horrible, but slowly improved. for me it was worse with my first child. when you think about the amazing transformation our bodies have gone through there has to be some side effect lol. my doctor actually told me it was a combination of hormones attempting to get back to normal and the whole new routine our bodies have to get used to. theres late nites, early mornings, broken sleep, producing milk for our babies, stressing about if we are doing everything right, the list is endless. on top of that we have our normal daily pressures, bills, making dinner, house work. if u sit down and actually figure it all out what we manage to do is nothing short of amazing, so my advice- cut urself some slack big deal you forgot the milk, your busy being a mum!! if your partner is that worried maybe he can talk to a doctor who might be able to explain to him how much strain ur body is under at the moment and baffle him with some medical terminology, which is basically going to say that you are completely normal!!!

happy parenting =)

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Sarah - posted on 01/21/2010

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Baby brain. You have 87 things going on at once and a baby going just as many ways. It's easy to forget things, I have the same problem. If it's important, write it down. Anything else, you'll remember eventually. It's normal.

Anneke - posted on 01/21/2010

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I am more absent minded than I was before, as I have a lot to think about now. Your mind does go when you have kids lol I now know why my mum forgets everything now!

Christina - posted on 01/21/2010

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I've had that same problem...It gets worse with each kid you have I think. I forgot things with my first preg. but with my second I REALLY forgot things. I think its getting a little better now but I still forget things alot. I've noticed it with the more tired you are the more I forget. I know my boy friend gets a little upset at time with me on it, but really theres nothing you can do. Make notes and hopefully that helps.

Krystal - posted on 01/21/2010

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I am not sure if it is normal, but yes it happens to me..actually I have two girls and it seems that after my first preg my memory was worse and after the second it was even more gone.. I am not sure how everyone else feels but it is a bit scary sometimes to me. My husbnad thinks I am kidding...

Adel - posted on 01/21/2010

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Yes wel that happens to me too and my husband and I actually have arguments about dat I experienced this only after having my son. I keep a little diary and write down all the important stuff like Birthdays, Anniversaries and so on. Dont worry I know exactly how you feel and I hope it gets better Good luck!

Ninette - posted on 01/21/2010

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I even forget the notes that i put together. LOL. I still have good memory for most of things, but it is not as sharp for minor things.....which my hubby also things it is on purpose

Nicole - posted on 01/20/2010

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Yea, I have problems remembering things as well. Most of the time I am asking the same question to people a second time, mostly to my fiancee. If I don't write things down I will forget too, so you are not the only one !

Florencia - posted on 01/20/2010

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With my first pregnancy i had horrible bad mindlessness. I would be having a conversation with someone and with each word i would forget the last word that came out of their mouth so by the end i wouldn't have a clue what they we're saying. After I had my daughter it continued. I'm sure part of if is because we're overwhelmed with new responsibilities and our new way of life. There's so much more we have to do our brains are just on system overload. It definitely goes back to normal and by then we have a schedule and routine for everything. I don't know if weight has anything to do with this but with my 1st pregnancy I was so sick I lost 30lbs the 1st 6 months and then gained back 60 by the end. I stayed big for almost 2yrs, once i started losing my mind got better with every pound. Once I lost it all my mind felt back to normal again. If you keep having kids only a couple years apart, I'm sure that would be the reason a person would think it keeps getting worse with each one. It's recommended health wise at least 2yrs between each pregnancy from end to start so our bodies can completely heal. After i lost all my weight from being so depressed and stressed because of my unsupportive cheating immature child's father, is when i became obsessed with being healthy and exercising. So I'm sure the right vitamins and food help but that wasn't the case for me, it was either the weight loss or time. I didn't really gain much with my last pregnancy and i didn't really have much change, a little mindlessness, still have it... but i also need to lose the last little bit of weight, I'm still learning my new way of handling life ( baby's only almost 5months), and body and mind still haven't completely healed yet.

Beck - posted on 01/20/2010

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Im suprised by the fact alot of women don't realise how extreemly normal and how easy this is to explain. Forget the hormones, endless lack of sleep, drugs administered during birth, and disruption to your life but think for a moment... Your whole life you have been training yourself how to remember and recall things that effect your life personally (one person), then suddenly you are now required to remember things for two people, then three and so on, their was no pria training for your memory to do these tasks. That is where the answers lay. You now have to retrain your memory, in order to remember things for more then one person. Sometimes you focus on things to remember for the baby/child, and forget things for yourself, other times you focus on remembering things for yourself and forget things for your baby/child/children.



Here is a game you can play with your husband if he doesnt understand...



Right down a list of things for yourself (Only include things that are completely to do with you) that you need to remember and ONE thing that relates to your husband. (Keep the list)

Then without writing them down for him, ask your husband to remember all these things for you.

(Dont tell him though that you are playing this game)

The next day, ask him if he remembers all the things. Dont jog his memory just ask him to repeat them all. See how many he gets right. (keep this to yourself though for now that this is only a game)

One week later ask him if he remembers the things on your list.



You will see he is likely to remember some things, but also forget others, if he remembers his things, you will know he was focussing on himself, and if he gets all of your things and forgets his thing he was foccusing on you.. Then reveal the game to him and say "this is me, and why I have a hard time remembering everything I just have to retrain myself and it would be helpful if you understand that the process takes time".

Brianna - posted on 01/20/2010

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haha i dont know if it's normal but I cant remember anything now! lol I never used to write anything down I could just remember it ALL but now I write everything down!!

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It is normael, alot of the reasons you forget things after you have children is because you are tired.. Lake of sleep or not enough sleep will affect your memory... especially if your a single parent or a stay at home parent.. writing things down helps out a lot and sitting down a little out of the day and just visually remembering things helps out alot, when you are tired drinking coffee or tea will not help with the memory thingm it kinda makes it worse....It will get better after time, it's just like any other routine, you have to get back into it.. You may not have noticed but it actually started sometime while you were pregnant.. thanks

Samara - posted on 01/20/2010

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Honistly sometimes I wonder where my brain is at. I forget everything It doesn't matter if I write it down or not, I still forget it. Get this, the other week I wrote something on my hand as a reminder and I still managed to forget to do it. Today I lost my phone and then found it an hour later where I had left it, Duh?? I thought it was just me but now I don't feel so stupid knowing I'm not the only one out there being forgetful, :D thanx Mums xx

April - posted on 01/20/2010

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I never forgot a THING b4 i had my son. He's now 3 and I still to this day forget EVERYTHING. It's very annoying and frustrating. One thing that you can do to help is to take fish oil. It will really clear your head and help your memory. Fisol is a good one to take. Alot of fish oil can leave you with smelly breathe and burb back some say to refrigerate them and that will also help. But for me the Fisol has worked great and there's no refrigeration needed.

A - posted on 01/20/2010

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it is normal after having a baby.mine lasted about 4 months and slowly got better after that. I attribute it to lack of sleep & exhaustion. I can remember everything about baby- every time hes eaten in the last 24 hrs,how many diapers were wet, etc. but anything else was a blur and I just couldnt focus. I had no brain power. its the stupidest ive ever felt in my whole life.

Kendall - posted on 01/20/2010

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yes, i call it "pregnancy brain" b/c it starts during pregnancy and from what i have been told it does not stop until your kid is pretty independent...ugh

Eboni - posted on 01/20/2010

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I thought it was just me!! After I had my daughter I became very bad at remembering stuff. Now I end up writing everything down so that I don't forget..

Ann - posted on 01/20/2010

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i think its normal i did during and alittle while after my pregnancy and i usually remember everything

Sheena - posted on 01/20/2010

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OMG! I feel so much better reading these! I thought I was losing my mind after I had my son because I couldnt remember things from one minute to the next without posting sticky notes all over the house! And now I know its NOT JUST ME! I have got to tell my fiance because he thought that I either didnt pay attention to him or didn't care about things because I couldnt remember things he's swore he's told me... Now I'm curious to see what happens when we have our nxt child!

Elizebeth - posted on 01/20/2010

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yes. it happened to me while i was pregnant too. i would go to work and i would be able to write anything not even my name.

Stacey - posted on 01/20/2010

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i have the same thing happen i talk to several differnt doctors an other moms an they said its normal so now i keep a pen an paper handy an write everything down

Tirza - posted on 01/20/2010

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After I had my daughter Charlize in July, my memory was terrible too! It still is from time to time, but now my daily planner is my best friend! It's great even after the memory issue goes away!

Barbara - posted on 01/20/2010

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I forget to write things down!!! I've tried carrying a small pad around, which I'll leave behind somewhere, and -of course- forget WHERE I last had it. I've tried taking notes on my phone, but it still doesn't help!!!



What has helped me, however, is to make a to-do list at the beginning of each day, or the night before. The simple act of taking the time to reflect and write things down seems to have helped. ....some....



I think as women, we go from preggo brain, to mommy brain, then just straight to senility!!

Courtney - posted on 01/20/2010

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omg i totally burned water and bottles before!!!! glad im not the only one!

Katy - posted on 01/20/2010

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My mother-in-law says "Memory loss is hereditary... you get it from your children." It's so true. I lose my car keys everyday.

Maxine - posted on 01/20/2010

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I had the same problem after I had my son three years ago, it actually started during my pregnancy. I try to remember things myself but also ask others to help me remember, I also use a day planner now. If I ned to get something done I just do it right away so that I don't have a chance to forget. Repitiion can help, if I thought of something that needed done while I was breast-feeding I would repeat it to myself silently (still talked to my son too).

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When I was pregnant an the year following I had a huge problem remembering Nouns! This is called ANOMIA. It can be caused by hormonal changes in the body. I feel your pain. I make lists and then lose them.

Amber - posted on 01/20/2010

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ur noth the only one i had my son 15months ago and now i have to still make lists to do things! its crazy when i talk ill forget whatim saying! Just write things down, there is NOthing wrong with lists!!!

Jessica - posted on 01/20/2010

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Welcome to "mommy brain"! Over time, it'll get better. I used to have a steel trap memory, but since I got pregnant, I've had to start making to-do lists, leaving myself clues... I've even started a sentence and forgot what I was saying in the middle of it, so I'd just trail off...

I had my little girl in October, and my memory has gotten a little better since I had her, and it's getting better over time. Just work with yourself. Be patient. Tell your husband to look up "mommy brain" or "pregnant brain" so he can see how many women out there are going through it. Maybe he'll understand and not get so darn huffy. It's not your fault!

Robin - posted on 01/20/2010

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You probably have so many things going on right now, and so many things to remember with a new baby, that it is just too difficult to remember them all. Just let your husband know that you are doing your best, and ask him to remind you of things BEFORE it's too late, or to leave you notes. You should buy notepads, and make it convenient to keep a list of "to-do's" and it may help. Good luck! :)

Suzie - posted on 01/20/2010

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it happens to me all the time... i think we have so much going on we just prioritize what is most important and other small things get pushed aside.so i dont think you have a bad memory you just are remembering whats most important. its like any other job you deal with the important tasks first and when you have time you get to the rest. so dont feel bad right now you ahev so much going on its hard to remember the little things it will get better.

Desirae - posted on 01/20/2010

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Have you had your thyroid gland checked? That was a problem for me and I found out I had a thyroid problem. It is common after pregnancy for this disorder if it something that you happen to be carrying the gene.

Crystal - posted on 01/20/2010

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i had a bad memory before my daughter now it is even worse i write it done and i forget were i put it or just polain forget abt the note ifits very important i use post it and put it on my computer or steering wheel of our truck or car

Simone - posted on 01/20/2010

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i am the same, used to be so organised! now i usde my blackberry to remind me of appointments n things i need to do

Kayla - posted on 01/20/2010

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i am the exact same way before i had my daughter i could remember EVERYTHING i could tell someone what they were wearing and the exact spot where they were standing when we had a conversation that was over a year ago but now forget that. I like to call it MOMNESIA, in my opinion i believe that it is pretty normal because it happens to so many people after having kids, i think it stems from having to think for two (or more)instead of just yourself, before having any kids you had just yourself to think for you know like well i put my keys here when i came in the door, but now you cant remember the smallet thing, like where you layed your keys becasue now instead of just laying them down you have to get the baby inside as well as say groceries or other things and your mind is doin a million things at once so the smallest thing is forgotten, but dont worry it is ok to forget things it happens to everyone and the next time your husband forgets something well you will know what to do!!!

Crystal - posted on 01/20/2010

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very common. especially if you have postpardum depression or any other depression.

Kristy - posted on 01/20/2010

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Yeah i was the same, however before i had my son my memory was shocking anyway but after having my son it got worse, i will always forget what i meant to do and get. I remember the first 3 months of having my son and i would have my son in one arm and a glass in the other and automatically drop the glass without thinking or forgetting its there. I think i did that about 4 or 5 times but luckily i have never dropped my son. But yeah i think its normal, but i am a lot better since then though and been just about 2 years ago.

Sarah - posted on 01/20/2010

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Yes...all the time and it's 100% completly normal. It's due to sleep deprevashen,if your breastfeeding you'll be knackered just from that and the bunch of hormones jumping around in your body play with your memory. Your hubby shouldn't be getting angry with you as you have done the biggest and greatest thing your body can do, and its like running 2 marathons. Post it notes are helpful and I use my phone as a reminder too. Don't worry, it gets better. Good luck

Faadhila - posted on 01/20/2010

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Whenever we plan a holiday,i make a list well in advance of everything needed,no matter how small & insignificant it may seem.It really helps!

Deem - posted on 01/20/2010

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This is the case with me as well.....Im soo afriad and worried...Dono what to do...Im eating a lot of things that contain omega 3, this helps to nourish the brain and memory, but its barely working, any suggestions?????

Jade - posted on 01/20/2010

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Same! i used to be able to just put things any where and remember where i put it as well as my partners things. but now its just horrible and i tend to zone out of conversations as well which i feel totally guilty about all the time. but i spose its coz of the horrible sleep.

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