Age gap btween babies
Alex - posted on 08/17/2009
i would want a little gap between them...i have a 2yr old and my ex was talkin bout havn another 1 asap so they close n age but i didnt want to cuz of wut happend w my first 1....i got preg w his kid early on n our relationship so didnt give us much time to get to know each other and do alot more stuff that cupples do b4 they have kids i think thats why we broke up...plus we live n 2 diff states so the long distance thing was very hard 4 the both of us...
Jackie - posted on 08/17/2009
I have a little bit of both ends of the spectrum. My first two are about 2 1/2 years apart and this was good spacing for me. The first one was potty trained when I had the second one, but they were still close enough together that they played together really well. There are 4 1/2 years between my second and third child which is OK, but I've noticed they definitely don't play together as well as my first two did. It's nice because they love to "help with the baby", but at the same time, he gets left out of a lot.
Wendy - posted on 08/17/2009
Mine are 3 and 1/2 years apart, and I really liked the way it worked for me. Spent 3 and a half years with my oldest by himself and then he went to preschool when he was 4 and I had some time with my youngest son by himself. Also, I had a break between years of preschool field trips and such.
Jenni - posted on 08/03/2009
I think you can spend one on one time with them if they're close, too BTW. That's what husbands( or partners) grandparents, friends, nap time, etc etc are for. sometimes I'll have my husband take one of the kids to the grocery store while I stay home with the other one. Then both kids are getting one on one time with a parent. Just one example. :)
Jenni - posted on 08/03/2009
I think it's harder while they are really small if they're close together, but gets easier as they get older. Mine are 21 months apart and I'm glad.
My brother and I are 3 yrs apart and really close and had/have a lot of the same friends. We're totally different but get along great. My husband and his brother are 7 years apart and hardly ever interact. He felt like a babysitter growing up not a friend, and they are not close even though they have a lot of the same interests.
But I was raised to appreciate and care deeply for my brother because my mom's brother died when she was in college. My husband wasn't raised to care for his brother as much, in fact his own mom doesn't speak to her own brother and hasn't for years. So a lot of it has to do with how your raise your kids too IMO.
Either way good luck!
Kristy - posted on 08/02/2009
personally 3-4 years. i just think that when you have the 2nd you can have 1on1 time when the other is at kindy without feeling bad for it, also less chances of relapse with toilet training. my sis and i have 4 yr gap and get on quite well together.
my partner on the other hand is expecting me to "pop" another bubs out asap because he believes they should be less than 3 yrs apart.
overall it also depends on your physical, mental and financial status at the time.
Natalie - posted on 08/02/2009
My girls are 12 months 9 days apart in age.I find it better,I wouldnt say easier but it means as they get older they have each other to play with etc.
My sister has four girls,the first two are two years apart than she has a 4 year gap and then two years between her next two.Ive seen how had it has been for her having a two year old throw things at her baby etc...
Its all up to you but I prefer my girls being closer in age
Oh and I still get to spend alot of one on one time with them individually.
Ashley - posted on 08/02/2009
definitely a gap...i couldnt have them all grouped together #1 id go crazy and #2 you dont get to spend as much individual attention on them the closer they are in age. My son was 3 1/2 when my second was born...he was out of diapers, and pretty independent, which was nice because then he was able to help with small tasks like grabbing the wipies and whatnot. It made him feel like a big boy and was a big help to me. Also when the oldest starts school...it gives you a chance to spend one on one time with the baby during the day and when baby goes to bed early at night youre able to spend one on one time with the oldest. The gap isnt too big though that my boys arent close. Actually at 2 and 5 they are very close. :o)
Claire - posted on 08/02/2009
i had my kids two years apart so far it is great but then my 2 year old is quite independent so i get to spen a lot of time with my baby also as they get older they will stick together with games and parks and stuff so less worry for me x
Amanda - posted on 08/02/2009
I had my kids stair-stepped: my oldest is 6, daughter 4, and the baby is 2. At times, it's like having twins with the older two, fighting and carrying on, but it also helps when it comes to activities, cartoons, likes/dislikes, etc. All three of my children have a close relationship, unlike my sister and myself, who had a five year distance between us. I guess both sides have positives and negatives, but I would definately say that close together is best.
Sarah - posted on 08/02/2009
i wish i had my children closer together. my daughter will be 5 in october and my son just turned 2. not too far apart, but i would have liked to have children one year apart...but seeing as how I was 16 when i had my first I don't think my family would have been too supportive of me having children back to back.
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